D.I.Y. Wellness

Complaining is a normalized part of our culture that leads to more and more misery and suffering. We are told we should not complain but we are also told to suppress hard emotions. So what the heck are we supposed to do with that? In today’s episode you’ll learn: -Why complaining feels so natural even though it leads to misery -The difference between complaining and emotional processing. -A short...

The Anatomy of Happiness: 3 Ways Joy Is Looking For You We’ve been taught to pursue happiness. Its a god-given right according to our constitution and yet we haven’t been taught how happiness works or where to find it. Did you know there are at least 3 types, and unlike humans, they are not all created equal. In today’s episode you’ll learn: -How all 3 types of happiness work -How to align them so...

You Were Meant To Enjoy Your Life I saw a meme the other day that said if you don’t watch the news you are not spiritual. Imagine thinking that the divine intelligence pervading all things will look down on you for not tuning into nightly propaganda disguised as useful information. This kind of thinking emerges from our deep cultural programming that has us convinced that enjoying life is bad char...

Start w/ Rewards; Sometimes Work Can Wait Society says taking breaks is a weakness and getting started and working until it’s all done is virtue. It’s good to finish what you start, right? Don’t quit. Never give up. No pain, no gain. Push until it hurts. Give until you bleed. Whatever the idiom, the message is the same: don’t let up or you’re a pathetic slob. Well, it’s all lies. And it traps us i...

You're Not In Any Trouble We grow up in a culture that has taught us it is more important to avoid punishment than it is to follow our excitement and curiosity. In our homes we don’t want to get grounded. In school we try to avoid detention. At work we hope that idiot boss doesn’t write us up. So we plan for the other shoe to drop, and anxiously do everything we can to avoid it. But the truth...

Self-Acceptance Is A True Badass Flex We are told to work our noes to the grindstone. To give until it hurts. To put others first. Because that’s virtue, right? And to make that pressure even harder to sustain, we are taught to annihilate ourselves emotionally and mentally if we ever get a bit tired or overwhelmed. Because that’s weakness, right? In Today’s Episode You’ll Learn: -Why Self-Acceptan...

We are always taught to seek transformation. To advance, achieve, and attain. That could be money, career, romance or even our health. And while there is nothing wrong with chasing our desires, we mistakenly believe we aren’t complete yet. We chase a future where fulfillment supposedly lives. But the truth is that fulfillment lives in only one place: The Present Moment. In Today’s Episode You’ll L...

Being Anxious During Collapse Is NormalWe always hear about how we can lessen anxiety, or eradicate it. We are told that anxiety is a mental illness, and feeling it means we are sick. But when society is crumbling and institutions are failing, anxiety is a natural response. In today's episode you’ll learn: -The hidden gift inside your anxiety.-Why anxiety makes sense in a world gone mad.-How t...

Beyond Hallmark Cards: Self-Compassion As Felt Experience We hear about self-compassion as part of healing but language fails to capture its essence leading us to believe it means letting ourselves off the hook, bypassing our pain, or being permissive with our worst habits because “we’re doing our best” after all. But self-compassion is none of that.  In today’s episode you’ll learn:  –Why self-co...

With New Year’s upon us we are bombarded with messages about resolutions, and making every second count, and installing better habits and sustainable routines, essentially creating an entirely new and improved version of ourselves. Even with good intentions and earnest pursuit, the journey of self-improvement is, inherently, a journey of self-rejection. Instead, take a journey of self-acceptance,...

The True Meaning of ‘Joy To the World’ And How To Survive the Holidays Safely  We think of Joy as an emotion, a feeling, a cousin of delight. But its far deeper. Joy is the natural ground of existence which reveals itself as we heal trauma and transcend cultural programming. If you doubt this is true, look around at the joy inherent in all of nature and missing in only one place: the human verbal...

By a trick of the mind we tend to believe our beliefs because–well–that’s the nature of them. Research shows that approximately 80% of our core beliefs are formed before age 7 and 95% of cognition is unconscious and automatic. This means only about 5-10% of our belief system is freely chosen. That’s unbelievable. In today’s episode you’ll learn: –How to align our belief system to our current chose...

Are you finding it hard to access joy, calm, or a sense of fulfillment? Do you move from one task to the next in a kind of anxious momentum — part denial, part distraction? If so, you’re not alone. Living in a society driven by relentless productivity, speed, and capitalist values can keep the body locked in Survival Mode. It’s a natural response — and sometimes even useful — but you don’t have to...

Transcending Blame (The True Meaning of Responsibility) Blame is a destructive pattern of energy born of insecure outrage that wants to control everything to feel safe. Responsibility is a constructive pattern of energy born of a desire to take ownership of one’s experience of reality. In today’s episode you’ll learn: -The difference between Blame and Responsibility -The true meaning of responsibi...

Worry is not random, it is mental rehearsal and it follows a definite pattern we can learn to take advantage of. You can use the same pathway that causes anxiety to “worry” constructively and create peace and joy.  In today’s episode you’ll learn: -The 3-stage pattern that we use when we worry and how to break it-How to convert the worry pattern into a creativity pattern -Why intentional mental re...

LIke the new Netflix film depicts, society is a House of Dynamite , ready to explode at the slightest provocation. And that’s what its like in our communities, families and even our own minds too. In today’s episode you’ll learn:  -How our culture, communities and cerebral cortex’s became houses of dynamite  -How to install a pressure release valve so we can channel the explosive energy  -The powe...

The S.H.I.F.T. Method - When Healing Becomes Unstoppable  I discovered tapping (EFT) and internal family systems (IFS) and used them separately for years before stumbling into an integrated practice. Once I combined them and began using them together my whole life started to S.H.I.F.T.  In today’s episode you’ll learn:  -Why The S.H.I.F.T. Method works so well by creating safety and compassionate...

We have learned the concept of “me” and “I” and just assumed that meant we are singular in nature. However the shocking truth about our natural psychological multiplicity may surprise you. In today’s episode you’ll learn:  -Why we, unique among species, have an inner conversation, and why its often nasty -How to turn our inner conflicts into internal conversations  -How to liberate our parts from...

We have been taught to suppress emotions which ends up causing them to overwhelm us, self-sabotage us, physically or biologically rebel on us, or otherwise spectacularly backfire. In today’s episode you’ll learn:  -How to embrace tough emotions like anxiety and despair and the parts of our psyche that generate them -How to use curiosity with compassion to allow our anxious, protective and wounded...

We are taught to put all of our faith in the verbal mind. Find the right answer. Think it through. Mind over matter. But what about when the mind seems to turn on us? In today’s episode you’ll learn:  -How to befriend your mind and give it a name -5 tools for creating distance between you and your thoughts  -Why doubting your mind means having faith in yourself  DIY Wellness airs LIVE every Tuesda...

‘Tapping’ Into Emotional Freedom  Healing from our history is a life long journey that takes us to places we may not have expected and might not always be ready for. Using Energy Psychology techniques can help us unlock stuck energy and drain the emotional charge from long held pain. In today’s episode you’ll learn:  -How Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique, EFT) works to create safety and heal t...

We live in a world that limits our perceptions by convincing us we are only worth what we can achieve. Some of us have had to use achievement as armor to survive. This achievement awareness fundamentally changes the way we see the world and relate to our work, taking the joy out of accomplishment and creating a prison out of productivity. In today’s episode you’ll learn:  -How culture narrows atte...

Bend Reality By Cooperating with What Wants To Happen We are not victims of circumstance. We are not powerless against nature. We are creators of reality and essential parts of nature. Far from being nature’s adversaries, we are stewards of nature, wizards of reality, creative aspects of the one great spirit. In today’s episode you’ll learn: -What science says about how we can influence reality -W...

We have been taught to solve all of our problems by “thinking it through” and if we want to figure something out to “give it some thought,” despite the fact that “thoughts” are the least reliable tool we have for setting our course. In today’s episode you’ll learn: -Why Science & Mystics agree thoughts are mostly nonsense -How we became caught in the Thinking Trap -How to doubt yourself so you...

You can cry for Gaza and still laugh with your kids. Despair and Delight are both sacred, and allowing yourself to surrender to the full range of experience is exactly what the world needs right now.  In today’s episode, you’ll learn: -Why despair is a reasonable response, and how to hold it with compassion -Why hope is a reasonable response, and how to  nurture it with joy  -How to feel the full...