Coming Up for Air

This episode is for anyone who made it to Christmas after a breakup and is wondering why it still feels a little unsteady. I talk about why Christmas can bring emotions back up even when you’ve been healing, why missing someone doesn’t mean you want them back, and why this season isn’t a setback — it’s a pause that reveals how much you’ve actually grown. This isn’t surface-level breakup advice or...

After a breakup, it’s not the ending that shapes you it’s the decisions you make next. In this episode, I talk about the quiet, everyday choices that either keep you stuck or slowly set you free. The boundaries you set, the habits you build, the thoughts you stop entertaining, and the version of yourself you choose to become when no one is watching. This one is about taking your power back, choosi...

In this episode, I open up about being single for four years and how every year of that journey reshaped me. From the heartbreak of my first Christmas alone, to rebuilding my life, losing my job, finding clarity, and finally choosing myself over rushing into love. I talk about why my healing had to come before any new relationship, and how this year I finally feel ready for something new because I...

In this episode, I’m flipping December on its head. Instead of slipping into nostalgia or repeating old rituals, I’m sharing how I build future-facing, identity-shaping traditions that support the version of me I’m becoming. I dive into why December feels so emotionally heavy and how I use it as the most intentional month of my year. Expect unconventional rituals, zero boring advice, and mindset s...

 In this episode, I’m talking about what it’s really like to go into December single not the Instagram version, but the honest, emotional, surprisingly empowering reality of it. I share the deeper mindset shifts, the things people never say out loud, and the ways this season can actually feel lighter, calmer, and more grounding when you’re on your own.  Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Lou...

In today’s episode, I’m opening up about the deeply personal journey of rebuilding my self-worth after being broken down by someone I loved. I talk about the difference between who I truly am and what someone else once made me feel, and how I’ve had to remind myself that my value isn’t defined by another person’s choices.  I share the small steps, the emotional shifts, and the daily acts of care t...

Every year I do a birthday episode. This year has been interesting and hard but I have managed to reflect on why its been a tough year. I also knew that my 32s were going to be a year of growth in every area of my life.  I have had to apply so much of the work I did in therapy to different areas of my life too. I share my mindset shifts with you & why I feel like the year of being 33 will be t...

In this episode, I’m talking about what it really means when someone blocks you the confusion, the silence, and the way it can shake your sense of worth. I’ll share my own reflections and what I’ve learned about the psychology behind it why people cut others off completely, what it says about their emotional state, and how to shift the focus back to yourself instead of taking it personally. This e...

 This Halloween, I’m not talking about ghosts, I’m talking about something scarier: being with the wrong person. In this episode, I open up about what it feels like to be used, overlooked, and underappreciated and why that’s so much more haunting than being single. Because being single isn’t the fear. Losing yourself in someone who doesn’t value you is. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Lou...

I know how deflating online dating can be especially as we head into winter, Christmas, and New Year so I want to catch you early before you put all your effort into online dating and forget what you really deserve. This episode is my reminder to both you and me that our person isn’t missing… he’s just not on Hinge right now. I’m sharing how I’m keeping the faith, raising my standards, and manifes...

In this episode, I talk about what it really feels like to be with the right person not on paper, but emotionally. After heartbreak, it’s hard to trust yourself again or to know what calm, healthy love actually feels like. I share how I learned to recognise peace over chaos, what emotional safety feels like, and how love that’s right helps you grow without losing yourself. It’s an honest conversat...

Breakups can leave you wondering if you’ll ever find the right person - but healing is proof that love is still possible. In this episode, I explore fresh, uplifting ways to move forward: from voice notes to your future self and love archetype boards, to rituals for enjoying your own company and manifesting love in a grounded way. You’ll discover why the love you give always comes back, This isn’t...

I’m 30, single, and surprisingly calm about a lot of things that used to terrify me. Specifically: I’m not scared of meeting the wrong person again, I’m not scared of judgment, I’m not scared of starting a family later in life, and I’m not scared of falling in love. In this episode I’ll walk through how I got here - mindset shifts, concrete practices, scripts you can use, and examples that made me...

It’s easy to get caught in the mental loop of imagining your ex doing all the same things with their new partner that they once did with you. Those thoughts can feel overwhelming, painful, and hard to escape. In this episode, we dive into how to shift that thought pattern and how to spin thoughts into a more positive thought pattern.  Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula  My New Instagra...

In this episode, I’m sharing the unexpected and honestly, lessons I’ve learned during my time being single. From learning to love my own company, to realising I don’t miss my ex, to feeling proud (not apologetic) when I say I’m single… this season has been nothing like I thought, and everything I needed. I’ll walk you through the mindset shifts and the practical steps that helped me get here. If y...

In this episode, I want to take you on a journey of courage. We’ll talk about what happens when your boundaries are broken, the fear of leaving, the deep importance of respect, how to find the strength within yourself, and most importantly, what your future can look like when you spread your wings and walk into a new chapter of your life. So if you’ve been feeling stuck, afraid, or doubting yourse...

In this episode I am talking about one of the hardest things to face after a breakup that feeling when your ex moves on and you think they’ve found someone better than you. It can hit you like a punch in the chest you’re scrolling on Instagram, or a friend tells you, and suddenly it feels like everything you went through was for nothing, like you’ve been replaced. I want you to know right now: tha...

We’re told: block them, delete them, unfollow, cut them out. But here’s the thing. You can remove someone from every physical part of your life and still have them living rent-free in your head. And that… is the part no one teaches you how to deal with. So if you’ve been feeling frustrated because you’ve done “all the right things” but your mind won’t stop bringing them up, you’re in the right pla...

In this episode I am diving into something so many of you have messaged me about and that is the experience but often feel shame around: moving back home after a breakup. Whether it's your childhood bedroom or a spare room at a parent’s house, it can feel like you're going backwards while everyone else is moving forwards. But this episode is here to shift that mindset completely. If you&...

This episode has sat with me for a while. It’s about something we’re told to be from a very young age, but we’re never actually taught how to do it. Today we’re talking about being brave. Especially when everything’s crumbling. Especially when the relationship ends, your world shifts, and suddenly you have to stand up on your own again even though you're not sure you remember how. I learnt a...

In this episode I talk about how easy it is to lose yourself because you can't control what your ex is doing. But here’s the truth I want to anchor you in today: you can’t control what they did, or why they left, or even how they feel now. That’s all out of your hands. The only thing you can truly control is the way you choose to respond and that choice, every single day, is what will determi...

In this episode I want to talk about something that I know so many of you are sitting with right now and I want to be really honest about it. It’s not just the heartbreak itself that hurts. It’s not just the missing them, or the confusion, or the grief. It’s the frustration. The anger. The heaviness of knowing that no one else really knows what happened behind closed doors and no matter how many t...

Sometimes, the hardest person to walk away from isn’t the ex who hurt you. It’s the new connection that felt like a fresh start . The person who came along just when you thought your heart might be ready again.  In this episode I reassure you and remind you that trusting your gut is the most powerful thing you can do.  Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula  My New Instagram - https://www....

In this episode, I am getting honest about the emotional leftovers: the habits and beliefs we adopted in a relationship that no longer serves you. You’ll learn how to spot what’s not yours anymore, how to rewire your inner voice, and how to rebuild your identity on your own terms. No fluff. Just real talk, practical mindset shifts, and a few gentle nudges to help you come back home to yourself.  W...

When I went through my breakup I wanted to know that it got better and if certain thoughts and feelings became easier. Now 3 years on I wanted to share with you how life looks and feels. I share some tips and some reflections that I have had recently.  Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula  My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/move.with.lou/ Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/Comin...