Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction

When people want to make changes in their lives, create new habits, routines or put systems in place, but it can be hard to be consistent! In this episode I share some strategies that can help you to be successful as you create habits and get them to stick, without needing willpower or superhuman discipline. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org...

When a woman experiences betrayal in a relationship due to porn addiction, it’s normal for her wall to go up to protect herself.  Without there being safety or security in the relationship, she protects herself from continued hurt and being impacted by the addiction and dishonesty. Sometimes women aren’t quite sure how to let the wall down and what indicators she should look for, and despite his b...

So often a woman feels reluctance to be affectionate or have sex after there’s been betrayal due to pornography addiction or infidelity. She protects herself from getting hurt even more, so her guard is up. In order to help her work through her fears, men first need to understand what they are and then know how to help support her so she can start to feel safe enough to open back up. Discover the...

Triggers can hit us seemingly from out of nowhere, but using this tool can help you to identify and process through them successfully. Whether it has to do with a pornography addiction trigger, trauma trigger, or anything else that creates stress, overwhelm or anger. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for...

Oftentimes, a big part of the check-in conversation revolves around whether he was triggered to watch porn or not.. The problem is that if he was triggered that day, her hearing about it can cause a negative reaction and feel like it undermines the progress that he/they are making. But transparency is important and opening up when he is struggling is necessary, so in this episode I share with you...

Healing from porn addiction and betrayal trauma can have overwhelming moments that can feel dark and lonely. But there is hope if you have one particular resource or tool to help you through those moments. In this episode I share with you the #1 tool to navigate moments that knock you down, so you can find the strength and hope to collect yourself and keep moving forward. For therapy with Sam: Sen...

How do you know if his desire for sex is rooted in pornography addiction or if it’s coming from a healthy place? Knowing this makes all the difference when it comes to reintegrating sex back into the relationship when the time is right. In this episode I share with you the #1 distinguishing factor and how you can use this tool to continue to make progress in overcoming the addiction or building th...

Sometimes couples reach a stalemate when she thinks he's not doing enough to work on his pornography addiction and if he feels like no matter what he does it'll never be enough. There are a few different reasons why we see things like this, and in this episode I'll share with you what each person can do about it to keep making progress without these discussions resulting in a fight. For therapy wi...

Whenever there is a struggle with porn addiction, there's often dishonesty. And that is one of the most damaging elements to a marriage, but if you are going to eliminate it completely, you must understand the reason why it's continuing to happen. Lying is a symptom of something deeper, and once you discover it and get the tools to resolve it, the dishonesty goes away. In this episode I share with...

The road to healing can feel completely overwhelming, so I wanted to break down the process to overcome pornography addiction into just 5 steps. If you focus on these core components, then you'll achieve lasting freedom from porn addiction, and your relationship can heal and flourish. For therapy from Sam, send an email here for more information: sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course...

Most people want to feel connected to their partner after porn addiction, but the mechanics of how to do that can be tricky.. In this episode, I share with you what it actually looks like to build connection, safety and trust, and I'll share how to work through any difficulties that come up along the way. Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.couplesheal...

Sometimes we go through some very difficult and painful experiences.. And that pain can seem to follow us around and get triggered unexpectedly when we are reminded of the past. The same is true for experiences that are continuing to happen - they can hurt and cause us a lot of pain. With this strategy that I'm sharing in this episode, you'll discover how to tap into a very commonly-missed tool to...

So often people feel burned out on the path of trying to overcome pornography addiction and restoring the marriage... The reason why they continue to struggle is that they don't have a clear road map and aren't sure what specifically to be focusing on, or they struggle because they are trying and changes aren't visible. In this episode, I share with you a simple approach you can instantly implemen...

So many people have a hard time wrapping understanding how he can say he loves her, yet still struggle with a porn addiction. The wife often feels like if he really did love her then he wouldn't be looking at images of others...  But the reality is that there is a way for him to love her and still struggle, and in this episode I share exactly how it's possible, and understanding it can actually op...

So many couples feel like they come to a fork in the road once a husband's porn addiction comes out – divorce and end the pain or stay together and be miserable... There is a third option though and so many couples take it and find that their relationship completely changes. So whether you're at the breaking point, or if you're feeling stagnant and not sure what the next step is, I'll share an add...

Depression and anxiety can suck the joy out of life and relationships... but what if there was a long-term fix without needing medication? In this episode I talk about the actually causes of depression (not a chemical imbalance) and I share a powerful tool that can help you or your spouse eliminate it from their lives for good. Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simpl...

Defensiveness can be frustrating when you're trying to resolve a challenge in the marriage. The key is to understand exactly why the defensiveness is happening in the first place (and it's not because that person doesn't care..). I share what's at the core of defensiveness and a powerful strategy to break through it so you can communicate effectively. Want access to a free course I created for my...

Therapist in the traditional recovery space will tell you that it takes 3-5 years to heal from a pornography addiction.. And it can take at least as long (maybe longer) for marriages to heal. I’m on a mission to let people know that there is a more effective way to overcome porn addiction and restore your marriage that doesn’t require nearly as much time. And in this episode I share one of the mos...

Sexual intimacy is one of the most damaged aspects of a marriage after there's been betrayal from porn addiction. Yet most couples, don't know how to restore intimacy in a healthy way, navigate the triggers, rejection, and increase trust and desire. Listen in on an actual coaching session where I help a couple process through triggers and rejection to ultimately feel closer than they ever have tog...

Can you heal your marriage if he's still falling back into the addiction? What if there is abuse? And is it really safe to be doing work on the relationship early on? (Hint: it's not what you think..) I talk about each of these scenarios and help you thread the needle through how complex things can get when you're trying to heal and move forward. Want access to a free couple's course I created for...

There is a 6 letter word that MOST people identify with and they need to stop if they want to stop watching porn for good! So if your goal is to heal from addiction or trauma, avoiding this at all costs if crucial. Want to get in touch? I'd love to hear from you! If you want help healing addiction, trauma, and the relationship, you can get in touch with me at support@healingcouples.org Feel free t...

It's true.. my wife HATES talking about how she feels.. (for real) And I know there are a lot of people out there who are married to someone who feels similar... So in this episode I explain exactly how I navigate it and still create a strong relationship with her. I give you a behind-the-scenes look into my own marriage with her with an undercover recorded conversation where I model for you how t...

How can she know if he's telling truth? After she find out about his porn addiction, it makes her question everything.. Listen to today's episode to hear my thoughts and how you can avoid the dreaded back and forth of: Her: "I can't believe what you're saying." Him: "I'm telling you the truth."  Her: "No, you're not." Him: "Yes. I don't know what else you want me to say..." And as always, this epi...

What should you do he is resistant to changing or fully committing to overcoming the addiction? The answer might surprise both of you.  In this episode, he will begin to see that motivation isn’t as important as everyone says it is, and she’ll discover that there’s a lot more hope for change than she expected. >>> Get in Touch! >> Free Course

If you want a stronger relationship, but have been told to focus on yourself instead, this episode will be your guide to perfectly integrating both aspects. Sadly, most couples are unintentionally neglecting one of the greatest sources of healing, and I want to show you exactly how you can start to tap into and get support from this resource. >>> Get in Touch! >> Free Course