Coffee With Hilary and Les from State of Mind Hypnosis and Training Centre

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We spot a rare red finch and use it as a mirror for the pressure to blend in, then follow that thread into why so many “normal” days quietly feel like suffering. We treat boredom as a serious emotional signal and land on a simple question that helps us reclaim choice without blowing up our lives.  • noticing how often we live by other people’s priorities  • se...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We talk about how suffering often comes from resisting reality, not from the hard facts themselves. We break down how judgment and rumination become habits, then share simple ways to observe what’s happening in your mind and choose a better next step.  • recognizing what is beyond your control and stopping the mental fight  • treating suffering as a mental hab...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We get honest about the strange suffering of waiting for something you can’t force, using our six-month home sale limbo as the real-life backdrop. We explore how resistance turns into blame and rumination, then practice a cleaner pivot: shifting attention toward hope by asking “What do I want?” • the stress of selling a home and living in limbo • how “should”...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We talk about gratitude as a mental habit we can train, not a mood we wait for. We share simple ways to observe our thoughts, shift out of worry, and land in a calmer state fast.  • noticing beauty we usually take for granted, from colors outside to small comforts at home  • using a gratitude jar and daily prompts as gentle reminders  • stepping back to observ...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We explore why physical symptoms can connect to emotions and life events, and how a simple reframing can turn pain into useful information instead of a personal betrayal. We lean on Louise Hay’s “Heal Your Body,” nervous system basics, and our own experience with hypnosis-style listening to show how relief often starts with awareness and kinder self-talk.  • L...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We pick up the third part of our fear trilogy by naming fear as a learned habit and showing how “what could go wrong” quietly becomes a lifestyle. We trade outcome obsession for a cleaner focus on why we want something, what success means to us, and what practical steps let us move forward anyway.  • normalizing fear as programming rather than personal failure...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We start with a calm early summer morning and land on a hard truth: fear makes everyday choices feel like life-or-death. We explore how inspiration shows up naturally, how judgment cuts it off, and how to return to self-trust by focusing on what we want next. • why we suffer over decisions and choices • the fear stack behind indecision: wrong, judged, stupid,...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We start with the weather and end up uncovering why so many of us treat approval like oxygen. We follow the trail from womb and early childhood conditioning to adult people-pleasing, then land on practical reframes for unconditional self-love and real permission to exist.  • noticing how nature exists without earning approval  • tracing external validation to...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We talk about why we want to untie ourselves from place and stuff, then use that as a bridge into the deeper question of what makes a person worthy. We challenge the myths that link self-worth to money, status, and other people’s approval, and we share a practical way to release “I’m not worthy” from the body.  • wanting freedom without losing connection  • th...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We start with a simple scene of apple blossoms and use it to challenge the most exhausting habit many of us carry: treating our worth like something we have to earn. We explore how work, money, comparison, and early family dynamics program the feeling of “not good enough,” and how reclaiming worth opens the door to real self-love.  • noticing how nature never...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We sit with the tension between how beautiful life is and how hard we work to control it when we feel afraid. We explore what “just being” actually looks like in real life and why trust can coexist with intention.  • noticing spring as a reminder that life moves naturally  • using “just be” as a practical response to uncertainty and change  • dropping rigid ru...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! SELF LOVE Meditation:  https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Tjt3DfmhVmNyfIQzU68dnIfQKKk78Riv/view?usp=sharing We follow a near-death experience story to a surprising takeaway: being your authentic self matters more than chasing love or applause. We unpack how approval seeking shapes what we think, say, and do, then map practical ways to build self worth from the i...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We start with a simple nature observation and end up at a big human problem: approval-seeking turns self-worth into an outside verdict and reshapes our relationships into bargains. We unpack why belonging and survival fears make validation feel necessary, then point back to a steadier truth that lets us grow without judgment.  • birds and trees as a mirror for...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We talk about approval as a learned addiction that quietly trains us to trade our self-worth for other people’s reactions. We use family stories, social media examples, and a parenting study to separate appreciation from identity and move toward self-acceptance.  • approval as something we try to control through other people’s responses  • how childhood emotio...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We talk about how fear shifts from a normal emotion into a constant default setting, and why many of us wake up already bracing for bad news. We share simple ways to interrupt the loop, then go deeper into meditation, connection, and how hypnosis helps us unwind the mental programming underneath anxiety.  • the overcast sky as a metaphor for fear and truth  •...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We talk about why fear grows when we resist it and how to find calm by treating emotions as messages instead of threats. We share simple ways to shift your nervous system, question the “truth” of anxious thoughts, and use imagination to move toward what you prefer.  • fear as a normal response that can freeze action  • the subconscious mind as a safety system...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! Desire stops being a guilty want and starts looking like a navigation tool, the inner “stars” we search for when life feels cloudy. We work out how to separate fear-based programming from inspired curiosity so the next step becomes clear even when the big plan is not.  • the origin of desire as “asking for stars” to find direction  • desire reframed as guidanc...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We follow one question all the way down: what do we truly want when we strip away fear, approval-seeking, and the quiet pressure to fit in. We unpack how culture turns ordinary things into status symbols, then show a simple way to spot when “desire” is really just programming.  • the gap between authentic desires and socially constructed desires  • body mind d...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We take on a listener question that sounds simple but changes everything: do we choose our desires, or are our desires shaped by need, fear, and social conditioning. We sort needs from wants, use quick tests to spot programming, and point back to self-knowledge as the clearest path to real motivation. • defining needs vs wants vs desires so we can communicate...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We sit with the link between creativity and the inner critic, then trace how judgment and criticism get installed and become a habit that shuts down trying. We reframe resilience as the skill of dropping harsh self-evaluation so learning, agency, and encouragement can lead the way again. • childhood roots of self-sabotage and the inner critic • criticism as a...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We pull apart the quiet rules that make us tie our self-worth to likes, reactions, and being seen as “normal.” We share a real moment of posting something vulnerable, panicking, and deleting it, then use that story to rebuild a healthier sense of value that does not depend on the internet. • noticing the gap between curated online life and real life chaos  • s...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We follow a simple question from a frozen pond all the way into the mind: what counts as a rule, and how do those rules shape what we call freedom. We use hypnosis style questioning to expose how “choices” get narrowed by fear, judgment, and conditional self worth, then look at what self love means when it clashes with our shoulds. • ducks as a doorway into pa...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We follow a listener suggestion and look at the human rules that quietly run our days, shaping what we do, what we fear, and what we call “normal.” We keep coming back to one clean interrupt for old programming: asking “Says who?” and choosing agreements that actually serve us.  • rules as subconscious programs learned early  • everyday constructs like manners...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We start with a simple snow day “rule” and land on a bigger one: your mind is where your whole world gets interpreted. We talk through how to rebuild trust in intuition by becoming the observer of your programming and asking who benefits from the rules you absorb.  • snow days as an example of unwritten social rules  • losing trust in intuition during stressfu...

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We start with rain, no sleep, and a fresh cup of coffee, then follow that thread into why coffee feels like comfort and community. From third spaces to intuition, we land on a simple practice: change how we interpret life and our whole day can change with it. • speculating about how coffee was discovered and why it hooked the world • remembering first cups and...