D.I.Y. Wellness

Did you know there is something better than creating win-win situations. The universe speak in this language. This universal flow of energy goes beyond the benevolence and abundance of mere win-win situations. The nature of the universe, the language it speaks in, is the language of the Win-Win-WIN. When the situation is good for both parties AND also somehow makes the environment better for other...

Befriending Your Desires (By Trusting Your Curiosity) The things you desire are not random. They are guidance. The desires of your heart (not the ones installed by culture) are embedded guidance systems with the ability to lead us toward our best life. We just have to know enough to follow where they lead. In today’s episode, you’ll learn:-How to transcend culture’s program and tune into the desir...

Your Desires Are Not Random Desire gets a bad rap in our culture. We are taught to work hard, save rewards for the end, and delay gratification. That’s healthy sometimes. But it has led to the false idea that our desires are secondary, an after-thought, something we can pursue when there is time. But relegating our desires like this is also relegating one of our most potent forms of guidance. In t...

We are so certain that part of feeling better means avoiding the negative emotions and cultivating the positive ones. And that makes sense, logically, but it also happens to be wrong. Feeling better, paradoxically, means embracing and welcoming even the bad feelings. Telling ourselves the truth is powerful, and it leads to freedom. In today’s episode, you’ll learn:-How avoidance became so popular...

Cultivating Inner Friendship: A Life Long Practice Culture has certain rules. Unspoken rules that force us into a paradigm of competition. Get the best grades. Come in first. Get ahead. Dog eat Dog. So we adopt this competitive mentality internally too and never find the place of inner friendship that leads to thriving. In today’s episode, you’ll learn:-How are parts learned to become enemies inst...

If you grew up in chaos then you learned through experience that hyper-vigilance is the best way to stay safe. It was true at one point, back then, but hyper-vigilance as a way of life actually becomes dangerous: to our health, peace and longevity. In today’s episode, you’ll learn:-How Hypervigilance was a brilliant survival strategy when we were young-The danger of remaining chronically hypervigi...

Going At the Speed of My Slowest Part We have learned to push so hard that we burn out as a form of virtue. Expressions like “work ourselves to the bone” register as normal, when in fact that would be painful and crazy to do. Paradoxically, the way to make progress is not to drag, coax, convince, or force. Its cooperation. Relationship. Befriending. In today’s episode, you’ll learn:-How we learned...

Don't Cancel Yourself, Try Kindness Instead We have been taught to give ourselves a hard time when we make mistakes. Culture has conditioned us to believe that failure is bad, but the truth is failure is just feedback. I had two instances in the last week where I put my foot in my mouth and felt horrible. But I remembered to interrupt the pattern, and I chose self-grace instead. In today’s epi...

Making Friends with Your Inner Saboteur We’ve been told that if you do the inner work you will find lasting peace and happiness and your life will start to unfold according to the divine (and we think that means simple and easy) plan for your life. The truth is once you embark on the healing journey, you are on it for life. It is not linear and your old patterns can sneak up on you with no warning...

Complaining is a normalized part of our culture that leads to more and more misery and suffering. We are told we should not complain but we are also told to suppress hard emotions. So what the heck are we supposed to do with that? In today’s episode you’ll learn: -Why complaining feels so natural even though it leads to misery -The difference between complaining and emotional processing. -A short...

The Anatomy of Happiness: 3 Ways Joy Is Looking For You We’ve been taught to pursue happiness. Its a god-given right according to our constitution and yet we haven’t been taught how happiness works or where to find it. Did you know there are at least 3 types, and unlike humans, they are not all created equal. In today’s episode you’ll learn: -How all 3 types of happiness work -How to align them so...

You Were Meant To Enjoy Your Life I saw a meme the other day that said if you don’t watch the news you are not spiritual. Imagine thinking that the divine intelligence pervading all things will look down on you for not tuning into nightly propaganda disguised as useful information. This kind of thinking emerges from our deep cultural programming that has us convinced that enjoying life is bad char...

Start w/ Rewards; Sometimes Work Can Wait Society says taking breaks is a weakness and getting started and working until it’s all done is virtue. It’s good to finish what you start, right? Don’t quit. Never give up. No pain, no gain. Push until it hurts. Give until you bleed. Whatever the idiom, the message is the same: don’t let up or you’re a pathetic slob. Well, it’s all lies. And it traps us i...

You're Not In Any Trouble We grow up in a culture that has taught us it is more important to avoid punishment than it is to follow our excitement and curiosity. In our homes we don’t want to get grounded. In school we try to avoid detention. At work we hope that idiot boss doesn’t write us up. So we plan for the other shoe to drop, and anxiously do everything we can to avoid it. But the truth...

Self-Acceptance Is A True Badass Flex We are told to work our noes to the grindstone. To give until it hurts. To put others first. Because that’s virtue, right? And to make that pressure even harder to sustain, we are taught to annihilate ourselves emotionally and mentally if we ever get a bit tired or overwhelmed. Because that’s weakness, right? In Today’s Episode You’ll Learn: -Why Self-Acceptan...

We are always taught to seek transformation. To advance, achieve, and attain. That could be money, career, romance or even our health. And while there is nothing wrong with chasing our desires, we mistakenly believe we aren’t complete yet. We chase a future where fulfillment supposedly lives. But the truth is that fulfillment lives in only one place: The Present Moment. In Today’s Episode You’ll L...

Being Anxious During Collapse Is NormalWe always hear about how we can lessen anxiety, or eradicate it. We are told that anxiety is a mental illness, and feeling it means we are sick. But when society is crumbling and institutions are failing, anxiety is a natural response. In today's episode you’ll learn: -The hidden gift inside your anxiety.-Why anxiety makes sense in a world gone mad.-How t...

Beyond Hallmark Cards: Self-Compassion As Felt Experience We hear about self-compassion as part of healing but language fails to capture its essence leading us to believe it means letting ourselves off the hook, bypassing our pain, or being permissive with our worst habits because “we’re doing our best” after all. But self-compassion is none of that.  In today’s episode you’ll learn:  –Why self-co...

With New Year’s upon us we are bombarded with messages about resolutions, and making every second count, and installing better habits and sustainable routines, essentially creating an entirely new and improved version of ourselves. Even with good intentions and earnest pursuit, the journey of self-improvement is, inherently, a journey of self-rejection. Instead, take a journey of self-acceptance,...

The True Meaning of ‘Joy To the World’ And How To Survive the Holidays Safely  We think of Joy as an emotion, a feeling, a cousin of delight. But its far deeper. Joy is the natural ground of existence which reveals itself as we heal trauma and transcend cultural programming. If you doubt this is true, look around at the joy inherent in all of nature and missing in only one place: the human verbal...

By a trick of the mind we tend to believe our beliefs because–well–that’s the nature of them. Research shows that approximately 80% of our core beliefs are formed before age 7 and 95% of cognition is unconscious and automatic. This means only about 5-10% of our belief system is freely chosen. That’s unbelievable. In today’s episode you’ll learn: –How to align our belief system to our current chose...

Are you finding it hard to access joy, calm, or a sense of fulfillment? Do you move from one task to the next in a kind of anxious momentum — part denial, part distraction? If so, you’re not alone. Living in a society driven by relentless productivity, speed, and capitalist values can keep the body locked in Survival Mode. It’s a natural response — and sometimes even useful — but you don’t have to...

Transcending Blame (The True Meaning of Responsibility) Blame is a destructive pattern of energy born of insecure outrage that wants to control everything to feel safe. Responsibility is a constructive pattern of energy born of a desire to take ownership of one’s experience of reality. In today’s episode you’ll learn: -The difference between Blame and Responsibility -The true meaning of responsibi...

Worry is not random, it is mental rehearsal and it follows a definite pattern we can learn to take advantage of. You can use the same pathway that causes anxiety to “worry” constructively and create peace and joy.  In today’s episode you’ll learn: -The 3-stage pattern that we use when we worry and how to break it-How to convert the worry pattern into a creativity pattern -Why intentional mental re...

LIke the new Netflix film depicts, society is a House of Dynamite , ready to explode at the slightest provocation. And that’s what its like in our communities, families and even our own minds too. In today’s episode you’ll learn:  -How our culture, communities and cerebral cortex’s became houses of dynamite  -How to install a pressure release valve so we can channel the explosive energy  -The powe...