Dear Little Me

Who is most likely to sexually abuse a child? Diane grew up on a farm. There were ponies and music lessons and she loved the animals and being outside in nature. Diane's parents were incredibly busy with four kids and running the farm and Diane felt she only got their attention when she was really good or really bad. Unseen and unheard Diane didn't feel love or connection as a child. And at the ag...

What trauma does to a child. It shouldn't hurt to be a child.  But it so often does.  Children everywhere, just scraping by.  Just surviving emotionally, physically, mentally.  In chaotic homes.  With traumatised parents, mentally ill parents.  Parents who were narcissistic, drug addicted, alcoholic, abusive, manipulative, who didn’t care whether their child lived or...

Should I go no contact with my mother? Sharon's relationship with her mom growing was okay. But that relationship deteriorated rapidly when Sharon became an adult. Sharon has lost two brothers and she has grieved their loss. Her mother is alive and well, but she has also grieved the loss of her mother because Sharon decided that it was in the best interests of herself and her kids to go no contact...

When life is hard, what do you crave?  To lessen the pain?  To make it feel better again?  A glass of wine?  Some chocolate?  Shopping therapy?   What do cravings ACTUALLY mean?   If you have a story to share for this podcast or want to connect with me, dm me on www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject or send an email to bigloveproject@iinet.net.au .  I would LOV...

How to overcome fatherlessness Shalina was just 15 months old when her father left.  And that moment changed her life forever.  Shalina was now fatherless.  And that was heartbreaking and traumatic and overwhelming.  It changed what she believed about herself.  She felt deeply abandoned, worthless and disconnected from so many things.  And the same questions continued...

Why are people ashamed of their mental health struggles? Welcome to this new style bi-weekly episode of the podcast - a 5 minute deep dive into topics close to my heart. This week I am discussing the judgement and shame we feel subject to as survivors of childhood trauma. THE SELF LOVE INITIATION ... find out more here... https://www.dawnchitty.com/copy-of-dawn-chitty-how-to-love-you If you have a...

I have no relationship with my Dad.  My father left.    Shalina was just 15 months old when her father left.  And that moment changed her life forever.  Shalina was now fatherless.  And that was heartbreaking and traumatic and overwhelming.  It changed what she believed about herself.  She felt deeply abandoned, worthless and disconnected from so many things...

What does it mean to be triggered? The world is full of highly triggered people.  Maybe you live with one.  Maybe you work with one.  They can have a huge impact on our lives. Join me for this chat about standing in your power around highly triggered people.  If you have a story to share for this podcast or want to connect with me, dm me on www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject or send an email to bi...

What is the best way to deal with sexual abuse from your childhood? PART TWO OF LATARSHA'S STORYLatarsha and her Dad were super tight growing up.  She remembers so many fun times.  Ice cream sundaes, riding her tricycle and Latarsha adored her Dad.  But things didn't remain this way.  There was a lot of moving around.  Staying with one relative after the next and this is the story of a little girl...

What is the best way to deal with sexual abuse from your childhood? Latarsha and her Dad were super tight growing up.  She remembers so many fun times.  Ice cream sundaes, riding her tricycle and Latarsha adored her Dad.  But things didn't remain this way.  There was a lot of moving around.  Staying with one relative after the next and this is the story of a little girl wh...

How does a narcissistic mother behave? Erin was abandoned in every possible way.  From as far back as she can remember.  By a mother who was cold and manipulative.  She was neglected, unloved, controlled.  She was never seen or heard.  She was treated like a piece of trash.  By her own mother.  Erin says "I wanted to believe that I belonged.  That somebody c...

Mother wound healing.   Erin was abandoned in every possible way.  From as far back as she can remember.  By a mother who was cold and manipulative.  She was neglected, unloved, controlled.  She was never seen or heard.  She was treated like a piece of trash.  By her own mother.  Erin says "I wanted to believe that I belonged.  That somebody could love...

How does childhood trauma affect you later in life?  Kaytee Gillis is a licensed clinical social worker and therapist who specialises in working with survivors of family trauma, family dysfunction, and abuse.  Kaytee shares some of her own story as a parentified child and how deeply that affected her life.  We also discuss the 10 ways childhood trauma shows up in our relationships a...

Is trauma stored in the subconscious mind? Is you soul screaming at you?  Is it telling you there are things that need your attention?   The beliefs and stories you run in your subconscious mind can be making you play small, do as your mother told you, be the good girl. And so you find yourself living a life that is detached from who you really are. If you are just not feeling life right...

What are the long term effects of adoption? Megan was adopted at birth into a family where she felt loved and cared for.  But from a very young age Megan was acutely aware that her situation was different. She knew her life had involved a transaction and her younger self was stuck in trying to understand what that meant. What was she worth?  Did she offer value to her parents?  And,...

What are the signs of self love? The idea of self love is everywhere right now.  But what does it actually mean?  Is it important?  And how DO you love yourself? If you have a story to share for this podcast or want to connect with me, dm me on www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject or send an email to bigloveproject@iinet.net.au .  I would LOVE! to connect with you. >>Please...

When your whole family are narcissists. Teresa grew up in a family she describes as narcissistic. Growing up was hard. This family was all about appearances and Teresa was struggling big time. Struggling with what was expected of her.  And struggling with being undiagnosed neurodivergent in a neurotypical world. Her parents had started down the path of getting her a diagnosis for autism but p...

How to escape a narcissistic family. Teresa grew up in a family she describes as narcissistic.  Growing up was hard.  This family was all about appearances and Teresa was struggling big time. Struggling with what was expected of her.  Struggling with manipulation, gaslighting.  And struggling with being undiagnosed neurodivergent in a neurotypical world. Teresa's parents had started down the path...

How does judgement affect us? Whether you are judging or being judged, JUDGEMENT is a deeply ingrained part of our lives.  At every level.  We are judged by others from a very young age. We are taught to judge. It is generational and so we barely even notice we are doing it.  Judgement is destructive and it keeps us small and stops us from being our true selves.   If you h...

Can trauma affect you subconsciously? Who are you actually? Do you have any idea? Or are you living from a program of other people's expectations, judgements and trauma? Growing up in trauma can create a real disconnect from who you were born to be. You become trapped in layers of stuff that doesn't belong to you and it becomes so normal that you never discover who you really are. What you really...

What are the signs of a female psychopath? Keila was born in Brazil.  Her father left before she was born and she doesn't remember one ounce of love or care from a mother she describes as psychopathic.  Beaten daily, starved and sexually abused with her mothers permission this story is as bad as it gets.  Keila is telling her story and you may find it triggering in parts.  But...

What are some ways psychopathic mothers behave? Keila was born in Brazil.  Her father left before she was born and she doesn't remember one ounce of love or care from a mother she describes as psychopathic.  Beaten daily, starved and sexually abused with her mother's permission this story is as hard as it gets.  Keila is telling her story and you may find it triggering in parts. &nb...

How to learn setting boundaries. One of the most important things you will ever do for yourself is to put really strong boundaries in place in your life.  It isn't easy if you were trained to people please and disregard your own needs. As kids we are taught we must be pleasing to a parent.  We must always do as we are told and that our feelings and deepest needs are unimportant.  We...

Be the person who breaks the cycle. When I started this podcast I wanted to bring awareness to childhood trauma and generational trauma because it is one of the least talked about topics. Because it's hard. Because it's scary, confronting, complex. What happens in families behind closed doors is terrifying. And I believe most of the mental health and chronic physical health conditions that plague...

How Does Trauma Impact A Child? Jewels remembers the good times.  As an only child living with her mom and a dad she adored, she remembers early childhood as a fun and happy time. But when Jewels was just 7 years of age the events of one night changed everything and her life was never the same again.  What happens to a little girl when nobody is paying attention, nobody is loving her, nobody is li...