Delight Your Marriage

When the crisis occurs outside of your home, if it's not peaceful and healed in your marriage, it becomes an additional stress instead of support in a horrible time. I am not sure if you've lived through war – literally – but if so, you'll relate to Alex. I'll share more about him in a second.   Every member of our DYM team witnessed life transformation in their own marriages (first) and then God...

Are you exhausted from the fight? The struggle? The resist and then fail? Then try, then fail, then good, then fail, then try again, then fail...   Maybe you have a few good days, weeks even months...   But it's lurking in the background. Waiting to take you down again. And who knows how long you'll be down this time. Maybe it'll be just this once... maybe you'll be down forever. Maybe you'll neve...

So... a serious ex-military gent (on his way to becoming a drill sergeant) decided it was time to fix his marriage.  Then as a business leader and a leader in the church, people would come to him for marriage advice. Their connection looked good on the outside, but sadly it was lonely. When he started the program, he began to realize maybe he should stop giving marriage advice.  He shares in his s...

"Unbelievable." (ie: There's no way that's true.) That's how he felt when he heard the transformation stories. He was in a place of desperation.  Being in the marriage felt like a chore.    But that glimmer of hope that kept him listening to the transformation stories made him wonder if he should take the leap of faith and schedule the free Clarity Call ( delightyourmarriage.com/cc )  Well, he did...

There are so many people I wish I could help when I meet them at the playground, park, at a party... so here it is.    Marriage can be tough. VERY tough. And there is a dearth of helpful insight nowadays.  My content is focused towards people who follow the teachings of Jesus. But I really want to give you help because, from one perspective, we may not even be able to ask the hard philosophical qu...

Their marital intimacy never seemed to be right. Early on, they struggled with infertility and then a heartbreaking miscarriage. God did give them a baby (praise God!), and then that was another layer of challenge. But she couldn't seem to get intimacy "right." And she knew he wasn't satisfied. And that was a big dig to her confidence. Consistently. Which impacted their relationship. She decided t...

If you're a wife...this podcast is dynamite! Wow, I just gotta say...thank You, Lord, for giving our dear Belah such wise insight and for her willingness, humility, and surrender to keep sharing the powerful things that You give her to share with all of us! After listening to this podcast, I feel like I just got a feast at a banquet table!  This is a message that empowers our God-given role as wiv...

My goal today is to inspire a curious heart.  Could God have really designed men and women differently? Could your differences truly be HIS design? Could it be that "in His own image, in the image of God He created them; male and female he created them." Gen 1:27   Could your husband's member be God-designed?   Could it be that sex is God-designed? Could there be a reason God's boundaries around t...

God gives us opportunities to change all the time. Change the way we think, the way we are, the way we understand the world.    And it saddens me when so many of us choose to assume this is as good as it gets and that we're not going to be able to do anything to make it better. Nothing in the world has ever improved with that kind of thinking. Ever.   To me, that's a very negative mindset called "...

Hi, dear sisters.   My husband felt inspired to share some thoughts with you.    Actually, I was trying to communicate something to wives that I just kept re-recording and re-recording and I just couldn't get it right.    So I brought in the big guns. Yes... my husband is here to communicate what I couldn't.    I invite you to see how to CATCH what may be most important for you to hear.    May God...

Roy was married 25 years with 5 kids. And they had a good marriage. They love the Lord and seek to serve Him with all. Intimacy was tough though. And every time he brought it up, she would get defensive, or feel like she wasn't good enough, or like he'll never be satisfied. Anyone else feel that way?  He had heard about Masculinity Reclaimed for a couple of years and finally decided it was time. ...

Is what you're doing in your marriage right now working for you?    Do you feel hopeless?   Are you lonely in your marriage?    If you believed that your actions alone could make a difference, if you knew the tools to use to make a difference in your marriage, would you be willing to use them?   Tom's story is inspiring and is not unique to graduates of Delight Your Marriage programs.   Praise God...

Is there dignity in humility?  Is there dignity in humiliation?  Initially, you might think not.    But then we have to take a moment to consider the cross. An excruciating death, reserved not for Roman citizens, but for rebels and slaves...  because it was SO  SO humiliating.   And yet, the God of glory, the One who DESERVES all glory and honor...  HUMILIATED Himself not only to come as a baby, g...

"It's my spouse who needs to change."   If you've said this or thought this...you are right.    So now, no need to listen to anything because there's nothing for you to do but wait around in a grumpy mood 'til your spouse decides to do something.    :)   Maybe there's another opportunity here.    Maybe we can be (as our team member Kyle says) "playfully curious" about this response.    Why do we a...

  This episode was back from the very beginning of 2019. Wow! It's STILL relevant. And even when I re-listened, I was struck by a specific exercise that put life in great perspective. I encourage you to do the same -- for God's glory to ultimately be experienced in your marriage, family, and life! In the long view of your 100 years on earth, what is going to matter in THIS season? I had an abrupt...

This was meant to be a light & encouraging holiday podcast episode.    Then, it turned into a heavy and warning-type episode.    You'll be around souls this holiday.    Souls, that maybe you don't feel fully at peace with. Souls, that maybe you have been wronged by. Souls, that maybe you still feel the sting of the pain they inflicted on you.   This is spoken for no specific person...except, defin...

This was originally published a while back--but we highly recommend you listen again as you're praying through and discerning what God has for you in the new season of 2023. … I love New Years because everything feels fresh and energized. Even though, practically speaking, it's the same as every other day, you just have to start training yourself to use a new number at the end of your dates. But I...

This is the next part of Communication Secrets and I think it's an important addendum.    We talk about what to do when you're disappointed with your spouse.  When you want them to change.  When you feel they were irresponsible.   I have two examples for you:  1 - When a friend was irresponsible and God brought conviction even when He kept me from saying anything. 2 - When I was irresponsible (I k...

… So much stress revolves around communication. I've been there! My husband and I have miscommunications everyday. Today, for example, I was telling him about a sore in my mouth and he was sure I was talking about Europe.  That is silly and allowed for laughter. But what about when someone is lost and just hoping for the other to quickly look up directions. Or, when you're in a stressful situation...

Since Thanksgiving is coming up and we're around people we love, but sometimes have strained relationships. We wanted to repost this episode so you can apply it to your family relationships and your spouse.  We love you and wish you a peaceful and grateful-filled Thanksgiving!! … Sometimes we look at our blowups and wonder -- how did we even get here?  How did a wrong turn, an unpaid bill, an unwa...

Often preparing for Thanksgiving is the real STRESS. So -- guess what!? Make love now, so you have a connected, peaceful, and truly enjoyable Thanksgiving next week. ... Duty sex…this is such a huge challenge for SO many couples - on both sides of the aisle!   Husbands and wives, how does our personal approach to sexual intimacy affect our spouse?    Does sexual intimacy within our marriage lead u...

(Alliteration is such a... joy--isn't it? :) Hoping that gave you a needed chuckle...   But seriously... Mick's story is GREAT! He is a dynamic, charismatic, and tell-it-straight kinda guy. When his marriage was shallow in terms of connection, emotionally and intimately, he jumped at an opportunity that seemed on target.  Well, the MAIN change was his heart. He shares some particulars on why that...

If you've ever seen a headline (one of mine or someone else's), "They did [this] and got [this]" you may have experienced a "transactional trigger".  My motivation is to attract people who need transformation in their marriages.  What I call "missional marketing", some may call "bait and switch", which is kind of true, too. You may be someone who came for a certain outcome, but you listened and fo...

I used to think I only respected someone if they deserved it. Whether that was my husband or the young adults I worked with. Which meant I didn't treat them with respect. Maybe not blatant disrespect as I saw it. But more neutral. Though I have come to find out "neutral" is generally not good. My natural tendency if I don't have the correct heart (that God created everyone and they should be treat...

When I look back on my life — when I see what is currently unseen — when I see Jesus face to face — when all has been revealed… I am convinced I will be BLOWN AWAY by the love I never realized He truly had for me.  In the Bible, it says that God feeds the birds. (Mt 6:26) He FEEDS the birds.    I was observing birds yesterday in the park.  There are tons of them, flitting around, this way and that...