Confidence

If you've ever wondered why you feel like a catch but it doesn't ever seem to be enough for someone, this is the episode for you. I’ll explore why a little healthy conflict is essential for lasting attraction, how to manage guilt when dating multiple people, and why sticking up for yourself can lead to uncomfortable but necessary outcomes. Let's unpack one of dating's trickiest dil...

I’ve always struggled with commitment. I am constantly on guard for any signs of mistrust and as a result protect myself with multiple surface-level connections. Today’s episode is a very vulnerable insight into my recent breakup, my inner demons, and my constant battle with self-worth and seeking that external validation. It seems I am constantly looking for perfection in relationships, and I’ve...

Is it a healthy boundary, or are you just pushing something good away? In today’s episode, I’m getting very real about the breakup I just went through, how hard it was to walk away from something that felt safe, and the deep emotional battle between fear and alignment. I’m reading straight from my journal after ending the relationship, and sharing what finally gave me clarity. Then, I’m answering...

Ever felt judged for something you did years ago? In this episode, I'm diving deep into retroactive jealousy: why it happens, when it’s fair (and when it’s not), and how to deal with people who can’t let go of your past. I talk body count, male friendships, party girl narratives, and more. I’ll touch on the hardships of modern dating and how our gender dating roles are culturally shifting. Plus, I...

What do you do when it seems like they want you but not a relationship? Or when they judge your past even though it had nothing to do with them? In this episode, I'll talk about setting boundaries even when it scares you, how to confidently slide into DMs (with some wild personal examples), and how to avoid letting your insecurities destroy your self-worth. I'll also cover how to reframe comparing...

Ever feel like your relationship is amazing, only for reality to suddenly hit hard? In today's episode, I'm sharing my rollercoaster week filled with unexpected conflicts, triggering conversations, and deep emotional reflections. We'll unpack why relationships often shift after the honeymoon phase and how confronting issues head-on can either strengthen your bond or clarify your true needs. Plus,...

To be or not to be, commit or not to commit ... that is the question. In today’s episode, I’m breaking down the different phases of commitment, the real dating timeline, and the characteristics of a potential genuine relationship. Then, I go on a giant rant about men following girls on Instagram: what’s normal, what’s shady, and when it’s a straight-up red flag. Also, I tackle a listener’s dilemma...

Ever wonder why someone hesitates to commit, even when everything seems perfect? In this deeply personal episode, I open up about my struggles with commitment, exploring the fears, insecurities, and avoidant tendencies running through my brain. I discuss the myth of rushing into relationships and how true love demands patience and authenticity. I also tackle a listener's question about how to know...

Learning to let go and receive love is so underrated. It's a hidden hardship you must face if you're actually going to make a relationship work. In today’s episode, we’re breaking down a big question: How long does it take for a man to know if he likes you? We’re talking about the natural timeline of attraction, why rushing into relationships backfires, and the difference between genuine i...

Is that anxious feeling just your attachment issues flaring up, or is it a sign to walk away? In today’s episode, I’m breaking down why avoidant people cycle in and out, when to communicate vs. when to cut someone off, and how to actually enforce your boundaries (without getting caught in the push-pull game). Plus, I’m answering a listener question about managing no-contact when you still have to...

Ever feel like the harder you try, the worse it gets? Today's episode starts with a hard lesson in letting go of control and learning not to force anything in your life. Then, I tackle your submitted questions. Y'all provided some great ones, some sus ones, and everything in between. I’ll give my two cents on why we all seem to measure every new person against our ex. Spoiler alert: it’s not a bad...

Do you get easily triggered? One of the biggest struggles that you will face in finding or maintaining secure relationships is a lack of awareness of how your past trauma affects your current reactions. I've always known that I could be reactionary, but I never really understood it until today. In today’s episode, I’m taking you inside the work I’ve done to break the cycle of fear, abandonment...

Buckle up, it's avoidant attachment week. In today's episode, we are NOT talking about how to deal with an avoidant partner, but what to do if you ARE the avoidant partner! And let me tell you, many of you are more avoidant than you think you are. Let's get into what makes someone avoidant, why you struggle with intimacy, and how to finally find the love you have always wanted. Plus, I...

You start off mysterious, independent, and playing it cool—then you finally show real interest, and suddenly, they’re gone. What the hell happened? In today’s episode, I’m breaking down why people crave the chase, the science behind dopamine in dating, and why some people are addicted to uncertainty. You’ll learn why their mixed signals feel so intoxicating, how to spot the difference between real...

Isn't it wild how you can know a relationship wasn't for you and still miss that person? Maybe you feel guilty or want a further explanation. In today's episode, I share why it's so hard to move on (even when you know it's not right). I will break down why you cling to the familiar, how you romanticize the past, and why you're struggling to accept your reality. I then hit y...

Dating these days? A whole mess. In this episode, I break down why the dating scene feels so ghetto right now, based on your responses to my question box. From hookup culture to emotional unavailability, we’re diving into the stats, the struggles, and the straight-up nonsense. I’ll call out why so many people are stuck chasing unavailable partners, why connection isn’t the same as commitment, and...

Everybody’s scared. Scared to put themselves out there, scared of looking needy, scared of being turned down. And that fear? It’s keeping you stuck. Ghosting, playing games, hyper-individualism—this is modern dating, where everyone sits behind a screen hoping something magical just happens. In today's episode, I share why the fear of rejection is a self-fulfilling prophecy designed to keep you stu...

We’re back, baby! A new year means new opportunities and another chance to create real change. In today’s episode, I breakdown the causes and differences behind the patterns of validation-seeking, approval-seeking, and people-pleasing behaviors. I talk about how these habits lead to chasing relationships, prioritizing others’ needs over your own, and losing touch your true self. It’s time to let g...

It's the season finale!! This will be the last episode until January 6th, 2025! It's been a crazy year filled with tough lessons, transformative moments, and some serious inner work. In today's episode, I share some final thoughts about happiness, deep love, emotional healing, and over-accountability. We all have a vision of the type of relationship we want in life, but sometimes, that vision can...

I'm sorry. I am sorry for how I have shown up in my relationships this year. Maybe an apology is unnecessary, but when you hold yourself to a higher standard, sometimes you need to admit when you didn't get things right. In today's episode, I will share some of the biggest lessons I have learned about dating this year. I open up about my deepest fear in relationships and how I have not truly been...

Unrequited love, also known as one-sided love, is when someone has romantic feelings or a strong desire to be close to another person, but that person doesn't feel the same way. If you have ever really cared bout someone, you know how hard it is when that love is not returned. How long do you hold on knowing that what you want or need is not fully fulfilled? At what point is enough enough? In this...

It's been a long relationship road for me in 2024. I have dealt with heartbreak, inconsistent energy, and the breaking of old relationship patterns. In this episode, I share the final chapter of how that uncomfortable growth led me to my breaking point. I tackle the concept of ego love versus authentic love. How do you handle dealing with a partner who hasn't shown up for you? When is enough enoug...

The talking stage: where red flags look green, and commitment is always just another day away. In this episode, I explore the science behind why we often lose our good judgment during this phase and why attachment tends to deepen after sex. Managing feelings during this phase can be challenging, so here are some steps to help you navigate the anxiety of dealing with uncertainty and hot-and-cold pa...

What happens when you catch feelings for someone who might not see you the same? Do you share your true feelings or play it cool? In this episode, I share a story of catching quick feelings, noticing inconsistent behavior, and the hardship of sharing your vulnerability while trying to balance holding great boundaries. I then tackle your question on how to heal self-abandonment after experiencing l...

Are you stuck in a hot-and-cold relationship? Did they say they weren’t ready, but you still can’t seem to let go? Today, I’m going to help you get the power back! I will give the exact steps necessary to knock them off that pedestal and get the respect you deserve. I also got a question from a listener about what to feel if they do come back. We'll talk about the uncomfortable truth about power d...