Confident Sober Women

The journey from early sobriety to long-term recovery.  Becky’s first 18 months of sobriety were all white knuckled and left her with a huge amount of rage. She was dry but not sober. Then she found her way into a 12-step program.  She described her childhood exposure to alcohol like the movie Everything, Everywhere, All At Once.  Becky talks about the difference between women in early sobriety an...

Amy has always been passionate about health and wants to help people change their lives using nutrition. Amy started drinking more heavily due to grief and realized she wanted to get sober. She is now a woman in long-term sobriety. Amy talks about her process in working with women around building a healthy lifestyle. She knows that it is usually a big change so she starts with “ditching the bag” r...

Have you ever been so exhausted you thought drinking was the solution to your problems?  Meg is an ordinary mom trapped in the mommy wine culture. She began her sober curious journey in November of 2019 where her love of science led her to discover the real truth about alcohol and its seductive lies. Meg shares how she was sucked into what society told her was the solution to her problem which led...

Are you an expert at taking breaks from alcohol? Susie was an avid runner and fitness guru. She started to make the connection between her alcohol use and feeling bad during training so she had periods of time where she took a break from alcohol. She felt she became an expert at taking breaks from alcohol. This helped her accomplish things when she did. She shares how the glamorization of alcohol...

Happy New Year! Are you a resolution person?  I am not, and I explain more about this in the intro to this episode. I am a huge believer in sustainable change and we can decide at any time when we want to make a change, set a goal, or learn something new. Life as an alcohol-free woman is filled with lies we tell ourselves, I bet you could name a few right now. Today I am kicking off the 2024 Confi...

This is a re-publishing of episode 115 from earlier this year but seems incredibly impactful at this point. I wanted to re-share our conversation but Dawn is doing incredible work and has inspired me with her organization, She Recovers. So much so that I became a professional designee with She Recoers this year and I am proud to be part of their movement.  Enjoy this conversation and look forward...

This is the last episode of the 2023 season and I wanted to share a message with you about doing hard things.  As women in long-term sobriety, we have already done a whole lot of really hard things. Life will never stop giving us challenges. They are always there for all of us. But the best way to handle it is to get better at hard things, instead of always seeking easy.  Sobriety affords you the...

How do you balance your life between work and self-care? Kristi Coulter is a woman in long-term sobriety and a former high-level executive at Amazon. She justified her drinking because she didn’t look like those other people who were problem drinkers, and she was successful.  Sobriety gave her a story but also the stamina to do difficult things.  Kristi was a high achiever as a young person and th...

When you are overcome with anxiety, grief or sadness what do you do? Despite being the fastest swimmer in the country at one point Hilary Phelps never felt good enough, pretty enough or smart enough in her life. She started using drugs and alcohol to make her feel a part of.  She focused more on the negative so the accomplishments or compliments couldn’t even get into her energy field. Through her...

Do you have a plan for sober success this holiday season? We know that preparation is the key to success in all things and this time of year is no exception.  Heather Lowe shares some amazing insight into how to manage work environments as well as family situations where drinking is a main event.  The facts are 1/3 of the population doesn’t want at all but we are put in situations when we feel pre...

Have you ever been embarrassed to share a mistake you made so you just tried to cover it up? Today I share with you what happened last week, and how I woke up to a flooded basement. It has been a bit of a time lately with a lot of cleaning, moving things, getting estimates, and my daughters coming home from college. Thankfully I have the tools today to take care of myself in long-term sobriety. In...

Boadi Moore is the author of three books one of which is, Healing Your Attachment Wounds: A Guide to Healing What's Hidden in Your Attachment Style and Relationships'. We discuss her findings in the study of attachment most specifically in relation to her experience with motherhood, intimate relationships, addiction and long-term sobriety. In this book, Boadi digs deep to break down how...

This is day 1 of the Thriving in Long-Term Sobriety workshop series I did in October 2023. It was also streamed to my Facebook group, Confident Sober Women. In this episode, I share the three shifts that are necessary for you to thrive in long-term recovery and elevate your life in recovery.  This is the beginning of the emotional sobriety work in order to gain more confidence, build deeper and fu...

This is Day 2 of the Thriving in Long Term Sobriety workshop series I hosted in October 2023. It was also streamed into the Confident Sober Women Facebook group. In this episode, we talked about the first two pillars of the Sober Freedom Transformation , which is the program for women who have a  year or more of sobriety and are waking up to the possibilities of what life can be like.  We discuss...

This is Day 2 of the Thriving in Long Term Sobriety workshop series I hosted in October 2023. It was also streamed into the Confident Sober Women Facebook group. In this episode, we talked about the second two pillars of the Sober Freedom Transformation , which is the program for women who have a  year or more of sobriety and are waking up to the possibilities of what life can be like.  We discuss...

Lynnae was young when she got sober and she describes hitting a physical bottom and being overly sensitive. Her recovery was being in those thoughts and emotions and grew into learning how not to feel so intensely. Her sons addition forced her to dig further into the tools of long-term sobriety.  Lyannae shared that she had a wonder woman mentality that the bigger the problem she was dealing with...

Jo Weatherford is a woman in long-term recovery and a friend of the Confident Sober Women podcast. She was on the podcast back on March 22, 2022 episode 70 Overcoming Victim Consciousness where she shared a lot of her story and focused on the difference between knowledge and action. Check it out. We talked a lot about what it’s like after the first year of sobriety, the changing in thinking patter...

Nikki is an incredible truth teller in long term sobriety who is on fire for Jesus. She and her husband started a celebrate recovery program in their community and are truly thriving and offering hope to so many who need it. Between them they have 9 kids, a true his, hers and ours situation. Nikki said the key to her success in sobriety is to always remain teachable. She share how different season...

Today I wanted to share with you part of my TedX talk from May 2023 where I uncovered the truth about the lies we believe. This is just a clip of the talk specifically highlighting the lies however you can go listen to the whole thing here . Long term recovery is different than early sobriety. It's an amazing time of awakening, growth, building confidence, emotional sobriety, and pursuing the...

Oliveyah was born into a cult and often found herself living in a “drama triangle”. She used Alanon to help her learn how to take responsibility for her life and stop being a victim. Oliveyah learned she could change her next thought and her next action.  Today, Oliveyah helps other people be in alignment with the choices they have. This process is so important as we grow into emotional sobriety,...

Chelsea was “thirsty” for all knowledge regarding getting well. She shared about her personal relationships and the challenges she had with the most intimate ones after she got sober. We also talked about sugar and our obsession with it as an indicator of becoming an addict later because of the similar qualities it has to alcohol. Chelsea shared how giving up sugar for her was harder than alcohol....

What’s it like after a year? That is the theme of today's conversation and Hadley did not disappoint. We did into the identity issues that are sure to arise after we stay sober, the changes in our relationships, and the bubbling up of the desires of our hearts. Hadley is an avid distance runner, a woman in long-term sobriety, a mother of three, and an author of an up-and-coming book. You can...

Brooke and I continue our conversation from last week today. We talked about the highs and lows with blood sugar and how that makes us not feel good or causes fatigue as well as depression and anxiety.  Breaking the cycle needs to be our priority. We want the part of us that has the value of health and vitality to be in charge. We have more willpower when our blood sugar is in control.  Brooke tal...

Dr. Brooke Scheller was a heavy drinker for years as she earned a master's degree and a doctorate in the wellness field. She loves to use her functional medicine training to help people solve the “mysteries” of what’s wrong with them.  Because of her background in health and wellness, Brooke knew she was living a double life, yet she couldn’t stop. She helps her client focus on “the one thing...

Sobriety is ONLY the beginning. We do so much work to become alcohol free which is a miracle, but the emotional sobriety comes later. After I got sober in 2002 it became apparent that the biggest challenge I faced in those first few years was my negative thinking patterns. I was stuck in a cycle that had me continuously beating myself up every day. I was sober and of course, I felt a lot better an...