Confidence

This week, I will take you through everything you need to know about anxious attachment. I start by describing how people might develop anxious attachments from childhood. From there, I’ll walk you through practical steps to overcome limiting beliefs, manage that hypervigilant inner voice, and learn to spot—and choose—more secure partners. I also get into why anxious people typically get caught in...

You asked me, "If an avoidant is hot and cold... saying he loves me, then ghosting me... is there any way to get his initial version back and rekindle the relationship? He reminds me of you, Chris." Yikes!! (Spoiler alert: You're not wrong!!) This week’s episode is a full deep dive into avoidant attachments and the nuances of dealing with an avoidant partner. I start by breaking down the two types...

Being single ain't easy, but you know what’s even harder? Thinking that being single means you can’t be happy. In this episode, I dive into the toughest parts of being single and how to handle them. We’ll talk about the discomfort of sleeping alone, the lack of intimacy, the fear of never finding your person, comparing yourself to others, and—most importantly—how to fall in love with your life as...

As much as I have always been genuine and authentic on this podcast, there have been some things I have been resisting discussing. This week, I share my true, vulnerable feelings and experiences that I have neglected to open up about. I then get into your questions; we are going to be talking about how to find the cl*t, strategies for short kings looking to cuff, my biggest first date turn-off, an...

This week, I asked you, "What's your #1 value in a relationship?" But before we dive into that, have you ever wondered how to stop attracting toxic partners? I’ve got the solution. In this episode, I walk you through a powerful exercise that uses your past relationships to help you uncover your dating blind spots. Turns out, those toxic partners taught us something after all! We’ll also talk about...

In this episode, we cover three main limiting beliefs when it comes to relationships. These include finding a balance between independence and dependence, trust issues, and giving too much energy but not receiving it. We then talk about the taxi cab theory, debunking any myths and affirming the truths that come with it. Men aren’t capable of commitment and women are jaded… who’s to blame? Chapters...

In this episode, we explore how to be genuinely happy while single, embracing this time as an opportunity for self-discovery, growth, and independence. We'll share powerful insights on building a life you love without waiting for a partner, finding joy in your company, and using this period to pursue your passions and goals unapologetically. We’ll In this episode, I'll explore how to be ge...

In this episode, I explore the ever-complicated question: how to get your ex back and, more importantly, whether you should even want to. With help from the audience, I'll discuss the reasons why people seek to rekindle past relationships and help you determine if it's genuinely in your best interest. I then respond to a situation where an audience member called off her engagement and is n...

Someone asked me this week, why are men in their "sassy era?" I give my thoughts on why people are having a harder time connecting, and how you can start creating more connections and purging the wrong ones. What makes you a hookup girl versus the wifey type? Let's discuss how you can begin to change their perception of you, and what you can do if you are stuck in that box. I go over...

In this episode, I tackle how to deal with a man who is emotionally unavailable but still wants to keep you around. I present two common pitfalls you might fall into while managing emotionally unavailable individuals. I'll share strategies for protecting your peace while deciding whether to stay or move on. Additionally, I will present a new perspective on trust that altered the way I handle m...

In this episode, we explore the crucial question: how do you know if someone is real and genuinely cares about you? We'll discuss the key signs to look for and how to trust your intuition in relationships. From setting boundaries to understanding the importance of communication, we’ll also discuss empowerment during dating. Are you settling? This week, we cover the vital topic of getting your...

Are you struggling to stay detached and find yourself stuck in cycles of attachment, comparison, and longing for specific outcomes? Whether you're having trouble moving on from someone or letting go of past failures, this episode will guide you through the steps to build fulfillment beyond the negative memories and the past. It won't be easy, but this uncomfortable accountability is exactl...

Where your attention goes, your energy flows. In today's episode, I share some exciting insights on refocusing your attention and consciousness, releasing guilt, and shifting your mindset during a separation. I addressed two questions: first, how to start over after losing everything; and second, how to navigate dating when you don't feel a spark but the person seems perfect on paper. Chap...

The dust has settled, and it's a time for deep self-reflection. In today's episode, I take an intense inventory of my past patterns and how I've missed the mark on maintaining healthy commitment. Through my mistakes, I will help you open your eyes to your potentially unconscious controlling and manipulative behaviors. I discuss learning from your pain, accepting it, and moving forward...

It was not an easy week, to say the least. I recorded this podcast an hour after getting my heartbroken. I discuss the lead-up, the last call, lessons learned, and moving forward. An emotional and vulnerable episode, no sympathy needed. Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Sign up for my free...

In this episode, I share essential tips on cultivating unshakable confidence in your daily life and relationships. We'll debunk the myth that dating is harder than it used to be, showing how today's challenges are simply different, not more difficult. Additionally, we'll address the misconception that men are less masculine now, exploring how masculinity has evolved over time. Don'...

In this episode, we explore the intriguing concept of Black Cat/Golden Retriever energy in relationships, decoding how these contrasting personalities interact and complement each other. We'll also tackle the Trad Wife vs. Boss Babe Phenomenon, examining the cultural and societal forces behind these archetypes and offering insights into their unique strengths. Finally, we'll address one of...

In this episode, we explore the compelling question: why do men find accomplished women so intimidating? We'll delve into societal influences, personal insecurities, and the power dynamics at play to offer a proper understanding of this phenomenon. Balancing no expectations with the desire for clarity in dating can be a tricky tightrope. We'll discuss practical tips for effective communica...

Are you often stuck in a cycle of being the fixer in a relationship with someone who seems perpetually broken? We'll explore this dynamic and I’ll provide insights on how to break free and foster healthier connections. In this episode, we tackle the importance of taking accountability for your emotional unavailability rather than placing the blame elsewhere. We'll dive into how trust issue...

In this episode, we discuss striking a careful balance between having to know where you stand with your relationship and just going with the flow. To help you make a first impression and establish the foundation for a deep relationship, I share helpful first-date advice. Have you ever been perplexed by someone whose behaviour contradicts their claimed need for a relationship? We'll uncover the...

Let's explore the psychology behind why our feelings change once we get what we thought we wanted and the self-reflection that comes with it. Why do we lose interest once we finally have the person we desire? Is it about them, or is it more about us? I’ll also talk about how exhausting it can be to constantly show up for people who don’t show up for you in return. It's draining, but necess...

I don't think you understand how deep the ego goes. You think you're dating and showing up with pure intentions, but if we take a look a little deeper, you might find some dark truths about your behavior. I explore the power of non-attachment and practicing non-judgment. I then confront you on the real reasons you are not dating right now. I field a question regarding casual relationships:...

This is the week you actually start being judgemental! I plead for you to trust your instincts and live for your own expectations. I talk about how many of us grew up with emotionally dismissive parents and how it can lead to your people pleasing and high standards, but before I hit you with the hard stuff, I absolutely trauma dump my inner battle with jealousy and envy. Isn't it funny that someti...

When is enough enough? This week, I get deep into feelings about why it is hard for men to settle for the ones they "love." I then tackle how to combat the love bomber and the importance of controlling your access. Someone asked me what does "setting a bound even mean? I provide some guidance and examples to give you a better understanding. This then ties into a question I received...

This week, I come out swinging! I'm done listing to the online boss babes and hype women, and I am here to deliver the hard truth of why they haven't committed yet. I then move into why your fear of wasting your time is hurting your dating life and where your anxious attachment can kill your spark in communication. I end the podcast with some vulnerability about the dog days of being reall...