Delight Your Marriage

Do you feel broken? Dirty? Ashamed? These are all normal feelings for a victim of sexual trauma.    Do you know what feelings Lisa now has? Freedom. Confidence. Trust. One in four, or even one in three women, have been victims of sexual abuse.  One in six men have been.    So, many of us need the HOPE for healing Lisa gives us.  Was it instant? Was it easy to confront? Was it comfortable to start...

"Betrayal to a marriage is what dynamite is to a door" says Gary Thomas. Obliterating all trust, safety, dreams... Could there be hope? Could there be restoration? And... How could this have been prevented?    This is what we discuss on today's episode.    If these are your questions, Gary gives a lot of insight I think you'll want to listen in to. What can you do as a couple to right the ship? Wh...

Are you getting close to marriage and the looming thought of a healthy sex life gives anxiety? I invite you to listen in to these two women who were virgins when they got engaged (one is now married) and hear how they processed through the anxiety.  And now on the other side of the program, they have a confidence and a relaxed sense around something that used to be very difficult to even think abo...

Enrollment for the program closes tonight, Masculinity Reclaimed delightyourmarriage.com/minvite ----- Today's podcast episode... If perverted masculinity is overly aggressive or on the other side, overly passive... what is it actually SUPPOSED to look like?  What is a strong man?  What is a true man of God? What is the masculinity God desires of you?   That's the topic Kyle and I discuss today. L...

Wow -- God is so good. Men are joining the 3-month program Masculinity Reclaimed because they're ready to become the men that God has called them to be (and as it turns out... that is very attractive to their wives... the results are intimate, as you'll hear.) I want you to listen to these transformation stories (several shortened stories that haven't been on the podcast before, so you can hear wh...

Is Jesus the Lord of your life in EVERY area?  Are you trusting God in everything except your marriage?  Are you saying, "Yes, I will follow," but then when Jesus says to sacrifice for your spouse, that's where you draw the line to do it your own way? Is your emotional intimacy with your spouse in God's hands? Is your spiritual intimacy with your spouse in God's hands? Is your physical intimacy wi...

**Masculinity Reclaimed: Foundations course is starting Monday, September 12, 2022 -- it's on-demand training but will only be available for about a week, so register now: delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining ** -- I've been posting a lot of resources for men, so this one is for the ladies (and the curious men :) I used to be very confused on what my husband needed from me. A lot of women that I h...

(My boys make an audio appearance on today's episode). I thought it was appropriate because Robert and I both got choked up towards the end of this interview -- you'll hear why.  Robert has more kids than me. Not 2, 3, 4 or 5... He has 7. Robert also has about 7 times more energy than I do. Which is why I'd like him to write a book. (Please, Robert, we all need it.)   His wife was actually the one...

From a past of pain and hurt Reed realized he needed healing. His first wife left him after twenty years. He then found out that she had had several extramarital affairs.  Completely devastating. And left him with 5 kids to raise on his own.  Now, God be praised. He is remarried -- his wife is utterly wonderful. They had a really good marriage. But he realized, the areas of his marriage that were...

An episode for a struggling husband -- or his wife.  To give you hope.  See, if you don't know what is the root of a behavior it's very hard to "white knuckle" yourself out of the behavior.  Therapist Sam Tielemans specializes in helping couples who have suffered through the pain of porn addiction.  He gives the specific reasons he sees over and over again at his practice (in Las Vegas of all plac...

We invite you to listen in to Jameson's story. Jameson participated in the free MR Foundations course that we offered in March 2022, and then decided to enroll in the full Masculinity Reclaimed course. ( We're offering the free course very soon for a very limited time - Sept. 12th! Sign up here !)  Having a good marriage, but wanting to take it to the next level, he learned of the free course and...

The FREE Masculinity Reclaimed Foundations training is back for the last time this year. If you missed it previously, join on September 12 -- sign up at delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining --  First of all. I'd like to tell you that I'm right in all that I do.  In fact, I'd like to say that I'm right... all the time.  I'd also like to tell you that I'm right even when others think I'm wrong. I'd...

Alternate Title: 7 Steps to a Productive Disagreement -- Arguing. Ugh. It's so... so... unhelpful. When have you left an argument where the dust has settled and you felt 100% good with everything you said -- your eyes, your words, your tones...? Everything.  In fact, how would you feel if your church congregation watched what you said and did?  Would you be proud of yourself?  Would you feel small...

Encouraging believers is a very biblical concept in the New Testament.  I want to encourage you in this episode.  I am praying for several people through this episode: 7:00 - invitation prayer 8:30 - prayer for men who feel like they're not leaders in their home 12:28 - men who are receiving frequency in intimacy, but it feels like a duty from their wife 14:30 - men who don't have frequency in int...

I'm excited to share that my wonderful friend Darcy is here to share her story and advice for you! She is actually the Delight Your Marriage Office Manager, and she reads all of your emails and prays for all of those who are suffering and in such difficulty in their marriages. She often weeps for you and truly, truly cares about you and feels your pain for those of you who are in need of hope. Her...

Well, first of all, I feel very ill-equipped to answer this question.    However, I don't think it serves you best for me to pretend that I don't know the limited things that I  do  believe God has taught me.    So, with that in mind, I'd like to share the general themes of today's episode -humility -the horrific humiliation of the cross  -how  that makes us more surrendered followers -the necessi...

When God said, "Let there be light," something amazing happened.  When I said, "Let there be light," ummm... well... I felt silly and 0 things, amazing or not, happened.   I guess I'm just not God. Which is surprising?    No, it's not.  But, the world thinks we get to decide who God is.  Unfortunately, too many Christians feel that way, too.    It's tragic.  God is not us.  And we don't get to liv...

Clarity is crucial in a marriage because it allows individuals to gain self-awareness, understand their own emotions and behaviors, and without even realizing it, it can help you take responsibility for your part in the relationship dynamics. Maybe you didn't "cause it" but you haven't worked to solve it. When couples face challenges or conflicts, it's easy to blame each other or external factors...

I am sharing the episode that has the most downloads at Delight Your Marriage of all time!   Blessings, Belah PS - Also, I have many free resources and would love to invite you to check them out: delightyourmarriage.com/free PPS - If you need help with your marriage -- do not hesitate to apply for a free Clarity Call. One of our Clarity Advisors (a former graduate of a DYM course themselves and ex...

If your marriage is still plagued by your past mistakes -- she brings up what happened 20 years ago... or he brings up how you used to be all the time...   What can you do to heal it? How can you two move forward and actually build a better marriage?    I would like you to remember some important scriptures on this topic:  It is His kindness that leads us to repentance. He disciplines those He lov...

When I look back on my life -- when I see what is currently unseen -- when I see Jesus face to face -- when all has been revealed... I am convinced I will be BLOWN AWAY by the love I never realized He truly had for me.  In the Bible, it says that God feeds the birds. (Mt 6:26) He FEEDS the birds.    I was observing birds yesterday in the park.  There are tons of them, flitting around, this way and...

You're doing it. You want to hear where you might need to grow. You want to see where you might not see yet. That was Meredith's heart and what led to their amazing transformation.    It is God's kindness to lead us to repentance.  He loves those He disciples.  What are Christians...? Who are Christ-followers...? What is a Disciple of Jesus? We're the ones who ask: "Jesus, what do you want to teac...

If you have temptations to jealousy, here's what I recommend.  If you've listened to the transformation stories and become upset, angry, bitter, resentful... I want to give you some ideas on what to do. I get that way too. I have certain triggers that throw me completely off.  You might as well.  I want to give you some ideas on how I deal with my triggers.  And I want you to get really CURIOUS ab...

I've been there.  Angry because he wouldn't change.  Hurt because he wasn't giving me what I needed. And God was kind to me.  He helped me to see that there were places in my heart that needed to be utterly changed.  This journey to freedom in your marriage is one that should start with the heart.  If you're a wife, you may see yourself in Emily's story. I know I do.  If you're a husband, you can...

"I was pretty much done with life...I wouldn't have minded if I passed away. If this is all life has to offer, what's the point?"   A father of 7. Deep sadness of his inner life.  Deep pain. Desperation.   But then... God did an incredible, incredible, incredible thing.   This title doesn't by any means tell the whole story. But I want you to hear the incredible result that God did. (My other sugg...