Coming Up for Air

I spent so much time trying to understand why my relationship ended that I barely stopped to think about what it was doing to me. In this episode, I am talking about the obsession with finding answers after a breakup. Replaying conversations, questioning memories, analysing your ex's behaviour and convincing yourself that if you could just understand why they left, you'd finally be able...

 There are things I did during my breakup that I would be absolutely mortified to admit now. So naturally, I've decided to discuss them on a podcast.  After my 14-year relationship ended, I entered an era of questionable decisions, complete delusion and behaviour that I genuinely thought was perfectly reasonable at the time. In this episode, I'm confessing some of my most embarrassing br...

Sometimes the hardest part of a breakup isn't just what happened between the two of you. It's dealing with everybody else's version of what happened afterwards. The unwanted updates about your ex. Friends telling you what you should do. People comparing how you're both getting on. The gossip, the opinions and that horrible feeling that because you were the one who openly strugg...

 Sometimes the relationship ends, but the consequences of being in it don't. The job opportunities you turned down, the money you invested, the places you never moved to and the decisions you made because you thought you were building a future with somebody. In this episode, I'm talking about the less discussed consequences of a breakup. The practical, financial and personal sacrifices t...

You haven’t texted them. You haven’t called them. You might even be months into no contact. But you still know where they went last weekend, who they followed, whether they’re seeing someone new and what their friends are posting. So… are you actually disconnected from them? In this episode, we’re talking about why we research our exes after a breakup, what we’re really hoping to find when we chec...

 What if you never fully get over your ex? Maybe it's been months or years since the breakup. You're doing better, you've rebuilt parts of your life, but you still think about them, still miss them sometimes and wonder whether you'll ever completely move on. In this episode, I'm talking about why we can carry an ex with us long after a relationship ends, the fear of never...

 Will my ex come back? It’s one of the hardest questions to stop asking after a breakup especially when you were the one who was left. But there’s another stage of heartbreak nobody really prepares you for: the moment you realise they might actually never come back. In this episode I talk about why losing hope can feel like a second breakup, why you can still want your ex to come back even when yo...

You've stopped speaking to them, so why are you still having entire conversations with them in your head? In this episode, I talk about why we mentally talk to an ex after a breakup, replay conversations, imagine telling them things and wonder what they'd think of the life we're building without them. We get into wanting recognition rather than reconciliation, missing being witnesse...

If you’re single and scared you’ll never find love, I want you to imagine something: your future relationship is already secured. You don’t know who they are. You don’t know when you’ll meet. You just know you cannot miss them. How would you live differently if you weren’t constantly wondering when love was going to happen? In this episode, I am talking about being single in your 30s, dating anxie...

If you’re single and quietly wondering whether you’re doing this stage of life 'right,' this episode is for you. There’s so much pressure to make single life look incredible the travelling, the career, the solo dates, the full social calendar, the constant proof that you’re thriving. But maybe your life doesn’t need to impress anyone. Maybe it just needs to feel like yours. In this episo...

Being single in your 30s can feel completely fine… until suddenly it doesn't. Your friends are married, having children and building lives with their partners. You're not on dating apps, you don't have many single friends and you find yourself wondering: where am I actually supposed to meet someone? And underneath that is the question that's much harder to admit: what if I neve...

Why does being single feel so much harder than it should? If you've ever found yourself wondering why everyone else seems to be moving on, why you're still waiting for your life to begin, or why being single feels like a personal failure, this episode is for you. In this conversation, I am not talking about learning to 'love being single' or pretending you don't want a rel...

 There comes a moment after a breakup where you stop worrying about what happened. and start worrying about what it means for your future. What if you'll never love again? What if you've missed your chance? What if your best years are already behind you? In this episode I want to explore one question that completely changed the way I think about healing: If you could see your future woul...

  Why can't I move forward from my breakup? If you've been asking yourself this question, you're not alone. In this episode I explore why so many of us become convinced we'll never move on after heartbreak. I talk about how your brain collects evidence that you're 'stuck,' why the story you tell yourself matters, and how changing small daily habits can completely...

If you've been left after a long-term relationship and you're wondering how to rebuild your life, this episode is for you. Today, I'm talking about The Rebuild the chapter that comes after heartbreak. Not just healing or moving on, but creating a life that's bigger, braver and more fulfilling than the one you thought you'd lost. I share the psychology behind why life can f...

Have you ever wondered why being left hurts for years, even after you've done so much healing? In this episode, I'm talking about the hidden rejection that follows a breakup. The part nobody prepares you for. The part where someone else's decision slowly becomes the way you see yourself. If you've ever thought, ' Why wasn't I enough?' or ' Why does rejection...

 How do you actually enjoy being single after a breakup instead of just surviving it? In this episode, I'm challenging some of the most common breakup advice and sharing a completely different way of thinking about single life. Instead of treating being single like a waiting room, I explore why it can become one of the most freeing and transformative chapters of your life. I talk about why we...

This isn't a self-help episode. It's a validation chat. If you've found yourself single in your late 20s or 30s after a breakup, engagement ending, divorce, or long-term relationship, this conversation is for you. I am talking about the things people don't say out loud: feeling left behind while everyone else seems to be moving forward, grieving a future you had already planned...

Will your ex come back? Why hasn't your ex reached out? Does no contact really work? And how do you heal when you've been dumped by someone you still love? In this episode, I explore the psychology behind heartbreak, attachment, and why so many people stay emotionally stuck waiting for an ex to return. You'll learn why silence feels so painful, why some exes never reach out again, w...

In this episode, I talk about why it's so hard to move on after a breakup when you still believe your ex had so much potential. If you've been dumped, blindsided, or left heartbroken after a long-term relationship, you may find yourself obsessing over who your ex could have been rather than who they actually were. I talk about heartbreak healing, anxious attachment, relationship grief, e...

In this episode, I’m opening up about what it was really like selling the house I shared with my ex after our breakup. This isn’t just about moving house, it’s about letting go of a chapter of life, healing emotionally, and learning how to move forward without bitterness. I wanted this conversation to feel like sitting down with a friend, so I’m sharing the honest emotions behind leaving a home fu...

In this episode, I talk about the comparison trap after heartbreak comparing yourself to your ex, your ex’s new partner, people moving on faster than you, happy couples, engagements, and everyone who seems okay while you still feel heartbroken after being dumped. I talk about breakup anxiety, anxious attachment, overthinking, checking your ex’s social media, emotional obsession, feeling replaced,...

After going through a breakup I didn’t want, I quickly learnt how easy it is to fall into a situationship. Situationships feel feel addictive, emotionally intense, and impossible to let go of sometimes. In this episode, I talk about situationships after heartbreak, anxious attachment, breakup healing, why emotionally inconsistent people can feel so hard to move on from after being rejected. I expl...

Going through a breakup you didn’t want can make you feel rejected, misunderstood, emotionally drained, and impossible to move on from the person you still love. In this breakup healing podcast episode, I talk about heartbreak, anxious attachment, emotional pain, overthinking, self-worth, rejection, attachment styles, and how to stop trying to be understood by someone who has chosen to misundersta...

How to heal after a breakup, move on from an ex, and learn how to be okay being single after being dumped. If you’re struggling with heartbreak, rejection, overthinking, or feeling not good enough after a breakup, this episode is for you. In this episode of I talk about how to heal after a breakup when you were brutally dumped and the 10 deep limiting beliefs that can keep you stuck in heartbreak...