Delight Your Marriage

Pastor Finds His Own Marriage Revival Here: Interview with Father Joe Sometimes the smallest changes tell the biggest story. In this week's conversation, Father Joe shares the very first change he noticed after his wife went through coaching. She stopped telling him how to drive. (Yes, really!) It might sound like a funny detail. But to him, it represented something much deeper. Less tension. Less...

Surrender Your Masculinity to Jesus: Interview with Aaron Smith Consider this question: If your marriage never changed... Would Jesus still be enough? That question is at the heart of this week's conversation with Aaron Smith. For four long years, he and his wife struggled with painful intimacy issues that nearly ended their marriage. Like many couples, they kept praying for God to change their ci...

Is It Manipulation or Is It Kindness? Whether you realize it or not, you're already influencing your spouse. Every day. Through your words. Your attitudes. Your reactions. Your encouragement. Your silence. The question isn't whether you're influencing them. The question is why. Are you trying to get your own way? Or are you trying to help them become who God created them to be? That's what this we...

Not a Bad Marriage, But the Future Looked Disconnected: David's Transformation Journey One of the biggest lies couples believe is this: "This is just what marriage becomes." The excitement fades. The connection weakens. The emotional intimacy disappears. And we convince ourselves that's normal. This is where David found himself. His marriage wasn't falling apart, but it wasn't thriving either. He...

If you've ever looked in the mirror and felt disappointed... If you've ever believed the lie that your body isn't beautiful enough, desirable enough, or worthy enough... I want you to know something. That voice is not God's voice. The God who knit you together in your mother's womb did not make a mistake when He made you. Your body is not something to be ashamed of. Your story is not something to...

In case you need this reminder today: You are allowed to be in process. You are allowed to say, "I do not have all the answers yet, but I want to learn." You are allowed to be growing. That is not failure. That is humility. And humility is often far stronger than we realize. Sometimes we think confidence means having everything figured out before we take a step. But that's not real confidence at a...

Sometimes Christians speak about the body as though it barely matters. As though spiritual growth and physical stewardship are completely separate things. But Scripture paints a very different picture. God created your body intentionally. Jesus came in a body. Jesus rose in a body. And one day, we will receive glorified bodies. Your body matters to God. In this episode, Justin Roethlingshoefer (Ow...

Maybe intimacy in your marriage doesn't look the way you thought it would. Maybe there are physical limitations. Health challenges. Pain. Insecurity. Lack of desire. Aging. Shame. Or just a deep sadness that things don't feel the way they "should." And maybe, quietly, you've wondered: Is something wrong with me? Is something wrong with us? Are we just broken? This episode is for the husband or wif...

Can we give you an encouragement today? Just because your marriage has felt cold… Disconnected… Tense… Or emotionally distant for years… Does not mean that's how it has to stay. In today's episode, a wife recently shared that for years, her husband told her he didn't feel respected — and honestly? She truly didn't understand what he meant. Not because she didn't love him. Not because she was tryin...

 All Your "Godly" Accomplishments Are Nothing? What if you could "win" in every area of life… and still lose the things that matter most? Because according to Jesus, success isn't measured by productivity, influence, money, ministry titles, or getting more done than everyone else. It's measured by love. "Love is patient and kind…" (1 Corinthians 13) That means our marriages matter. Our tone matter...

From Tolerating to Delighting: Marriage Transformation Is Possible (feat. Gary Thomas & Belah Rose) Imagine this: Your husband is working nights and you are cleaning houses during the day.    When you find out you are pregnant, you pursue a dream of writing a book.   Every morning you walk to the coffee shop just down the street to write.    One of your favorite things to do is listen to books abo...

Do We Call What is Holy "Sin" (and What is Sin "Holy") When I was first a believer, I had a very strong view of what was right and what was wrong. I had a sense that anything I was uncomfortable with was definitely wrong. After a lot of of life…and sadly time away from Jesus…and God healing and redeeming my journey, I've come to realize that there are things I am uncomfortable with, but are not ne...

Zero Intimacy for Almost a Decade, Husband & Wife Share Their Miracle Ten years of no physical intimacy. That is where husband & wife, Jim & Willa, found themselves. For 38 years of marriage, Willa described her husband as a "my way or the highway" kind of guy. And up until recently, Jim felt so frustrated and angry in his marriage that he wanted to leave. They were sleeping in separate bedrooms,...

You might be one who can work all day and feel great.   And maybe you struggle to take a vacation.   Maybe if you're really honest with yourself, you think productivity is next to godliness.   If you're like Brad and I -- that's us nodding our heads. We're just wired that way. That's not the end of the story...   But Brad had a mentor that wouldn't let go of him until he could see that drivenness...

Today marks the day that God stooped so low to live a perfect life and die a gruesome sinner's death -- to save you. And save me.  Why? Not because we were perfect. Not because we could earn His love. Who could earn that?   But because He decided we were worth it.    We aren't deserving of His sacrifice because we're so great -- it's because HE'S so great. He's so good, kind, and gracious that He...

Become the man your wife respects and desires again—before prices increase Book your Clarity Call now -------------------------------------------- I'm speaking to a man who wants to fix things. He is not a whiner, complainer, or blamer. He's interested in taking responsibility and making things better. But if he's really honest with himself, sometimes he feels that his wife prioritizes the kids ab...

526-How to Get Her In the Mood (& Turn Her On) [Re-Release] I think all the wives will want their husbands to listen to this one.   Because I have the good fortune of working with men every (work) day and hearing their unfiltered thoughts about intimacy… I can help you understand why your wife often rejects you.   One of the major truths is that it's SCARY to initiate sex with your wife.   So, you...

[Belah here - AI was not used to draft or write this description] As silly as it may seem, something as sacred and biblical as marital intimacy comes right down to the practical of "hey, it's just too quiet in the house for intimacy".    So, how do you solve for the biggest reasons a couple doesn't connect in this God-honoring way? Well, that's what today's conversation is all about.    In this ep...

[Belah here - AI was not used to draft or write this description] Sometimes I have been asked if I, as a woman, should be teaching men. When it comes up, I really appreciate that question because it shows a level of maturity and commitment to scripture.  The truth is, I never intended to be coaching or training men. That, in fact, is something I was against, at first. I intended to just follow Tit...

[Belah here - AI was not used to draft or write this description] I have grown in my journey of processing pain. But I still slip up. Today, I want to share with you a recent insight I've received on what I still need God's help to work through.  I hope we can walk together, looking at our Savior, first and foremost to discover His purposes for our suffering.  Your suffering matters.  It matters t...

A Marriage Transformation 5 Years in the Making: Dan's Story There are transformations that happen fast—like a spark, a breakthrough, a moment where everything shifts. And then there are transformations that happen patiently, steadily, layer by layer… over years. Dan's story is that second kind. Because five years ago, Dan wasn't walking around thinking his marriage was "bad." He actually wrote on...

Truths Inspiring Me About Confidence and Character — A Conversation with My Son Sometimes the most convicting spiritual lessons don't come from a sermon. They come from hearing a child say something honest— something simple— and realizing God is speaking through it.  And as you listen to this conversation about habits, confidence, and walking with Jesus, you may feel that gentle nudge to return to...

The Deep Theology of Sexual Unity (With Some Fun!): Interview with Randy and Rozanne Frazee Many of us were handed a shallow theology of sex — one that quietly divided the spiritual from the physical. But what if intimacy was never meant to be separate from your spiritual formation? What if marriage — even your sex life — is woven into the very story of God Himself? What if sex wasn't just God-per...

Have Compassion on Your Husband's Desire This is a tender topic. And for some of you, even reading this headline might make your chest tighten. Because desire can feel complicated. Painful. Loaded. Or honestly… just exhausting. And yet, this conversation matters—not to shame you, not to pressure you, but to invite you into compassion. Not obligation. Not fear. Not duty-driven compliance. Compassio...

Husbands, Draw Her Back: Order of Operations Gentlemen, you have likely heard that you are meant to be the leader of your home. You've likely heard it from the pulpit, maybe from your own family. So what happens when your wife feels distant? Maybe the invitation isn't to push her to follow — but to lead in such a way that her heart feels safe coming back to you, drawing her back with tenderness, c...