Coming Inside OUT: An LGBTQ podcast uplifting gay fathers, men, and those exploring their sexuality.

Coming out is often portrayed as the destination—but for many men, it's actually the beginning of a whole new journey. In this episode of Coming Inside Out, Brian Janes and Mark Dembo welcome author, columnist, and LGBTQ advocate Zachary Zane for a wide-ranging conversation about bisexuality, shame, sexual identity, dating, community, and modern relationships. @zacharyzane_ Zach shares his own com...

Three years ago, I never would have imagined standing in front of my community speaking openly as a gay man. This week, I had the honor of speaking at a Pride flag raising ceremony in Bedford. Pride is about visibility. It’s about belonging. It’s about making sure people know they don’t have to hide who they are. Happy Pride. 🌈 #Pride #HappyPride #GayDad #ComingOutLaterInLife #Authenticity Visibi...

In this emotional and honest episode of Coming Inside Out, Brian and Mark recap the overwhelming response to their recent conversation with Dr. Evan Goldstein, including listener reactions about gay sex, intimacy, body image, and shame. The episode then shifts into deeply personal “Letters From the Closet” submissions from listeners navigating life as gay fathers, husbands, and men coming out late...

What if everything you thought you knew about bottoming… was wrong? In this raw and eye-opening episode of Coming Inside OUT, we sit down with renowned surgeon Dr. Evan Goldstein to break down the truth about anal health, pleasure, and the realities gay men were never taught—especially those coming out later in life. From navigating shame and internalized stigma… to understanding your body, avoidi...

This episode is raw, reflective, and deeply human. Brian opens up about a realization that hits years after coming out: you don’t just come out once—you keep coming out, over and over again. And sometimes, that means revisiting the past and facing the people you may have unintentionally hurt along the way. From painful conversations with family and friends, to questioning his own voice and purpose...

In Part 2 of “Letters from the Closet,” Brian and Mark dive deeper into the powerful messages, questions, and confessions sent in by listeners around the world. From a 62-year-old man navigating a decades-long marriage while embracing his attraction to men, to others quietly questioning their identity in the middle of seemingly “perfect” lives—this episode highlights the many ways people experienc...

In this powerful “Ask Us Anything” episode of Coming Inside OUT, Brian Janes and Mark Dembo read and respond to deeply personal letters from men navigating the reality of questioning their sexuality later in life. These aren’t hypothetical questions—they’re real stories from husbands and fathers wrestling with fears that feel impossible to face alone. What if coming out destroys my family? What if...

In this episode of Coming Inside Out, Mark and Brian sit down with friend and Gay Fathers Worldwide member Dan for something a little different — less formal interview, more honest conversation between three gay dads navigating life after coming out. Dan shares the highlight reel of his journey: coming out later in life, fatherhood intersecting with identity, navigating cancer and personal awakeni...

In Part Two of our conversation with The Gay Sex Coach, Allen Marion, we move beyond awareness and into integration — exploring what it actually takes to build emotionally mature, intentional relationships as gay men. Brian, Mark, and Allen unpack the difference between chemistry and compatibility, and how unresolved shame, attachment wounds, and past conditioning can quietly shape who we pursue a...

Welcome to Part One of a powerful and deeply honest conversation with The Gay Sex Coach, Allen Marion. In this episode, Brian Janes and Mark Dembo dive into what it truly means for gay men to reclaim their sexual and relational power—especially after years of shame, guilt, and conditioning rooted in religious upbringing and minority stress. Together, they explore how shame compounds over time, oft...

In this episode, Mark and Brian sit with the emotional weight of the moment— politics, social media, and the constant hum of bad news and talk honestly about how it all lands in the body. They explore the unique need for community among gay fathers, especially for men coming out later in life, and the quiet courage it takes to rebuild relationships while staying emotionally present. The conversati...

Brian and Mark kick off Season 3 with a candid and timely conversation about the responsibility of speaking up in a political climate that increasingly impacts the LGBTQ community. They explore why silence can feel safer—but often comes at a cost—and how social media, when used intentionally, can be a powerful tool for activism, visibility, and connection. The discussion weaves together political...

In this deeply personal episode of Coming Inside Out, hosts Mark and Brian open up about the emotional terrain of the holiday season, weaving together themes of coming out, grief, family, and the ongoing journey toward authenticity. Mark shares a heartfelt reflection on his father’s recent passing and the profound impact of having come out to him shortly before he died. His story invites listeners...

In this heartfelt episode of Coming Inside OUT, Brian and Mark open up about their personal experiences as gay men, exploring the deep themes of love, vulnerability, authenticity, and the ongoing process of coming out. They reflect on their own family dynamics, relationships, and the ways personal growth continues to shape their lives. The conversation dives into how love is expansive—not finite—a...

In this heartfelt episode, Mark and Brian open up about their personal journeys of coming out, embracing authenticity, and learning to live without shame. Through honest conversation, they explore the emotional complexities of self-acceptance, the power of vulnerability, and how community support can transform isolation into connection. From navigating family dynamics to rebuilding self-worth, the...

In this powerful episode, hosts Mark Dembo and Brian Janes sit down with renowned psychotherapist, author, and LGBTQ+ advocate Dr. Joe Kort @drjoekort to explore the emotional journey of coming out—particularly later in life. With over 40 years of experience, Dr. Kort brings deep insight into the challenges gay men face around identity, relationships, self-care, and community. Together, they unpac...

In this episode of Coming Inside OUT, hosts Brian and Mark open up about the power of community, connection, and authenticity within the LGBTQ experience. Reflecting on their time at a gay fathers retreat, they share personal stories of growth, mental health, and the role therapy has played in their journeys. With Suicide Awareness Month as the backdrop, the conversation highlights the importance...

In this episode of Coming Inside Out, hosts Mark Dembo and Brian Janes sit down with Rick Clemons (@rickclemons), coach, author, and advocate for LGBTQ+ authenticity. Together, they explore Rick’s personal journey of coming out and the unique challenges faced by gay men in midlife—from navigating modern dating dynamics to overcoming patterns of people-pleasing and fear. Rick shares his insights on...

In this episode of the Coming Inside Out podcast, hosts Brian Janes and Mark Dembo explore the importance of male friendships, the journey of coming out, and the complexities of relationships within the LGBTQ community. They share personal experiences, discuss the impact of AI on relationships, and emphasize the need for empathy and understanding in the community. The conversation also touches on...

In this episode, Mark and Brian discuss their recent experiences at Montreal Pride, reflecting on the joy and guilt that can accompany personal celebrations. They delve into the current political climate regarding LGBTQ+ rights in the U.S., including the challenges faced by the trans community. The conversation touches on the pervasive hate in society and the importance of community and mindfulnes...

In this episode, hosts Brian and Mark reflect on their summer hiatus, discuss cultural icons that have influenced their understanding of sexuality, and engage with listener topics ranging from dating dynamics to mental health resources. They share personal experiences in navigating online dating, the importance of community, and the challenges of finding balance in a chaotic world. The conversatio...

In this powerful episode of 40 Plus, Gay Men, Gay Talk Rick Clemons sits down with Mark Dembo to talk about coming out later in life, the messy beauty of self-discovery, and the liberating (and terrifying) freedom that comes with being unapologetically you. They cover: Guilt, anxiety, and codependence in late-life coming out Why authenticity is a leadership superpower Couples counseling, redefinin...

In this episode of the Coming Inside Out podcast, hosts Mark and Brian celebrate their 50th episode while reflecting on personal experiences and current events affecting the LGBTQ+ community. They discuss the significance of Pride Month, the importance of community support, and the complexities of navigating relationships, including open and polyamorous dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the ne...

In this episode of the Coming Inside Out Podcast, hosts Brian Janes and Mark Dembo discuss various themes surrounding Pride Month, including personal updates, reflections on safety at Pride events, the significance of coming out, and the current political climate affecting the LGBTQ+ community. They also explore the importance of self-reflection and healing journeys, sharing profound questions to...

Coming inside OUT is a safe space where listeners can find solidarity, inspiration, and the courage to embrace their true selves. Whether you're a gay father, gay parent, a person exploring your identity, or an ally seeking to understand the experiences of the LGBTQ community, this podcast is for you. Tune in for heartfelt conversations, insight and a sense of belonging that we all crave. Join you...