Coming Up for Air

In this episode I talk about tackling Christmas. Everywhere you look there is love, it can be so so hard. Hopefully I ease your mind and make you feel better about facing Christmas with some hints tips and reassurance that its okay to feel like you do.  Support the show

And you don't even want him? One of the worst feelings when going through a breakup is when you are coming to terms with not wanting your ex back but then you almost want him to want you. In this episode I discuss this topic to hopefully allow you to think clearer about the reasons why you are feeling this way.  Support the show

Lucky girl syndrome was a trend that took online by storm. I go through how to channel being a lucky person even if you think you are the 'unluckiest.' Most of the situations I have been through have made me realise that it is okay to be unlucky you just have to make your own luck.  Support the show

As always I think going through these things are totally normal when going through a breakup. I thought I would explore some things within the topic of getting into a relationship soon after you have split up with your ex. Sometimes they can be a good thing, but I address some questions you should maybe be asking yourself in this episode.  Support the show

YOU ARE NOT TAKING A STEP BACK. I hear this all the time and I just wanted to remind you that this is nothing to do with your progress. Its more to do with your brain trying to balance out your emotions. If you find yourself saying 'I feel like I take 1 step forward and 10 back' This episode is for you.  Support the show

I have documented both my birthdays that I have celebrated since my breakup so it only felt right to continue to do so. TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY & I cant believe how far I have come. I am super proud of my self & would love you to virtually celebrate everything single in your 30s with me.  Support the show

I am not going to lie, the first Christmas is tough, so I have decided to get in quick with this episode so you are prepared for this time of year and you don't have to worry. You might want to listen to this episode a few times around now and Christmas just so you know you are fully prepared. Just remember its allowed to feel strange your allowed to feel sad! Next year will be easier I promi...

Hindsight is a beautiful thing right? But also HOW annoying is that phrase. Of course it is, if you could see into the future we could prevent becoming hurt. BUT, stay with me, this episode will help you see that you can view hindsight as a positive way to start healing from your breakup.  Support the show

I promised a Bonas ep per month on running so this is Octobers Bonas Ep. A Nice Loula ramble on long running!  Support the show

I found a quote last week and I have never resonated with a quote so much in my life. I split it into 3 parts and talk all about how it can relate to your breakup, your mindset & how you continue to find the strength continue.  Support the show

A nice episode on the Leicester half marathon but also how it made me reflect on how far I have come in the past 2 years since my first ever race. A bit of a rambley episode but one that I hope inspires you to continue to fight on your healing journey and potentially put on your trainers and run. Support the show

When you learn how to value yourself you will find that you respect yourself so much more that you no longer tolerate what you used to tolerate in your previous relationship. This will also help you find further strength should your ex ever walk back into your life. The more you love yourself the more you protect yourself.  Support the show

Your ego will show up after your breakup in many different ways. I wasn't aware that half the time it was my ego that was making me say or do certain things. In this episode I explore how not being able to drop your ego will halt your healing.  Support the show

A different take on all the classic advice of, journaling and manifesting. I talk about thinking seriously about what you want your future to look like and how that will alter and strengthen the relationship you have with yourself.  Support the show

Listen to this episode when you need reassurance. I like doing these types of episodes because sometimes your mind can spiral and you think you are asking for too much & you absolutely are not. I had to go through a lot of horrible questions in therapy which made me realise how much I didn't have any boundaries in my previous relationship but that is okay. If you are the same this episode...

But you can change the way you think about why you need to go through the hard parts. My therapist gave me the 'House Building' analogy and it helped me accept why I had to go through the pain and sadness that I went through after my breakup.  Support the show

We all know I love disagreeing with the advice online, that is one of the main reasons I started my podcast. This advice drives me mental because people don't explore what it actually would mean if you were half way through your healing journey and your ex came back. I give my opinion in this episode. Support the show

One of my lovely followers asked me if I had chance to do two episodes this week could I as she was running the Great North Run this weekend. So I made some time to do another episode so she had something additional to listen to. If you are racing & listening to this episode please message me and let me know how you got on & massive Good Luck.  Support the show

 A term that just rolls of the tongue AND infuriates me when people call people a 'Psycho' ex. In this episode I explore how to deal with it but also remind you that it is okay to lose your temper sometimes. You are only human, however this does not make you a psycho.  Support the show

It's one of the worse things you can hear when you are missing your ex so much. Something I found so so hard to deal with because I couldn't understand why he didn't. I go through how I felt & how I would have dealt with it knowing what I have learnt during my breakup.  Support the show

If this was an Olympic sport my god I would take gold. I am the worst person for doing this and did this a lot during my relationship & I did it even worse in my breakup. It is nothing to be ashamed of but this episode might just have a few reminders that you need to hear.  Support the show

  It is HARD, that's what it is. I only scratch the surface in this episode but there are books and so much information online. I found it so difficult to actually to this work because no one likes talking about the traits in themselves that they don't like. HOWEVER, It is beneficial and helped with my healing so I thought I would share it with you all. See less Support the show

I talk about how much I lost my routine when my ex left and my days all merged into one. These little habits made sure that I felt a little bit more in control of my day. They aren't big things & everyone can do them. Just 10 minutes out of your day will have a huge impact when everything is weighing so heavy on you.  Support the show

I think it is so easy to say I can't and believe you cant. This episode can relate to any aspects of your life, not just if you are going through a break up. I hopefully will change your mindset when you start hearing yourself tell yourself that you can't and realise that you can.   Support the show

Now I wouldn't say these were regrets however these are just a few things I wish I had done differently knowing what I know now. Hindsight is a beautiful thing and I will say that I don't have any regrets, however if I had a gun to my head and had to name a few, these would be them. Support the show