Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

This week I share about my journey navigating food and meals in our home when we have different health/eating goals. Learn how to establish autonomy over food choices, practice self-trust, and support your partner's (and your own) individual journey. Resources: * Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram * Codependency Alchemy: The Membership : $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe o...

Many of us struggle with vulnerability and getting close to people, even though deep down it is what we deeply desire. In this episode I get to witness Aaron, who moved a lot in his childhood and felt like he learned to not get attached because everything was temporary. Resources: THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN! 👉🏾 https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5 👉🏾Jo...

In this episode, we explore how choosing compassion and grace over self-criticism can help heal codependency and the mother wound. When we are hard on ourselves for our perceived flaws or mistakes, we perpetuate feelings of not being good enough. It is through showing ourselves compassion and accepting where we are in our journey that we actually create enough spaciousness to heal codependency and...

In this episode I get to sit with Santia and explore the challenges that come from a relationship ending, and I know that many of us can relate! Shadow Work Prompt * “If I let go, then…” (what am I afraid it will mean about me?) * “If I let go, then…” (what am I afraid will happen?) Resources: IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN! 👉🏾 https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/jo...

Today we’re going to get into some of the most common codependency warnings signs that I’ve learned along the way. Resources: * Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram * Codependency Alchemy: The Membership : $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the nex...

I'm going to be doing a long-awaited podcast episode on something I promised you a long time ago— and to be quite honest, I forgot! This episode is going to be about the tool that Justin and I used to help rebuild the trust in our relationship when we got back together. Resources: IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN! 👉🏾 https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitli...

In this weeks podcast episode we explore shadow work and inner child healing with Marella, who has noticed her our anxious tendencies in her relationship and is curious about how to start exploring more healthy and supportive patterns for herself and her relationship. Listen to this full episode by subscribing to Codependency Alchemy: The Membership for $9/month (or less when you join annually) Re...

This week’s podcast episode is my personal share on what transpired over those few days where we were not on the same page, how I managed to stay aware that I was triggered by the things he was saying to me, and instead of getting defensive and fighting with him, how I was able to bring the conversation forward in a way that allowed for deep and meaningful connection and repairs in our relationshi...

If you feel like it'd your job to make everyone happy, or that it's always your fault when someone is upset, this definitely listen to today's episode. To learn more about why we do this, and practical solutions that you can implement in your life and relationships to help you navigate this pattern, you can check out the masterclass we did on this in the Codependency Alchemy Membership . Resources...

I’ll never forget when I was in my situationship back in 2019 and all my sexual abuse trauma came bubbling up to the surface. I was completely confused because I felt like I had forgiven and put that past me, and I couldn’t understand why it so loud all of a sudden. I learned that I had really repressed some very real feelings and emotions that a very young part of me was still holding. And in tod...

For those of us with codependent or anxious attachment patterns, it's super common to find ourselves making a new person or relationship mean something about us. We start dreaming up this whole future with them and attaching our sense of self-worth and belonging to how much they like us. Resources: * Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram * Codependency Alchemy: The Membershi...

When we have experienced abusive relationships, it can be challenging to trust ourselves and others. I remember feeling betrayed by myself, like how could I allow myself to be in something so toxic for so long? If I didn’t know better then, how could I trust myself to know better in the future? Here is the shadow work prompt we explored in this episode: “If I trust (this person/the good things tha...

Opening up about a past "situationship" was incredibly difficult (or should I say embarrassing), but I really wanted to share with you all how that experience illuminated my insecure attachment patterns and codependent behaviors that I was completely unaware of. What is a situationship? I would describe a situationship as a romantic connection, but nothing that suggests commitment. It’s perfect if...

I know I needed community and a brave place for me to navigate my unhealthy relationship patterns, so I created the places I needed. In this episode I talk about how Codependency Alchemy has grown, and thank you all for an amazing SEASON 2! This is just the beginning babes. Stay tuned. Resources: Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram CLICK HERE TO GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE...

Many of the women I have the privilege of working with are mothers. Mothers who feel touched out and need space, but feel guilt when it comes for asking or taking it, or they struggle trusting the resilience of their child and their partner to figure out their own way. I share about my background with child development and things I've learned about cultivating a prepared environment that supp...

What is reasonable, or not reasonable when it comes to asking your partner for support. Additionally, what can you rely on your partner for? What are you afraid will happen or what are you afraid it might mean about you if you ask for what you need, or if you ask for support?  This was a question submitted in the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram. If you want to drop your own top...

When one partner consistently over-gives or seeks to create comfort for the other, a pattern emerges—one that often stems from deep-seated codependent tendencies rooted in fears of abandonment and rejection. In this episode we explore how these patterns manifest, the toll they take on both partners, and how to navigate towards healthier, more balanced relationships.  Resources: CLICK HERE TO GET O...

I think we can all agree that breakups are hardly ever easy. In this episode I talk about the breakup that pushed me to my edges, and how I finally had to face myself (and my unresolved trauma) in the process. I talk about the pain, revelations, and healing that took place through some of the darkest moments of my life. Without this breakup, I wouldn't be who I am today. Resources: Codependen...

I think this means I passed the test?! Join me as I tell you babes about a vivid dream that sent me tumbling down the rabbit hole of self-doubt and fear, threatening to sabotage my relationship, once again. I unravel the familiar patterns and confront the impulse to push away someone I love.  Resources: Listen to Why People-Pleasing is Keeping You From Your Authenticity & Joy Codependency Alch...

This week we're talking about insecure attachment styles! We'll uncover the roots of anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant attachment styles. From understanding childhood traumas to its impact on our adult relationships, we'll explore how self-awareness, vulnerability, and personal responsibility can pave the way towards earned secure attachment, fostering healthier and more fulfi...

In this episode, Alyssa shares her personal journey of navigating conflict with a dysregulated partner while healing from an insecure attachment style. We'll talk about setting boundaries with compassion, creating space for your partner's emotions without feeling the need to "fix" them, and trusting in the resilience of both yourself and your partner. If you've struggled w...

In this episode Alyssa Zander will give four prompts that will help you in understanding your shadow self. Learn how staying curious opens your heart and eases the ego, paving the way for self-reflection and personal growth. Explore powerful journal prompts to meet your shadow self. Uncover the nuances of your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors by bringing curiosity to situations that trigger stron...

In this episode, Alyssa Zander addresses a listener's question on managing triggers within a current relationship. Discover three transformative strategies that have personally supported Alyssa in navigating relationship triggers, highlighting the importance of taking personal responsibility for emotional safety. Learn about how triggers often arise when we don't feel safe within ourselv...

In this episode, Alyssa opens up about the journey of her relationship, exploring the nuances of a healthy, consistent connection and the unexpected challenges she faced. Discover the hidden dynamics that can arise in healthy relationships, and how unresolved trauma can impact our perception of love. Uncover the subtle triggers that may arise and how they are invitations to heal unresolved trauma....

In this deeply personal episode, Alyssa Zander shares a vulnerable moment of navigating through a depressive state and intrusive thoughts that sent her spiraling. Discover three empowering questions that guided Alyssa through the darkness and can support you in moments of discomfort or when you are feeling stuck. Move from victim consciousness to empowerment by exploring the wisdom and teachings w...