Desire Dialogues

Is it normal to not think about sex? If you've ever wondered why you don't think about sex as often as you think you "should," you're not alone. Many people quietly worry that because they rarely crave sex, rarely initiate, or don't walk around thinking about it all day, something must be wrong with them. But what if that's not true? In this episode of Sex Ed for Adul...

What if your libido isn't the problem... your body is simply asking for something it hasn't been getting? When conversations around desire happen, we often jump straight to hormones, communication, or the bedroom. But what if your metabolism, stress levels, sleep, and overall health are playing a much bigger role than you realize? In this episode of Desire Dialogues, I'm joined by Mist...

Why do some people struggle with orgasm? And does it mean something is wrong with them? In this episode of Sex Ed for Adults, we're talking about one of the most common and most misunderstood questions people quietly wonder about: "Why can't I orgasm?" If you've ever wondered: ✨ Why orgasm seems easier alone than with a partner ✨ Why it takes you longer than you think it &q...

Is it normal to need lube? Short answer? Yes. In this episode of Desire Dialogues, sex and relationship coach Lauren Goyette explores one of the most common questions adults quietly wonder about. We'll talk about: 💚 Why lubrication and desire are not the same thing 💚 Why wetness and arousal don't always match 💚 The role stress, hormones, medications, menopause, and life play in lubricat...

Menopause impacts so much more than hot flashes and sleep. For many women, it changes: ✨ desire ✨ intimacy ✨ body connection ✨ energy ✨ emotional openness ✨ arousal and responsiveness And yet almost nobody talks honestly about it. In this episode, we’re talking about menopause, sexuality, emotional identity shifts, nervous system changes, and how desire often evolves .... not disappears duri...

A lot of women hit a point where intimacy starts feeling different… and immediately assume something is wrong. But most women were never actually taught what happens to the body as we age... especially when it comes to desire, arousal, lubrication, sensitivity, and pleasure. In this episode, we’re talking about: ✨ arousal and blood flow ✨ hormonal shifts ✨ why desire changes over time ✨ sensit...

Sometimes the issue isn’t attraction. Sometimes your body just… shuts down. In this episode, we’re talking about why bodies disengage during intimacy, how stress and nervous system states impact arousal, and why your body may stop responding when sex feels rushed, pressured, emotionally disconnected, or performative. We’ll cover: ✨ nervous system states and arousal ✨ why your body may “pull back...

Why are we wildly attracted to some people… and feel absolutely nothing for others? Attraction can feel mysterious, emotional, even irrational sometimes. But psychology and neuroscience have actually uncovered several patterns that help explain why certain people pull us in emotionally, mentally, physically, and sexually. And honestly? Most adults were never taught any of this. In this episode of...

Ever feel mentally present during sex… but physically disconnected? Like you want to be there, but your body just isn’t fully responding? In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most common experiences women have during intimacy: feeling distracted, disconnected, numb, performative, or “meh” during sex — and why it’s often NOT a libido issue. We’re diving into: ✨ performance vs presence...

So here’s the deal: a lot of adults were taught reproduction in school… but not attraction. Not desire. Not nervous systems. Not how relationships actually function in real life. And one of the biggest misunderstandings couples experience? Initiation. Because people assume initiation is simple: “If someone wants intimacy, they’ll just ask.” Except real life is usually much messier than that. Peopl...

Pt. 6 In this episode of Sex Ed for Adults, we’re talking about something almost no one explains well: 👉 Why your desire changes over time… and whether that’s actually normal. If you’ve ever felt like: * your libido isn’t what it used to be * your desire comes and goes * or you “should” want sex more than you do this episode will help you understand what’s really happening & why nothing is wr...

Most couples don’t struggle because they don’t love each other. They struggle because nobody ever taught them how to talk about intimacy, desire, rejection, emotional safety, and connection in healthy ways. In this free workshop, sex and relationship coach Lauren Goyette explores: ✨ why intimacy conversations feel so emotionally loaded ✨ common communication patterns that create distance ✨ resp...

Most people think desire starts in the body. But the truth is that your brain is your most powerful sex organ. In this episode of Desire Dialogues, we explore the psychology of desire and how your thoughts, fantasies, emotional patterns, and relationship dynamics influence arousal. Understanding how your mind works can unlock deeper pleasure, stronger connection, and a more confident relationship...

Most of us grew up hearing a lot of confusing and contradictory messages about sex. From school programs to media portrayals to cultural expectations, many people were taught beliefs about sexuality that simply aren’t accurate. In this episode of Desire Dialogues, we break down some of the most common myths about sex and intimacy and explore what science, psychology, and real relationship experien...

Can long distance relationships actually work? Absolutely...but not on love alone. In this episode of we’re talking about what truly helps long distance couples stay emotionally connected, sexually alive, and deeply committed...even when miles apart! Because distance doesn’t ruin relationships. Disconnection does. Inside this episode, we cover: ✨ The biggest mistakes long distance couples make ✨...

Most adults never learned how pleasure actually works. Traditional sex education focused on pregnancy prevention and STI awareness, but very little about arousal, communication, and how our bodies experience pleasure. In this episode of Desire Dialogues, we take adult sex education to the next level and explore advanced ideas about pleasure, body awareness, and sexual confidence. Topics we explore...

Adult Sex Education Part 2: Responsive Desire, Erotic Energy & Better Orgasms Most of us never received real sex education. We were taught about pregnancy prevention and STIs, but very little about pleasure, desire, or how our bodies actually experience arousal. In this episode of desire Dialogues, we continue our Sex Ed for Adults series with a deeper dive into how desire and pleasure really...

Dry spells happen in almost every long-term relationship. But when intimacy goes quiet, most couples assume something is wrong. They wonder if attraction is gone. They wonder if their relationship is broken. They wonder if the spark just… disappeared. The truth is much less dramatic and far more hopeful. Desire doesn’t vanish randomly. It fades when stress builds, when emotional closeness gets rep...

One of the most painful dynamics in relationships happens when partners experience different levels of sexual desire. One partner wants sex more often. The other partner seems less interested. Over time this can create confusion, pressure, rejection, and emotional distance. The higher-desire partner may feel unwanted. The lower-desire partner may feel pressured. And intimacy slowly turns into a so...

Most of us never received real sex education. Instead we learned about pregnancy prevention, STIs, and a lot of awkward silence around pleasure. But understanding your body, your desire, and your communication around intimacy is essential for healthy relationships and fulfilling sex. In this episode of Desire Dialogues, we explore the sex education most adults never received. You’ll learn: • why p...

Every couple argues. Even the happiest, most connected relationships experience conflict. The real question isn’t whether you fight It’s what happens after the fight* In this episode of Desire Dialogues, sex, love, and relationship coach Lauren Goyette explores the missing skill most couples were never taught: *how to repair after conflict*. Because unresolved arguments don’t just create tension i...

Have you ever wondered what happens when your desire disappears? Maybe it faded slowly through stress, burnout, or relationship strain. Maybe it vanished after a life transition like motherhood, grief, trauma, or hormonal changes. Or maybe one day you realized it had simply been… gone. In this episode of Desire Dialogues, sex and relationship coach Lauren Goyette explores the truth about sexual dr...

📌 The Best Time of Day for Sex (Backed by Science) 📌 Morning vs Night Sex: When Your Body Actually Wants It 📌 Your Libido Has a Clock — Here’s When Sex Feels Best In this episode of Desire Dialogues, relationship and pleasure coach Lauren Goyette explores the science behind libido timing, circadian rhythms, and hormone cycles to help you understand when your body is naturally primed for intimac...

Why Do Good Relationships Feel Lonely Sometimes? There’s a question many women carry quietly: “I love my partner. We’re stable. We’re safe. So why do I still feel alone sometimes?” In this episode, we explore the kind of loneliness that shows up inside GOOD relationships, not toxic ones, not chaotic ones, not obviously broken ones. The steady ones. The secure ones. The ones that “should” feel fulf...

Most couples think intimacy fades because attraction disappears. But that’s rarely the real reason. Connection fades when couples stop creating the small rituals that keep them emotionally and physically close. The couples who stay deeply connected long-term aren’t the ones who never struggle. They’re the ones who have simple habits that bring them back together again and again. In this episode we...