Delight Your Marriage

They're saying a lot of hurtful things. They're saying it in a mean tone of voice. Their face has the look of disgust, or worse.   You can feel your temperature rising.  You can feel your face getting red.  You can feel your rage welling up from the pit of your belly.    Is it righteous indignation? Is it because they need godly correction -- and fast? Is it that you're just plain tired of being u...

SO much packed in here, but I tried to narrow it down so you have a helpful summary. We go deep in this episode, I really think it'll help you. Three points are made in this episode: 1 - Your feelings are God given and He wants to do something because of them. 2 - It is healthy and even Jesus-like to express your frustration emotions (without hurting anyone) and grieve through your sad emotions (t...

This is a great sadness to me. When a wife steps out (even an inch) from her comfort zone and her husband mishandles this vulnerability.  Whether it's an inch sexually or in any part of their relationship...vulnerability should be appreciated and complimented and encouraged.  Your response to her discovery of more sexual freedom (big or small) should be, "Oh! How can I love HER more, too?" Not, "O...

I never want to "get over" the miracles we see, daily. But, you will be blown away by what God continues to do. It can happen for you. It can happen for your friend. It can happen for your acquaintance.  Families do NOT need to be torn apart. Husbands do not need to cry in their cars of loneliness due to lack of intimacy. Kids do not need to grow up fearful and stressed because of the strife in th...

(Enrollment is open for Masculinity Reclaimed program -- check it out here delightyourmarriage.com/minvite -- closes April 4, 2022) -- Skeptical. Yep, that's Bill :)  (Ehemm, *was* Bill). I don't blame him. He had been through it. His first marriage didn't work out.  He came to peace with being single for the rest of his life, until his (now) wife came along.  Things were good for a while. Until t...

Click here to sign up for the all-new Masculinity Reclaimed: Foundations course! THIS Monday, March 28, 2022! delightyourmarriage.com/menscourse -- How many broken, sad, dramatic stories have you heard this week, this month, this year? Where hearts are broken and families torn apart? Maybe you're even in a similar situation. This is why I want to share as many of these transformations as possible....

Duty sex…this is such a huge challenge for SO many couples - on both sides of the aisle!   Husbands and wives, how does our personal approach to sexual intimacy affect our spouse?    Does sexual intimacy within our marriage lead us toward one another or away from one another?   And if it often or sometimes leads us away from each other, is that our Creator's intention? How do we fix this? Can it b...

I promise I didn't put them up to this... But I was nervous about what they'd say, so I asked if they'd let me hear it before it went live.  Golly... made me blush and eyes water. It meant a lot to me.  But more than that, I hope you feel like you've been invited into our DYM family virtual living room and know that we love you and we care about you.  This DYM Team is truly amazing. I am honored a...

Have you lost hope of your marriage EVER changing? You're not alone! Many who come to Delight Your Marriage (DYM) have all but given up on their marriages. Some who come here, are separated and/or on the verge of divorce. Many others, have good marriages but want an even better one! In regard to the specific challenges that Minister Matt and his wife experienced in their marriage, he shares, "I ki...

How would you rate intimacy in your marriage…any type of intimacy?    Do you wonder why intimacy is such a difficult topic in marriage? Do you wish you could understand why husbands and wives see this topic so differently?   How do you know if you're off target in how you relate to your spouse?    Maybe you feel like you're not the one with a problem, it's your spouse… "You don't know what you don...

"I wish I could have done this course before I got married." - Pastor Bennie This is a statement that we commonly hear at DYM. Whether a marriage is good or bad, whether couples have been married many years or few, marriage after marriage has been profoundly impacted through DYM - praise God! In this podcast, Pastor Bennie shares about his personal experience taking Masculinity Reclaimed - DYM's m...

"She felt he was pushing her towards sex and she would pull away and it would make him angry". After 37 years of marriage, God has done a work in their marriage. Even though they were best friends, this was something that was always this "friction" between them. She felt like she was up against a wall all the time and being pushed caused her to have no libido. She had never, ever spoken to ANYONE...

What a fantastic interview with Gary Thomas! If you're not familiar with him yet, I think you'll be glad that you are now! Gary has a new book out: Married Sex -- to add to the other books that have been such a perspective shift for me and many I know. His heart is specifically about God's design for marriage as an opportunity to grow closer to Him. I want to share one specific phrase, the tagline...

Do you ever feel humbled by your mistakes? Do you ever feel flat-out humiliated?    Oh my, do I fall into that sometimes!  I think the enemy feels glad about that -- and then the shame he heaps upon us while we're recognizing the mistake (and maybe the enormity of it.)   And that's when God's truth (as Kyle, DYM Mentor, reminded me of yesterday) is so helpful. "Therefore, there is now no condemnat...

This is a resource to invite your wife to Delight Your Marriage, and to me, Belah Rose.    I would love for you, husband, to listen first and see if you might use this as a warm introduction to my material.    It's so easy to see words on a page and be repelled by it, but it's far better for us to get to know each other on a personal level and I'm hoping that's what this episode allows for.    (Fo...

I think we often forget about the power of words. Especially if the "party" we're talking about isn't present.  But what about the "party" that is present?    Here's a true saying: "those who talk to you about others, will talk to others about you". And when your spouse hears you judge another person, they may feel glad that you consider them a confidant.  But the problem is, they also get to hear...

Jfyi, I recorded all of this episode (except for the very last portion) about 11 weeks ago, so for those currently in DYM programs -- take it personally -- but not because I recorded it thinking of you specifically :)    What is masculinity?  What our society says it is? Powerful, rich, authority, direct, right, muscular, able and willing to kill, tough, deep, deep voice, no emotion, immovable, wi...

Do you have your goals for 2022? Do you have your goals for Q1 of 2022? I don't just mean business/work goals. I mean goals that help align your life with God's will. Do you have a system for discerning God's will? Well, in this episode I give you my system for discerning God's will and writing goals accordingly. It's thorough, comprehensive, "begins with the end in mind", and keeps an eye to meet...

Oh, we wish you a Merry Christmas, and we wish you fear-free Christmas, and we wish you a faith-filled Christmas, and from all of us at D-Y-M!   That's just one example of why my kids drown out my singing when I make up words to popular tunes.    Regardless of my kids, here's another one I'm proud of... ---ehemm--- Let it go.  Let it go.  Don't worry 'bout it anymore-- Let it go.  Let it go --- Ju...

How do we process feelings in order to bring about healing into our relationships, rather than cause tension and strife? Can we trust our feelings? Do you struggle to interpret your spouses feelings? Does your spouse misinterpret your feelings? This podcast will help give some guidance about healthy ways to process our feelings and the feelings of those who are in our lives. What is your compass?...

Oh wow -- what an awesome and surprising conversation I got to have with Ebony.  Firstly, this was supposed to be my opportunity to coach her as a recorded call for our ladies in the group. But, it turned into her sharing her testimony and wonderful insights and encouragements from her life that I just had to share with you! She was raised by a single dad, her husband was raised by a single mom. ...

Last week was part 1, and today I'm excited to bring you the last few items to rekindle the romance, intimacy, connection that may have been lost over the years.  Today, I am giving insights on sex, including responsive vs. spontaneous drive and libido. Which I think will help men and women - high or low drive. Seriously, if you know someone struggling in marriage -- these are the episodes to send...

So this is a catch-all type of episode that seeks to give you high-level insights where you can almost immediately gain traction in rekindling romance, passion, and connection your marriage -- or just take it to the next level.  So, if you've been looking for something...anything that could help -- here you go! If you have a friend who is on the rocks with their spouse, send them this episode (and...

JUST in time for the holidays! Please listen to this before you have a blow-up with the people most important to you. I'll give you a lot of tools that you can implement immediately. (Warning: All of the scriptures below and in the episode are personalized to your spouse, but if you know you'll be seeing a certain someone who triggers you, put their name in there, too!) --- When I look at scriptur...

You have too much riding on this.  There is too much to lose or gain.  Don't give up.  My goal today is to encourage you. You're doing a really good job. Just by tuning in, you're winning. You're seeking to love your spouse well, even when it doesn't look like it matters.  You're seeking to do God's will in the midst of your circumstances.  My husband is on the show today because he's the best enc...