Divorced Dads of America: The Rebuild

Jon Gordon almost got divorced. Lost his job. Lost his ego. Lost everything except his marriage — and nearly lost that too. Today one of the most influential voices in the world sits down with Anthony to talk about what guilt and shame are actually doing to divorced dads, why forgiveness unlocked 33 books worth of purpose, and why the size of your apartment has nothing to do with the size of your...

A dad jumped on the free Monday night call this week. Six bedroom house — gone. Kids have everything at his ex's. He's in a small apartment wondering if he's the lesser option. Anthony's been there. Driving Lyft so his kids could eat. Living with his parents. Feeling like life was over. This episode is for that dad — and for every divorced dad carrying shame about what he can't...

The whole magic of fireworks is watching your kids' faces. When they're not there — the holiday hits different. In this episode Anthony gets honest about what the 4th of July actually feels like without your kids, why your brain pulls you back to what no longer exists, and the system he uses to go on offense before the hard day arrives. Plus the Positive Menu — the framework that replaces...

Kristin Cavallari said her divorce was the best thing she ever did. No settlement. Half the time with her kids. Built everything from scratch. If you're in the middle of your divorce right now — or still rebuilding on the other side — this episode is the rope. Anthony breaks down what the research actually says about what divorce does to your brain and your body, the three things that move the...

You already know. You've known for a while. But that 1% — that tiny sliver of hope that maybe it turns around — is the most expensive thing you're carrying right now. In this episode Anthony breaks down the neuroscience of why smart, capable divorced dads stay stuck even when they know the truth, what that 1% is actually costing you, and the exact audit that helps builders move while drift...

The 2am spiral is one of the most common things divorced dads deal with — and almost nobody talks about what to actually do when it hits. In this episode Anthony introduces the Dream Protocol: a structured approach to what you do before you sleep, when you wake up in the middle of the night, and the first ten minutes of the morning. Practical, science-backed, and built for the dad who is tired of...

When the divorce was done, Adam Allred had his old truck, garbage bags full of clothes, and three kids half the time. No money. Buried in alimony and child support. Living in his grandma's attic. Every morning he woke up sick to his stomach. Every night he went to bed not wanting to live. Today he's one of the most direct, no-excuse voices for men in the country — remarried, five kids, mul...

This week two questions that look different on the surface — and hit the same place underneath. A dad who wanted to run away from his entire life. And a dad who makes good money and still feels financially suffocated every month. Anthony unpacks both honestly — including a real conversation that changed everything for a dad who was in the darkest place. If you are in that place right now, this epi...

Rumination doesn't go away — but it can become a decision. In this episode Anthony introduces the 2 Door Theory: the framework that turns an unconscious loop into a conscious choice. If you've been walking into the same room for months, this episode shows you where the second door is. → Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: forms.gle/B39jxeMNwfq9ZJqv8 → Join the free A.S.C.E.N.T.™ community on Skool...

Father's Day is this Sunday. Most divorced dads are waiting to be honored. This episode flips that. The challenge: write one letter to each of your kids before Sunday — not a text, a letter. Three things only. Anthony reads from his own letter on air and walks you through exactly what to write, whether you have your kids this weekend or not. → Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: forms.gle/B39jxeMNwfq9Z...

One text. That's all it takes. Everything you built — the routine, the peace, the progress — gone in seconds. And across town, a dad is driving his teenage daughter to her third activity of the week in complete silence, wondering if he even exists to her. Both of these dads are losing ground they can't afford to lose. This Wednesday — Anthony gives them both something they can use today. Q...

The math didn't work. The savings were gone. The income was gone. The options were gone. On the same day Anthony signed his divorce papers he was laid off from his six figure job — the exact number everything in the agreement had been calculated against. His lawyer told him the savings was for a rainy day. This was the rainy day. What happened next is not a hustle story. It's not a strateg...

At 24 years old, Dominic Ciambrone was making shoes for Justin Bieber. Twenty pairs. Less than a week. He said yes. What happened next — a manic episode, a window, a hospital bed, a bipolar diagnosis — wasn't the story anyone was telling about the kid who turned a grandmother's sewing machine into one of the most sought-after custom shoe studios on the planet. But it's the story that changed every...

She's gone. But she's still in your head — in the car, at the store, every time you pass that place. Every time your mind loops back to her you lose energy, focus, and peace. And the harder you try to stop thinking about her — the louder it gets. In this episode Anthony unpacks the real reason divorced dads can't stop thinking about their ex — and it's not what you think. It's...

You're a hard worker. Always have been. And right now you're working harder than ever — and nothing is moving. What if your greatest strength is exactly what's keeping you stuck? In this episode Anthony shares the three questions his coach asked him that hit like right hand hooks to the face — and the realization that his work ethic, his greatest gift, had become his most sophisticated...

He never met his father. His mother was murdered when he was a baby. By eleven he was gang banging. By fourteen he was selling crack. Today LaMorris Crawford walks the sidelines of the NFL as team chaplain for the Carolina Panthers — and he has spent his life becoming the father he never had. In this episode Anthony sits down with his friend of decades for one of the most raw and real conversation...

You've been fighting to get out of this season as fast as possible. More hustle. More control. More grinding. And nothing is moving. In this episode Anthony shares the moment pounding his steering wheel — broke, alone, pissed — and the image of his baby daughter that finally cracked the code. The fighting isn't the solution. It's the problem. — Why control is just fear with a productiv...

Every divorced dad says his kids mean everything to him. So why doesn't he do everything? In this episode Anthony shares the story of a dad in The Climb who drove past the same store every single day — and the four-gate framework that finally sealed the hole. Because love without a system gets demolished by the first trigger that hits. — Why willpower alone will never break a habit loop— The n...

He had everything. Billy Graham's grandson. Lead pastor of a massive church. Books. TV. Radio. Conferences. A rising voice in the evangelical world. A life that looked, from the outside, like it was exactly what it was supposed to be. Then in the spring of 2015, it all went public. The marriage. The infidelity. The collapse. Publishers canceled. Fifty-two speaking engagements gone in 48 hours. The...

You know why things are the way they are. The ex. The courts. The timing. The loss. And you're right about most of it. But what if being right about what happened to you is exactly what's keeping you stuck? In this episode Anthony shares the mentor question that changed everything — and unpacks the Extreme Ownership and Obstacle Is the Way principles that apply to divorced dads more direct...

You've been trying to get fatherhood right. The rules. The schedule. The perfect environment. And the harder you try — the further they drift. In this episode Anthony unpacks the single shift that changed everything in how he shows up for his kids after divorce — and why the pursuit of perfect fatherhood is the enemy of present fatherhood. — Why over-controlling the environment makes kids weak...

At 11pm, after the kids are gone and the house is quiet, divorced dads write things they can't say out loud. Anthony has been reading those posts. The ones buried in comment sections. The ones in the corners of the internet nobody talks about. The anger. The guilt. The shame. The men who are running out of reasons to believe it gets better. And he thought — somebody needs to answer these men. Not...

Two questions. Both about what you do with what's left. Every Wednesday Anthony takes real questions from divorced dads in the rebuild. This week — what to do with the old photos that keep wrecking you, and how to figure out who you're supposed to become when the stress has buried every dream you ever had. Q1: "I don't know what to do with the old photos. Every time I see them it...

You've been calling it stress. Anxiety. Depression. Consequences. It's grief. And the reason you can't heal is because you won't call it what it is. In this episode Anthony shares the moment a family photo on his phone broke him open — and the realization that changed everything about how he approached his own rebuild. After 95 episodes, this is the one he's never recorded. The...

You're going to the gym. Reading your Bible. Showing up to the men's group. From the outside you look like a man in recovery. But what happens on Saturday night? What are you editing before you walk into every room that's supposed to help you? What's happening backstage while the performance looks perfect out front? In this episode Anthony shares the most honest version of his own...