Confidence

In this episode, we explore the compelling question: why do men find accomplished women so intimidating? We'll delve into societal influences, personal insecurities, and the power dynamics at play to offer a proper understanding of this phenomenon. Balancing no expectations with the desire for clarity in dating can be a tricky tightrope. We'll discuss practical tips for effective communica...

Are you often stuck in a cycle of being the fixer in a relationship with someone who seems perpetually broken? We'll explore this dynamic and I’ll provide insights on how to break free and foster healthier connections. In this episode, we tackle the importance of taking accountability for your emotional unavailability rather than placing the blame elsewhere. We'll dive into how trust issue...

In this episode, we discuss striking a careful balance between having to know where you stand with your relationship and just going with the flow. To help you make a first impression and establish the foundation for a deep relationship, I share helpful first-date advice. Have you ever been perplexed by someone whose behaviour contradicts their claimed need for a relationship? We'll uncover the...

Let's explore the psychology behind why our feelings change once we get what we thought we wanted and the self-reflection that comes with it. Why do we lose interest once we finally have the person we desire? Is it about them, or is it more about us? I’ll also talk about how exhausting it can be to constantly show up for people who don’t show up for you in return. It's draining, but necess...

I don't think you understand how deep the ego goes. You think you're dating and showing up with pure intentions, but if we take a look a little deeper, you might find some dark truths about your behavior. I explore the power of non-attachment and practicing non-judgment. I then confront you on the real reasons you are not dating right now. I field a question regarding casual relationships:...

This is the week you actually start being judgemental! I plead for you to trust your instincts and live for your own expectations. I talk about how many of us grew up with emotionally dismissive parents and how it can lead to your people pleasing and high standards, but before I hit you with the hard stuff, I absolutely trauma dump my inner battle with jealousy and envy. Isn't it funny that someti...

When is enough enough? This week, I get deep into feelings about why it is hard for men to settle for the ones they "love." I then tackle how to combat the love bomber and the importance of controlling your access. Someone asked me what does "setting a bound even mean? I provide some guidance and examples to give you a better understanding. This then ties into a question I received...

This week, I come out swinging! I'm done listing to the online boss babes and hype women, and I am here to deliver the hard truth of why they haven't committed yet. I then move into why your fear of wasting your time is hurting your dating life and where your anxious attachment can kill your spark in communication. I end the podcast with some vulnerability about the dog days of being reall...

It's 2024, and the art of flirting seems to be lost to doom-scrolling dating apps and direct messages. Don't you want to meet people organically? Maybe you don't know how, or maybe you want to step up your game. Today's episode features a detailed look at approaching, signaling, and closing the deal with people out in the wild. I provide a simple process to create connections with...

Keeping your options open is never a bad thing until you invite one of the options around the other in broad daylight. This week, I tell two whacky stories about two women involved with other men, which makes me question my sanity. I then got some wild questions from y'all this week. We talked about the stigma around body piercings, going downtown on a girl, wife duties, and what it means when...

In this episode, I reflect on my recent success finding high levels of happiness and self-confidence. I also discuss my new approach to dating and how I vet potential partners. Can people really be straightforward with their intentions? Do guys really know whether or not they want to date you as soon as they meet you? Setting boundaries and staying disciplined to your goals takes a level of focus...

Oh boy do we have a great episode for you this week. Blast from the past! Nappi & Jay are back at it again with some heat! We discuss guys wearing makeup, how my sex game has plateaued, no-nonsense chicks sliding into my DMs, and our choice of foreplay. For the main course, Jay and I both took turns trying to unravel each other's toxic patterns in relationships and how they led to the demi...

Have you ever been sent home all riled up and ready to go? This week, we go inside the minds of men who have been pushed to their edge. Speaking of what's going on in his head, does a guy following girls mean the end of a relationship? Why does his instagram activity look like a warzone of hot chicks and booty-building workouts? Before we rub that out, I discuss the chokehold social media has...

I got roasted for my actions on the previous podcast, 'Boys Lie.' This week's episode features my thoughts on the fallout of my relationship and some harsh but valid comments on my recent actions. It's fucking hard to close a chapter with someone you deeply care about, even when you know it's not right. I help provide some clarity on what a guy means when he tells you that he i...

I've been struggling for the past few days with releasing this. A lot of people feel that some things are better left private. I have to think about the feelings of others (especially the girl I hurt + whom I care about the most); I also think about how others will perceive me. Something I have always stuck by is that I am going to tell my story as it is, in good and bad, no matter what, and s...

A meeting with my therapist set off an inner conflict in me that pushed my long-distance situation to the edge. Can love in the talking stage really survive a cross-country distance? I also asked y'all the question "is he playing hard to get, or is he really not that into you?" A lot of people wondered can a man really be playing hard to get? Maybe it's more of determining if he&...

I'm not going to lie (no pun intended); this week is a vulnerable look into a serious conflict that erupted over the past week with long-distance situation. How would you feel if you found out your partner deleted text messages? Would you leave the relationship? Are they really a bad person, or did they have a reason? I discuss a character trait that has destroyed a lot of my past relationship...

It's time to get down and dirty. This week, I will answer your questions: what is considered bad s*x from a man's perspective, how do I move on from or detach from them quickly (especially when I know it's not the right thing for me), and why do men are scared to make the first move. Before we get to that, I share a personal story about the tricky trials of the talking stage and postin...

It's the week of Valentine's Day, which means I have an exciting announcement (listen for details). This week, I tackle where to find good men (or people in general), how to navigate the "how are you" guys on dating apps, and when is the appropriate time to go over a guy's house when you first start dating. I also share the top gift ideas for your man, did someone say BJ?? I...

Ready to take your situationship and turn it into a relationship well here is the MF blueprint! We explore how a man thinks when it comes to Instagram dating and why he only likes and comments but never follows through. We also look at how to handle someone talking shit when things don't work out the way we want it to. This episode is jam-packed with so many dating nuggets you don't want t...

Well, it's time to get your sh*t together. This week's episode is a massive wake-up call for you and me. I discuss my recently victimish and selfish ways that have caused a stir in my relationships. The only way out is to go back in. Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Website: https://confidencechris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_...

After a few week-long hiatus, I figured it was time to come back to tell my story. In this episode, I face the paradox of detachment: I give some guidance on how women can best combat their attachment to the wrong men while facing my own problems trying to detach from work. Speaking of work, have you ever dated someone who does the same thing as you? Also, it seems like this long-distance situatio...

Have you ever been in a piss-poor mood, and you just can’t shake the feeling? Woof, well, here you go, an episode where I am sarcastically battling my whirlwind of shitty emotions. I explore how even those who “have it all together” can easily find their way into a victim mentality and a negative mindset. I’ll discuss why I feel this way and my attempts to work out of it. I’ll even touch on how my...

It’s been a while since the last podcast. It feels good to be back! Boy, a lot has happened, from a crisis averted to meeting a girl with all green flags (team wholesome?) and evaluating some serious life choices. Can a major roadblock lead to a better path forward? Maybe so, but change is uncomfortable as a mother fucker, and can have you feeling more stuck than you've ever been before. To ge...

Disclaimer, feeling a little raunchy this week and it might be because of my celibacy update. As I dive into this episode starting off with a bang (literally) and quickly I’m reminded to always trust my intuition. I talk about the big question everyone asks, “Is being intimate on the first date really an issue” and how mental and sexual connections can differ amongst partners. I then tackle signs...