Coming Up for Air

I want to talk about something that a lot of us go through… but few of us talk about out loud. The day you were supposed to get married… but didn’t. The day you thought would be your anniversary… but became something else entirely. I talk about how to cope mentally and physically in this episode. I actually went away to Greece, but I talk about if I didn't - what I would have done instead.  W...

On this episode I am talking about losing your firsts your first house, your first engagement, your first big love… and how to heal when the dream you built with someone else falls apart. Maybe your ex left. Maybe you had to walk away even when your heart didn’t want to. Maybe the life you thought you'd live just… evaporated. I go through how I felt losing the first time I got engaged and my...

 Seeing your ex move on can feel like a setback, even if the breakup is old. In this episode, we talk about why it hurts, how to cope, and what it really takes to move forward. From practical steps to mindset shifts, this is a straight-talking, compassionate guide to letting go and choosing yourself again. If you’re stuck in the pain of watching someone else start over, this one’s for you. Want Mo...

In todays episode I am talking about one of the hardest lessons to learn but also one of the most liberating: Let people show you who they are — and stop making excuses when they do. I know this can feel harsh. When someone you love hurts you or disappoints you, your brain wants to make sense of it. Your heart wants to protect the connection. And your nervous system wants to avoid the truth. But w...

In this episode we’re diving into something I know so many of us struggle with the fear of being single. Whether it’s fresh after a breakup or something that’s been lingering in the background for a while, that fear can feel all-consuming. But today, I want to help you reframe it, understand where it’s coming from, and give you the tools and mindset shifts to move through it feeling stronger, clea...

I saw this quote on the back of a toilet door - details in the episode. It really resonated with me because for ages I have said I am starting from scratch and it is so normal to think so but in this episode I talk about why you arent, and why your experience will be like your blue print that you carry into a new relationship.  Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula  My New Instagram - htt...

Breakups are horrible but the first swipe post-split? That’s a whole other level of weird. In this episode, I dive into the emotional rollercoaster of re-joining the world of dating apps after a breakup. Whether you're downloading Tinder for the fifth time or dipping a toe into Hinge, I talk about what it means to start over digitally. From ghosting fears to unexpected confidence boosts, I sh...

In this episode I talk about not giving up on yourself. It's so easy to think that one bad day or one difficult conversation is setting you back on your breakup healing. It's not. You have to allow these things to push you and move you forward. I felt like giving up on myself so many times. I am so glad that I learnt that there are lessons in mistakes and blessings in the breaking. Want...

Most breakup advice out there focuses on surface-level things: "block them," "keep busy," "treat yourself." But true mental detachment is deeper. It's not just about erasing someone from your phone — it’s about reclaiming the mental real estate they’re still renting in your mind, often without paying. In this episode. I’m sharing mindset shifts you might not have...

Breakups can feel like the end of everything — but what if they’re actually the beginning of something entirely new? In this episode, I’m answering one of my most asked questions: How do you heal from a breakup? But instead of just focusing on moving on, we’re talking about something deeper — how to clear the emotional clutter, release what no longer serves you, and make space for the next version...

My 'Becoming the Strongest Version of Yourself' – A 4-Week Post-Breakup Healing & Empowerment Course is going LIVE on SUNDAY 30th of MARCH. You are not broken. You are becoming. If you’re ready to move beyond heartbreak, reclaim your confidence, and step into your most empowered self, this 4-week transformational course is for you. This isn’t just about getting over the past—it’s abo...

 My 'Becoming the Strongest Version of Yourself' – A 4-Week Post-Breakup Healing & Empowerment Course is going LIVE on SUNDAY 30th of MARCH. You are not broken. You are becoming. If you’re ready to move beyond heartbreak, reclaim your confidence, and step into your most empowered self, this 4-week transformational course is for you. This isn’t just about getting over the past—it’s ab...

Ever wake up wondering why your ex keeps showing up in your dreams, even when you’re doing the work to move on? In this episode, we’re diving into why your subconscious mind holds onto these connections, so you will come away with insights, practical tips, and a little peace of mind knowing you’re not alone in this. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula  My New Instagram -  www.instagram....

I know that everyone who listens & watches my podcast are all at different stages but for my 100th episode I wanted to do a positive episode that will hopefully make you feel confident. If you are in the early stages of your breakup this is an episode you can come back to should you need it. I love doing episodes on this, let me know if you want me to to do more. Want More Like This - https://...

The most common question I get asked is how long did it take you to heal Lou? I wish I could say 2 months you will fine, but it didn't take me 2 months it took me 2 years BUT everyone is different and healing from different things. Its important to remember this to make sure you are not beating yourself up. I go through how healing is choice and how to make that choice in this episode.  Want...

 I felt so alone whilst I was going through my breakup & the worst thing was because my ex had moved on I was comparing how I felt with how he felt and how he was dealing with the breakup. I thought what I was struggling with was so pathetic. I am here to tell you it isn't. In this episode I will hopefully talk through things you are also struggling with and validate these feeling.  Want...

In this episode I talk generally about the DM's I get and the questions I get asked the most. One of the main questions I get asked is 'Will They Treat Their New Partner Better?' or 'How do I Stop Obsessing Over My Ex. I answer all these questions in this episode. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula  My New Instagram -  www.instagram.com/comingupforairpod Join Us on...

In this episode I explain how I would deal with getting stuck in a cycle of your ex coming in and out your life. It is such a hard cycle to break but hopefully this will strengthen your mindset and empower you to finally say enough is enough. Watch this episode on YouTube - https://youtu.be/ppHxT8iFAK8 My New Instagram - www.instagram.com/comingupforairpodJoin Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUp...

In this episode I explain how I would deal with getting stuck in a cycle of your ex coming in and out your life. It is such a hard cycle to break but hopefully this will strengthen your mindset and empower you to finally say enough is enough. Watch this episode on YouTube - https://youtu.be/ppHxT8iFAK8  My New Instagram - www.instagram.com/comingupforairpod Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/Coming...

In this episode I talk about breaking free from your heartbreak. I have spoken about the chemicals in your brain and how they effect how you are feeling, however I put it into a process and give you a simple solution when getting caught in a 'thought loop about your ex.'  My New Instagram - www.instagram.com/comingupforairpod Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠  Spotify - h...

My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/comingupforairpod/Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠  YouTube - @comingupforair-podcast  WELCOME TO MY FIRST VIDEO EPISODE. I can not tell you how excited I am but how much this has tested my patience. You have to love being self taught right?! I didn't want this to be too much of a intro ep for YouTube so I have also discussed the d...

My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/comingupforairpod/   Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠  In this episode I talk about the frustrations of becoming single (sometimes not by choice) and then everyone asking why you haven't found someone new. I hopefully put your mind at ease about 'settling' just because of someone else's time line. I also talk about b...

Join me for additional content on Patreon: ⁠⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠⁠ I did an episode like this quick soon after I started my breakup. 3 years following my breakup - I have continued to grow and learn & these are the new lessons I have learnt. Along with a nice debrief, a nice chatty episode. Let me know if you enjoyed it.  Support the show

Join me for additional content on Patreon: ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ In this episode I talk about taking January slow if that is what you need. I also talk about how to set goals, my goals & how 2025 just feels different this year.  Support the show

GOALS GOALS GOALS. My favourite topic to talk on. I talk through how New Years doesn't have to be about leaving things in the past but growing into your future. I also talk through if I have achieved any of my goals and hopefully inspire you to set your own for 2025.  Support the show