Confidence

We’re back, baby! A new year means new opportunities and another chance to create real change. In today’s episode, I breakdown the causes and differences behind the patterns of validation-seeking, approval-seeking, and people-pleasing behaviors. I talk about how these habits lead to chasing relationships, prioritizing others’ needs over your own, and losing touch your true self. It’s time to let g...

It's the season finale!! This will be the last episode until January 6th, 2025! It's been a crazy year filled with tough lessons, transformative moments, and some serious inner work. In today's episode, I share some final thoughts about happiness, deep love, emotional healing, and over-accountability. We all have a vision of the type of relationship we want in life, but sometimes, that vision can...

I'm sorry. I am sorry for how I have shown up in my relationships this year. Maybe an apology is unnecessary, but when you hold yourself to a higher standard, sometimes you need to admit when you didn't get things right. In today's episode, I will share some of the biggest lessons I have learned about dating this year. I open up about my deepest fear in relationships and how I have not truly been...

Unrequited love, also known as one-sided love, is when someone has romantic feelings or a strong desire to be close to another person, but that person doesn't feel the same way. If you have ever really cared bout someone, you know how hard it is when that love is not returned. How long do you hold on knowing that what you want or need is not fully fulfilled? At what point is enough enough? In this...

It's been a long relationship road for me in 2024. I have dealt with heartbreak, inconsistent energy, and the breaking of old relationship patterns. In this episode, I share the final chapter of how that uncomfortable growth led me to my breaking point. I tackle the concept of ego love versus authentic love. How do you handle dealing with a partner who hasn't shown up for you? When is enough enoug...

The talking stage: where red flags look green, and commitment is always just another day away. In this episode, I explore the science behind why we often lose our good judgment during this phase and why attachment tends to deepen after sex. Managing feelings during this phase can be challenging, so here are some steps to help you navigate the anxiety of dealing with uncertainty and hot-and-cold pa...

What happens when you catch feelings for someone who might not see you the same? Do you share your true feelings or play it cool? In this episode, I share a story of catching quick feelings, noticing inconsistent behavior, and the hardship of sharing your vulnerability while trying to balance holding great boundaries. I then tackle your question on how to heal self-abandonment after experiencing l...

Are you stuck in a hot-and-cold relationship? Did they say they weren’t ready, but you still can’t seem to let go? Today, I’m going to help you get the power back! I will give the exact steps necessary to knock them off that pedestal and get the respect you deserve. I also got a question from a listener about what to feel if they do come back. We'll talk about the uncomfortable truth about power d...

This week, I will take you through everything you need to know about anxious attachment. I start by describing how people might develop anxious attachments from childhood. From there, I’ll walk you through practical steps to overcome limiting beliefs, manage that hypervigilant inner voice, and learn to spot—and choose—more secure partners. I also get into why anxious people typically get caught in...

You asked me, "If an avoidant is hot and cold... saying he loves me, then ghosting me... is there any way to get his initial version back and rekindle the relationship? He reminds me of you, Chris." Yikes!! (Spoiler alert: You're not wrong!!) This week’s episode is a full deep dive into avoidant attachments and the nuances of dealing with an avoidant partner. I start by breaking down the two types...

Being single ain't easy, but you know what’s even harder? Thinking that being single means you can’t be happy. In this episode, I dive into the toughest parts of being single and how to handle them. We’ll talk about the discomfort of sleeping alone, the lack of intimacy, the fear of never finding your person, comparing yourself to others, and—most importantly—how to fall in love with your life as...

As much as I have always been genuine and authentic on this podcast, there have been some things I have been resisting discussing. This week, I share my true, vulnerable feelings and experiences that I have neglected to open up about. I then get into your questions; we are going to be talking about how to find the cl*t, strategies for short kings looking to cuff, my biggest first date turn-off, an...

This week, I asked you, "What's your #1 value in a relationship?" But before we dive into that, have you ever wondered how to stop attracting toxic partners? I’ve got the solution. In this episode, I walk you through a powerful exercise that uses your past relationships to help you uncover your dating blind spots. Turns out, those toxic partners taught us something after all! We’ll also talk about...

In this episode, we cover three main limiting beliefs when it comes to relationships. These include finding a balance between independence and dependence, trust issues, and giving too much energy but not receiving it. We then talk about the taxi cab theory, debunking any myths and affirming the truths that come with it. Men aren’t capable of commitment and women are jaded… who’s to blame? Chapters...

In this episode, we explore how to be genuinely happy while single, embracing this time as an opportunity for self-discovery, growth, and independence. We'll share powerful insights on building a life you love without waiting for a partner, finding joy in your company, and using this period to pursue your passions and goals unapologetically. We’ll In this episode, I'll explore how to be ge...

In this episode, I explore the ever-complicated question: how to get your ex back and, more importantly, whether you should even want to. With help from the audience, I'll discuss the reasons why people seek to rekindle past relationships and help you determine if it's genuinely in your best interest. I then respond to a situation where an audience member called off her engagement and is n...

Someone asked me this week, why are men in their "sassy era?" I give my thoughts on why people are having a harder time connecting, and how you can start creating more connections and purging the wrong ones. What makes you a hookup girl versus the wifey type? Let's discuss how you can begin to change their perception of you, and what you can do if you are stuck in that box. I go over...

In this episode, I tackle how to deal with a man who is emotionally unavailable but still wants to keep you around. I present two common pitfalls you might fall into while managing emotionally unavailable individuals. I'll share strategies for protecting your peace while deciding whether to stay or move on. Additionally, I will present a new perspective on trust that altered the way I handle m...

In this episode, we explore the crucial question: how do you know if someone is real and genuinely cares about you? We'll discuss the key signs to look for and how to trust your intuition in relationships. From setting boundaries to understanding the importance of communication, we’ll also discuss empowerment during dating. Are you settling? This week, we cover the vital topic of getting your...

Are you struggling to stay detached and find yourself stuck in cycles of attachment, comparison, and longing for specific outcomes? Whether you're having trouble moving on from someone or letting go of past failures, this episode will guide you through the steps to build fulfillment beyond the negative memories and the past. It won't be easy, but this uncomfortable accountability is exactl...

Where your attention goes, your energy flows. In today's episode, I share some exciting insights on refocusing your attention and consciousness, releasing guilt, and shifting your mindset during a separation. I addressed two questions: first, how to start over after losing everything; and second, how to navigate dating when you don't feel a spark but the person seems perfect on paper. Chap...

The dust has settled, and it's a time for deep self-reflection. In today's episode, I take an intense inventory of my past patterns and how I've missed the mark on maintaining healthy commitment. Through my mistakes, I will help you open your eyes to your potentially unconscious controlling and manipulative behaviors. I discuss learning from your pain, accepting it, and moving forward...

It was not an easy week, to say the least. I recorded this podcast an hour after getting my heartbroken. I discuss the lead-up, the last call, lessons learned, and moving forward. An emotional and vulnerable episode, no sympathy needed. Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Sign up for my free...

In this episode, I share essential tips on cultivating unshakable confidence in your daily life and relationships. We'll debunk the myth that dating is harder than it used to be, showing how today's challenges are simply different, not more difficult. Additionally, we'll address the misconception that men are less masculine now, exploring how masculinity has evolved over time. Don'...

In this episode, we explore the intriguing concept of Black Cat/Golden Retriever energy in relationships, decoding how these contrasting personalities interact and complement each other. We'll also tackle the Trad Wife vs. Boss Babe Phenomenon, examining the cultural and societal forces behind these archetypes and offering insights into their unique strengths. Finally, we'll address one of...