Delight Your Marriage

We are LOVING the excitement about the Pre-Engaged Workbook, which will be released soon.   (It is supposed to go live today, but isn't available yet... there is a hold-up in the review process. We will let you know once it goes live!)   ---   What I think happens a lot in marriages is a dynamic of competition.    They both want to impress their spouse, and both of them are clawing on top of each...

I just have to apologize ahead of time because this headline is way too sensational. I can hear you saying, "It's frankly not realistic." I get it.  But, hear me out. (Or, hear him out...? :)   So, Hunter had twin 4-year-old girls. His wife was fed up with asking him to change. To pull his fair share. To be proactive in the family responsibilities.  She said she was done. They had talked about div...

We're all insecure.  I am. You are.    We might not be insecure about the same things, but we've all got it.    Today, I want to talk about the insecurities that are common for women and the insecurities that are common for men. Spoiler alert: they're different.   But the insight most of us miss is that our specific insecurity in marriage actually is harming our spouse.  Because of the way our spo...

Amber can tell you straight up... God has changed her.  For so many reasons, she would have said her behavior was warranted. (I know the feeling and have said the words myself!) And God was kind to open her eyes to her pride.  The pride that was ripping her husband apart.  And yet, God got her attention.  He stretched forth His hand and showed her what she couldn't see on her own.  He used her hus...

There can only be 1 answer to this question: Yes, or No.    Well, who do you go to to answer questions like this? Do you have a pastor? A friend? A mentor? A favorite author? A researcher? A scientist? A porn counselor? An SA therapist? A previous user? Your own experience? Your own intuition?    Who has the authority in your life to answer this question? Ahem... "the great Belah Rose?"   Just so...

I don't have to tell you that the enemy is out for families. Because the best-case scenario is a mom and dad that love each other raising children that grow up to be the men and women to do God's will in the earth. So, if the enemy can tear at the soul of the marriage. The most sacred part. The intimacy. Then the family crumbles.  But God. Wayne is so courageous to share what God has done because...

Driving down the road, crying out to God.  And, maybe, the strongest he's ever heard the Lord responded to him. It wasn't rebuke. But an invitation.  He saw into the heart of God.  Real tears started rolling down his face. --- I invite you to listen to Dan's story.    Maybe it's not unlike yours... ...have a marriage, for some decades. ...have gone through struggles and broken dreams. ​ ​...have a...

I should be clear... I don't struggle with this. The stories I share about my pride in this episode are a complete rarity. Almost never happens. ​I also don't struggle with lying... :D  (Just kidding :) I need this learning as much as anyone... which is why I'm excited to share what God is teaching me! ---- "My spouse needs to change..."  "[He is / She is] doing so many bad things...so many..." "T...

Back 1.5 years ago, Taylor went through the men's program and witnessed God do some important work. Most important: in his heart.  But as Jesus says: For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within , and they defile a person."...

You may be on a journey to get a better marriage...  But do you know where you are right now?    The trouble is when people with a 9/10 marriage give advice to someone with a 2/10 marriage...  It doesn't make sense. AND a left turn at the WRONG TIME could lead to disaster. That is why we developed the Marital Health Assessment , a tool you can use to determine if you're on track in your marriage. ...

We are indeed at war.  Now is not the time to walk idly by.  Now is not the time to pretend it's all just fine.  Now is not the time to think only about ourselves.   And your marriage matters during the tribulation.  Regardless of who endures the end times (our generation... or the next, or next, or next...) what you do or don't do in your marriage matters.   Whether or not Christianity is worthwh...

As an Amish growing up, Donny has had quite the journey.  Just a couple of years ago after God rescued him from a very difficult place, his marriage actually was fairly good.    He found and listened to the podcast for quite a while and felt convicted that he needed to do the men's program.  He was content in his own marriage, he just wanted to know if he could recommend it to others.  But he was...

As empty nesters, you know how they say you'll enjoy growing old together. Well, Kim says, "We were growing older, but not enjoying it." Kim was suffering in her marriage -- crying on her friend's shoulder. As they prayed that God would change it. Then, that friend told her about the podcast, the one you're listening to.  That friend also told her husband. After hearing all the testimonials, he jo...

My heart goes out to any wife who has experienced sexual abuse. There are so many layers of pain... it's truly horrible.  As a husband, the evil that was done to your wife harmed her immeasurably. The person you love the most. And it impacted your marriage, your intimacy, and your life forever.    Is healing possible? What if she doesn't "DEAL WITH" her abuse? (Sometimes I hear men say that their...

Clarity is crucial in a marriage because it allows individuals to gain self-awareness, understand their own emotions and behaviors, and without even realizing it, it can help you take responsibility for your part in the relationship dynamics. Maybe you didn't "cause it" but you haven't worked to solve it. When couples face challenges or conflicts, it's easy to blame each other or external factors...

I'd like to share Kevin's story, mostly in his own words.  As always, there is a huge message of hope and transformation available in this story, so I hope you'll listen in! After 28 years of marriage, feeling like roommates, Kevin said "I felt helpless" and "very isolated, very alone" in the struggles he experienced.  As a very successful (and busy!) IT exec overseeing teams in India, UK, France,...

I am grateful so many men share their unfiltered hearts with me.  It is an honor and a privilege.  I find that many men feel extremely misunderstood. And they have numbed their pain just to "get through". The problem with numbing is we don't see the people right in front of us and the pain they are experiencing.  What I see so frequently is men who are desperately trying to be the men God designed...

Oh, the pain of frustration, being consistently misunderstood, and having your needs (legitimate needs) consistently trampled upon. Both Jerry and Joyce felt it. And Jerry desperately looked for answers. Delight Your Marriage wasn't his first program -- but unfortunately, the other one gave advice that almost drove his wife to a nervous breakdown.  Jerry didn't get out of his marriage, though his...

Join us for an inspiring conversation with Jenny, a loving housewife and mother of four from Finland. In this episode, Jenny shares her remarkable transformation journey and the positive impact it had on her marriage. Previously working as a nurse before having kids, Jenny and her husband made a conscious decision to prioritize their family and serve the Lord in a unique way. Through their involve...

Mother's Day is almost here! (This Sunday!) Make sure the mom in your life is getting treated really nicely! She is WONDERFUL and deserves to be celebrated! I have a wonderful mom. She sacrificed so much for me. I am forever in her debt. As a mom myself... I believe sacrificing to be a good mom brings her greater joy than if she had never sacrificed at all.    Sacrifice. Duty. Responsibility.    S...

This title was hard to come up with.   Essentially, I want you to have the tools and mindset to figure out how to set boundaries with yourself and with others when needed. Jesus was the servant of all.  He came to serve not to be served.  He was the most humble and meek.  And yet, Jesus set boundaries. A lot.  Here are a couple, but once you read this, you'll probably not be able to read a parable...

Pastor David had a rocky start with his marriage.    Facing his hurts wasn't what he actually wanted to do. He was nervous to bring it up to his wife -- they share all their finances. So he brought it up to her and said he wants to transform into the man, husband and father he wants to become.   Even only 4 weeks into the program, Pastor David's wife commented, "I have noticed a change. Keep it up...

Our interview is about how to get a young person to read/do this workbook that could set them up for a successful dating and married life! --- WOW! I am honored and grateful! My goodness.    So, the story goes... yesterday morning Amazon told me that it might be 3 days before the workbook could be live... Pre-Dating Workbook: What you need to know and do before you start dating (and definitely dur...

Brett is fantastic! Firstly, many men have a similar past that we work with but don't share it openly. I really appreciate Brett's boldness to share and it encourages so many others! That yes, even for your history, there IS HOPE! My favorite quotes:  "Now, I can't wait to go home at night."    "[I have] closer friendships in MR than what I have in everyday life...It's unexplainable how you feel w...

You are teaching them.  Whether consciously or unconsciously, they're observing you and figuring out whether you have something they want.  Do they want the marriage you have? Is marriage worth it? Do you have guidance that would actually give them the result they want?   If you've been around Delight Your Marriage a while, you know we are passionate about helping marriages get better, SO THAT the...