Confidence

You know those phases in life where you’re torn between building your dream and building a life with someone? This episode gets deep down into how avoidance shows up in men, what they are actually thinking when they pull back, and why so many people are chasing achievement to fill a void they don’t even see. I also share a personal story of how I stood firm in my boundaries and truth with an avoid...

Let’s take you through the mind of an avoidant, a self-aware one at that. I’ll discuss why getting the ick might be a form of unconscious self-sabotage, why our society craves fake love, and how to better regulate and communicate as an avoidant. If you ever catch yourself missing someone who is not choosing you, let me teach you how to change the narrative and start attracting people who are actua...

Did you really do too much? ... This week, we will start with why our nervous system pushes us into anxious spirals and overthinking. I'll then give you a powerful tool to combat your anxiety and show you how to stay calm when dating feels uncertain. I'll guide you on how to maintain your peace while meeting new people, especially if you struggle with limerance. I'll also touch on the...

It's episode 100, wow what a journey! Today I am going to share the 3 most important mindset shifts I've discovered as a coach. Are you ready to release control, kill perfectionism, and know the steps to building true confidence? I'll also share a few recent dating stories from swallowing my pride, choosing love over fear, and a wild story about ghosting and ex lovers. Work with me, si...

Dating is supposed to feel good, not confusing, not dismissive, not anxious. This week I talk about situations where ghosting might actually be necessary and why I have zero tolerance for poor communication. I'll share a great self-reflection exercise that reveals what drives you, what you fear, and where you place your worth, which will help you identify your attachments. I also tackle questi...

Have you ever been infatuated and start acting crazy? Well, do I have a story for you! I talk about my pattern of doing too much and how I am learning to slow down and trust myself. We’ll get into how you subconsciously communicate your worth, why being “too nice” too soon can kill attraction, and what it actually looks like to show up grounded and calm instead of overselling. Plus, I answer a lis...

I just got back from a ten-day trip to New York that completely pulled me out of my routine. No TikToks, no structure, just late nights, new people, and letting go of control. I share stories from the trip such as extending my flight last minute, getting ghosted after being real, and trusting that the right people and moments always show up when you stop forcing. This is about choosing love over f...

Are they really the next best thing, or are they just like everyone else? Today I had a new voice note coaching client who came to me spiraling and overthinking about her potential new boo. He was throwing everything at her: masculine energy, plans, good vibes, and all of a sudden, everything shifted. She gave me permission to share her question live on the podcast as well as my response. In this...

In today's episode, I am going to share with you my truest love and deepest fear. It's an exercise that I am going to share with you to help you get to the root of your more controlling beliefs. I'll talk about how these beliefs have played out in my relationships and why I’ve tied so much of my self-worth to attention. I get into the dark side of empathy, how being nice isn’t the same...

Some endings aren't meant to be rewritten. In this episode, I get into why it’s so tough to let go and why “spinning the block” usually leads to more chaos. I'll discuss how to find emotionally equipped partners, what it means when a man asks you to hang out but never follows through, and the harsh reality of why holding onto "what used to be" keeps you stuck. If you’ve ever need...

This week was a rollercoaster, dates, ghosting, old patterns showing up, and life testing tf out me. I follow up about the girl I went out with and how I still felt the energy was off, even though it looked good on paper. I'll give you guys a tool for how to digest a date, which will help you understand your experience. Then I get into a wild story about a four-hour FaceTime that went from “book a...

Are you ready to face yourself head-on? Today, I’m breaking down the discomfort and self-doubt that come with being on your own: the second-guessing, the weekends that feel too quiet, and the moments you want to run back to them for comfort. I talk about early-stage dating anxiety, how your avoidance sneaks into both relationships and work, and why relying on someone to “save” you is the fastest w...

Ever catch yourself spiraling in overthinking just to realize it all comes down to a single feeling? In today’s episode, I’m getting brutally honest about why so many of us can’t hear ourselves clearly. We’re so stuck in our heads, chasing validation, playing games, and managing other people’s emotions that we completely ignore how we actually feel. I tell my story about picking up a girl in publi...

I’ve always struggled to stand firm in my decisions. I used to see my trust issues as something outward, without realizing it was never about them ... it was always about me. Today, I'll share my breakthroughs on my journey to building genuine self-trust. I talk about how ego, fear, and expectation can keep us trapped in relationships and situations we don’t actually want to be in. I’ll give y...

I’ve been sitting with a lot of uncomfortable emotions this week. It’s hard not to feel some resistance when experiencing major change in your life. I’ve been learning to let go, surrender to how people show up, and recognize that building the most secure version of yourself takes time. I talk about what it means to really let go of safety, and why so many of us cling to relationships that don’t a...

I took this solo trip thinking it would be like a peaceful little reset. But instead, it turned into so much more. This emotional rollercoaster cracked me open in a way I didn’t expect. I talk about what it was like being isolated, completely surrounded by people, having to surrender to all the anxiety and loneliness, and it honestly changed everything for me. As I sat there with all these feeling...

I’ve been realizing how deep my avoidance runs, how I try to control everything just to avoid getting hurt. I talk about a moment this week that really triggered me, some shit came up in my relationship, and I was ready to dip … in the moment I realized that I had to sit with it and be like … am I actually scared of her, or am I scared of being loved? I discuss how I’ve been stuck in the cycle of...

There’s nothing more devastating to your relationships than your own ego. In this episode, I’m breaking down the patterns that keep us stuck in comparison, insecurity, and why nothing ever feels like enough. I’m sharing how I’ve been navigating my own ego, including a real story about an uncomfortable moment in my relationship. I also get into what to do when you’ve outgrown certain friendships or...

What if I told you that you ARE actually needy? That when you are accused of being too much, it ISN'T a lie, but it is not for the reason that you think! This week, I unpack a bunch of discoveries I've made for both anxious and avoidant attachments. I also made some enormous perosnal strides this week, I share about my incessant need for attention (maybe it's the attention I was depriv...

They always come back, don't they? I hate being a statistic, but this week I embarked on a very questionable quest in the middle of an anxiety attack. In today’s episode, I unpack my anxious avoidant patterns with a few wild stories. I'll also share some recent massive breakthroughs, such as the power of prioritizing self-satisfaction over external approval, and how to choose peace over pe...

Today, I'm going off-script, but on script, it's weird. I break down the steps of what it truly means to build self-security. I discuss the trap of chasing external validation and how real happiness lies in the uncomfortable journey inward. I unpack how to stop molding yourself for acceptance, why true worthiness isn’t based on your achievements, and how taking vulnerably risky action will...

Isn’t it wild how you can miss someone you don’t even want to be with? In today’s episode, I’ll tell you how I’ve been second-guessing myself and why I’ve struggled to walk away from something I knew wasn’t right. We’ll dig into avoidant attachment, self-trust, and the guilt that keeps you stuck. I also talk about redefining what I really want, cutting the bullshit in my dating life, and how easil...

A lot of men can’t stay still in a relationship, I am one of them. Today, I share my inner dialogue around my recent separation. I discuss the struggle of having high standards versus navigating avoidant attachment. I also unpack some tricky dating scenarios on whether or not to take that extra next date (if you aren’t feeling that initial spark), or what to do when the person you loved ran away a...

This week I welcome Rieya on the show! Rieya is one of my current clients, and this week she shares her story about how you end up in a relationship where you abandon yourself, ignore the red flags, and chase breadcrumbs. It’s not always obvious while it’s happening. We get into anxious attachment, over-functioning, and why it’s so hard to let go of someone who once treated you well. We also talk...

Ever find yourself stuck ruminating about why a relationship didn't work or obsessing over what could've been done differently? In today's episode, I break down the mindset shifts that helped me finally feel at peace, even amid uncertainty, and why embracing micro-rejections (or abandonment) can be your superpower. Plus, I'll cover the tough questions: When is the right time to break no contact wi...