James Carter & Sonay Erten
Divergently Married
Join Sonay and James as they invite us into their unique world as an autistic and ADHD married couple. Using their lived experiences of ADHD and autism, they talk about life, love and everything in between. Sonay is a lawyer, ADHD coach and speaker and James is an early 40s techie and part-time geology student. Join them for an authentic journey through life as Divergently Married. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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James Carter & Sonay Erten
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Latest episode
May 12, 2026
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Episodes
Babies, Elections and Changes. Lots of Changes. 12.05.2026 59:01
We're back once again, but not with the ill behaviour. Sorry for the hiatus, we seem to have a lot of these. It's a big update of an episode, where we talk about parenthood, elections, and a lot more things besides. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Pregnancy, mental health and looking forward 02.11.2025 53:12
Sorry again for the intermittent nature of this podcast, but with the year we've had, can you blame us? Redundancy, pregnancy... yeah, it's a lot. Either way, we're getting off to a new start now, into Season 3! Sonay talks more about her pregnancy, mental health challenges, RSD, boundary setting, what we've been watching, and our news segments. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more info...
Baby Stuff, more Baby Stuff, and our Regular Features 16.09.2025 54:19
Sorry, we know, it's been a hot minute or two, but life is life and we do these as best we can. In our latest episode, we're talking scans, more news, self-advocacy, and what we've been watching on TV. James also manages to shoehorn in some references that others might not get. It's been a long road... so to speak. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Divergently Being Goes on Holiday... Again! 30.07.2025 1:22:57
Sorry we've been so quiet of late, a lot's been going on. And we'll tell you all about it in this latest episode where we talk about our Italian holiday, talk some more about pregnancy, and delve into the news again. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We Have an Announcement - Huge, the Biggest! 20.06.2025 24:48
In this episode, Sonay and James discuss James' recent trip to Morocco for his degree, and tell you all why they've been kind of quiet of late... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Registries, RSD, and Rhubarb: Fighting Ableism and Finding Joy 15.05.2025 30:19
In our latest episode, we expose ableist policies in the US and UK, from RFK Jr’s registry proposal to Amnesty International’s report on the DWP’s cruelty. We discuss RSD for loved ones, fighting injustice, and find a little hope in rhubarb and small victories. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Autism in Girls, ADHD Intuition, and RSD: Diagnosis, Burnout & Breaking the Mask 14.04.2025 43:33
In this episode, Sonay & James dive into the underdiagnosis of autism in girls, explore the blurred lines between RSD and intuition, and share personal insights on burnout, masking, and executive dysfunction. Plus, PIP frustrations, Gladiators nostalgia, and Sylvie the cheeky dog. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Fake News, Welfare Blues, and the Fear of Speaking Up: Navigating RSD & Self-Advocacy 24.03.2025 47:21
Sonay and James tackle damaging anti-neurodivergent rhetoric, dissect concerning UK welfare reforms impacting disabled communities, take their usual RSD dive, particularly the anxiety of expressing personal needs without triggering others. Plus, they discuss neuroinclusive workplaces, share personal workplace horror stories, and offer an update from the allotment. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/pr...
Birthdays, Benefits, and Battling Bravely: Welfare Cuts & the Reality of RSD 13.03.2025 55:50
Sonay and James discuss controversial welfare cuts affecting disabled communities, celebrate personal milestones, explore people-pleasing as a trauma response, and share exciting allotment news. We've also got our usual news and RSD segments, so listen on. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
PIP, Politics & People Who Just Don’t Get It 19.02.2025 46:47
In our latest episode, we discuss working from home, Sonay's PIP assessment, what we think of Kayne West's autism diagnosis, and other things besides. We've also got our usual news and RSD segments, and also a bit of news about how the NHS wants to take away Right to Choose. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Will We Ever Stop Talking About RSD? 05.02.2025 37:39
In this eighth episode of season 2, we dive into the latest (depressing) ADHD life expectancy research, question whether RSD is actually CPTSD, and uncover the shocking truth that the Autism Act exists. We also analyse whether The Big Bang Theory accidentally nailed meltdowns and, as always, go off on a well-earned government rant. Because if the system won’t advocate for us, you know we will. Hos...
Beeping means I’m happy, and I'll have the same table, thanks 21.01.2025 46:20
In this seventh episode of season 2, we tackle the joy of echolalia, the misery of RSD, and the absurdity of object permanence (yes, it’s real). We also unmask a little, rant about TV stereotypes, and review Patience – because we’re nothing if not thorough. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Recaps, RSD & Unmasking: Wrapping Up 2024, Looking Ahead to 2025 31.12.2024 57:57
In this sixth episode of season 2 and the final episode of the year, we look back at 2024 and ahead to 2025, discuss some good news, unpack some more RSD and unmasking moments, and share personal highlights before setting new goals for the podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Why boundaries matter and how to deal with burnout 09.12.2024 55:57
In the fifth episode of the second season, we're taking a look at boundaries and burnout. This time, we've only got the tiniest mention of politics, we talk about good news for a change, and Sonay shares her struggles in her RSD segment. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
It’s Not Me, It’s Definitely You: RSD Strikes Again 28.11.2024 55:19
In the fourth episode of the second season, we take another look at RSD. James wanted to call it RSD 2, Electric Boogaloo, but this was outvoted by Sonay and Sylvie. James suspects electoral fraud. In this episode both James and Sonay talk about RSD, when travel goes right for a change, minimal mentions of politics, why we need International Men's Day, and much, much more. Hosted on Acast. See aca...
The week everything changed 12.11.2024 49:05
In the third episode of the second season, it's all politics again. Over seven days, seemingly everything changed, and not for the better. We've got the budget, the US election, and the new Tory party leader all under discussion. Oh, and James gets annoyed at Bake Off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Let's talk about... talking 25.10.2024 41:25
In the second episode of our new season, we're talking all things communication. Communication styles, verbal and written, as well as talking about transactional analysis. Plus we have our usual RSD segments, James tries to avoid getting worked up over something, and what's got Sonay giggling this week. Listen in to find out more. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Let's get emotional! 11.10.2024 47:48
It's a new season! We're talking emotions, our usual RSD segment, and The Circle. Also, what sets James off this time? Can you find where the dog interferes with our recording? Listen in to find out how. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Happy birthday to us!! 29.09.2024 42:58
It's our birthday! In this episode, we take a look back through our earlier episodes, listen to each other getting the giggles, and think about what the future hold for Divergently Married. Listen in also for our usual news and RSD segments, and our visit to the Green Party conference. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
What's love (languages) got to do with it? 11.09.2024 40:06
This week, we're talking about love languages, haircuts, politics (again), as well as our usual news and RSD segments. We also manage to say something positive about travel, for a change. Sonay got the giggles again, but what was it that set her off in a flap this time? Grab your beverage of choice, sit down and have a listen. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We're back... AGAIN! 29.08.2024 41:37
In this episode, we talk about the Olympics, Olympians with ADHD, how stress can make you ill, how travelling can really go wrong, and how Sylvie is doing. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Sonay gets the giggles 16.07.2024 46:33
As you can guess by the title, Sonay got the giggles, but James didn't. Still, in this episode, James and Sonay try to get through the usual RSD segment, the election day itself and the day after, what we've been watching recently, and an update on the hairiest member of the team, Sylvie. But what was it that set Sonay off? Have a listen, and find out. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for mo...
The Last One Before The Election 02.07.2024 42:48
Unlucky for some, but business as usual for others. In episode 13, Sonay and James go through the manifestos of the seven main parties, talk about boundaries, safe foods, and Pride. Which party wins on neurodiversity? What food does James absolutely hate? Find out in this episode. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
OMG I married Sheldon! 13.06.2024 49:41
What do Sonay and James think about the upcoming election and idea of compulsary national service? What is the difference between co-regulators and co-dependent? Find out in this episode along with RSD segment of the episode and discussions on watching sports, telephone calls and who identifies most with Sheldon from Big Bang Theory. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
I REALLY hate flying 26.05.2024 52:26
It's episode 11, alongside the regular segments of the regular segments on a recent story of the episode and RSD thought of the episode, Sonay and James talk about the struggles they have when travelling following their most recent experiences. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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