Dear Little Me

How does trauma impact a child? Jewels remembers the good times. As an only child living with her mom and a dad she adored, she remembers early childhood as a fun and happy time. But when Jewels was just 7 years of age the events of one night changed everything and her life was never the same again. What happens to a little girl when nobody is paying attention, nobody is loving her, nobody is list...

How Do I Build Self Esteem? How would you rate your self worth?  Are you enough?  Or have you spent a lifetime feeling less than, small, contained in a box of acceptability? Do you feel lovable or unlovable?  good or bad?  worthy or unworthy?  In this new style episode I am talking about why unworthiness affects millions and give you first steps towards understanding and self love. If you have a s...

Can narcissists run in families? Richelle suffered a lifetime of narcissistic abuse from her mother.  And with the understanding she now has, Richelle can see that her grandmother was also a narcissist.  Playing favourites.  Golden child syndrome.  Manipulation.  Lack of boundaries.  Parentification.  Cycles of abuse.  Love bombing.  Abuse. Richelle's Mom would disappear for weeks at a time and Ri...

Can narcissists run in families? Richelle suffered a lifetime of narcissistic abuse from her mother.  And with the understanding she now has, Richelle can see that her grandmother was also a narcissist.  Playing favourites.  Golden child syndrome.  Manipulation.  Lack of boundaries.  Parentification.  Cycles of abuse.  Love bombing.  Richelle's Mom would disappear for weeks at a time and Richelle...

The wisdom of trauma. In our last episode for 2021, we take the opportunity to look back at some of the amazing wisdom and beauty that has been shared on the podcast this year.  Every single guest has shared epic insight into their healing journey that allows us more understanding and hope for the future. Thankyou for being on this journey of healing with me.  I so appreciate you being h...

How to recover from an emotionally absent mother? We heard Emma’s story earlier this year and at that time she was experiencing real revelations around her past trauma.  Since then Emma has taken her healing to the next level and has experienced so much growth in these past few months.  Emma speaks about how she never took her trauma seriously.  She made light of things because&nbsp...

Signs of an emotionally unavailable mother. We heard Emma’s story earlier this year and at that time she was experiencing real revelations around her past trauma.  Since then Emma has taken her healing to the next level and has experienced so much growth in these past few months.  Emma speaks about how she never took her trauma seriously. She made light of things because ‘it wasn’t...

What are the impacts of childhood trauma on our parenting? Kavita was six years old and her sister was four when they were sent to boarding school.  It was total abandonment and Kavita was in complete trauma. Her mother was living with an undiagnosed mental illness and her parents were simply unable to cope.  It wasn't until Kavita had her own child that she really understood the depths...

Can I be a good parent after childhood trauma? Kavita was six years old and her sister was four when they were sent to boarding school.  It was total abandonment and Kavita was in complete trauma. Her mother was living with an undiagnosed mental illness and her parents were simply unable to cope.  It wasn't until Kavita had her own child that she really understood the depths of that trau...

Somatic healing for childhood abandonment trauma. The toxic mom doesn't have to be angry and abusive. She can be absent and neglectful. She can be unloving, disconnected and cold. She can abandon you and barely speak to you. She can give you the silent treatment for days. And she can send you on a very self destructive path. Tracy's mom didn’t bond with Tracy as a baby and continued to neglect her...

The effects of a controlling parent. Control can be at the very heart of a traumatic childhood. Parents with unhealthy and unattainable standards, unreasonable rules and regulations. Parents using punishments and controlling behaviour. Micah grew up in a very controlled, religious environment. Church was three times a week. Discipline was militant in style and there were so many rules and bel...

Manipulative boyfriend. Shorina was only 14 when she left home to move in with her first boyfriend who was over 18. This older boy was manipulative and tried to isolate Shorina, telling her that nobody else cared and if she left him she would be completely alone.  Shorina didn't even believe her mom cared, even though her poor mom was beside herself with worry.  Shorina ended up very alo...

Manipulative boyfriend. Shorina was only 14 when she left home to move in with her first boyfriend who was over 18. This older boy was manipulative and tried to isolate Shorina. He made her believe that nobody cared about her and if she left him she would be completely alone.  Shorina didn't even believe her mom cared, even though her poor mom was beside herself with worry.  Shorina foun...

Is there a cure for anxiety? Anxiety is the uncontrollable and often irrational anticipation of future threats and one of the most commonly diagnosed mental health conditions. It is your brain working on overdrive to keep you safe from all the things your mind sees as threatening. And childhood trauma can play a huge part in whether you develop anxiety as an adult.  Mireya Lope...

Generational trauma. Sean Keyes is sharing his story of growing up in violence and abuse, the highs and lows and how he is choosing to live his life now.  He searches for answers.  He educates himself constantly.  All to ensure he is growing and healing and living his best life.  Sean is sharing with us his journey with BPD and how he is taking his power back over his mental he...

Borderline personality disorder. Sean grew up in an extremely violent and chaotic environment.  His father was alcoholic and abusive, his mum depressed.  He remembers feeling no love at all growing up.  Sean's mom was still a kid herself when she started having kids.  By the age of 23 she had five children.  And Sean's mom had come from a traumatic childhood and so ha...

How does creativity heal trauma? Aunia had no voice. Surviving in a home heavy in generational trauma she felt completely unseen and unheard. Trauma at home and trauma at school. There was very little light or shade. Deep in trauma Aunia attempted to take her own life. By her twenties Aunia was living with an undiagnosed chronic illness. Forced to give up study she turned to art to get her through...

Signs of vulnerable narcissistic abuse. PANIC AWAY ACCESS HERE https://af3924jj23i46gadigvxkmhl98.hop.clickbank.net This is the story of growing up with a vulnerable narcissistic mother.  The vulnerable narcissist isn't as obvious in the way they operate as other types of narcissists.  They are more subtle.  But the underlying control and guilt can become magnified once they feel yo...

How does domestic violence affect a child? The framed picture of the happy family. Mom, Dad and the kids. Living their best lives. Baby on Dad's knee. A wonderful family. That's what we present to the world anyway right? Because what goes on behind closed doors can be so different. Can be another story. So many children taught to show the world a happy face. To keep secrets. To save face. So many...

What does a narcissistic mother do to a child? Did you know that childhood trauma can start as early as in the womb? Imagine that a young woman of eighteen becomes a mother and because of the short traumatic life she has lived, she has no idea how to connect with her own emotions, let alone those of a tiny baby. Because she abandoned herself long ago, she is unable to be present for this child’s n...

Living with complex PTSD (CPTSD). Sara felt lost. She felt like she had missed the memo on how to do life. She was confused and wasn’t even sure what the questions were, let alone where to find the answers. It turns out that Sara had CPTSD and it took her 9 years to find somebody that could actually tell her this. And at no time did she think that this journey was about her childhood, about what h...

Signs of mother wound. The mother wound can be like a gaping hole in the middle of your chest that started in childhood and has never been able to heal.  It starts in the womb where you are influenced by your mothers dream of life. Your mother is your first archetype of love and whoever your mom is and however she sees the world will have a profound impact on you.  Everyth...

What causes perfectionism? As a young girl Lauren felt pressure to look pleasing to those around her. To look perfect. To fit in. And as she got more into her love of acting, the pressure only got worse. Constant analysis of looks, weight. Perhaps you should lose a few pounds? Your voice isn’t great. Picking away at the very core of her soul. This is a story of a beautiful passionate young gi...

Healing trauma with energy healing. Do you feel stuck?  Do you feel like you’ve done all the things.  You’ve tried so hard to heal and you’ve made so much progress.  But there’s still something in the way.  And you can’t figure it out.  You know what you want, but you just can’t get there.  It’s sabotaging the life you want for yourself.  But what is it? I’m chat...

How narcissists treat their child. I found Nicole from The Living Well and knew we needed to connect. Nicole is a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach and she has a wealth of knowledge on the narcissist. Having been in relationships with narcissists and also raised by narcissistic parents, Nicole has suffered at the hands of narcissists her entire life. And she did hit rock bottom. And she did contem...