Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

In today's episode, we'll delve into the importance of being assertive with our needs following betrayal, both in terms of meeting our individual needs and ensuring our relational needs are addressed. We explore strategies for identifying and communicating our own needs effectively and we also discuss common obstacles individuals and couples encounter when trying to assert their needs in r...

In this episode, we are talking about navigating the part of the healing journey when you start to feel safe enough to lean back in after betrayal. If both spouses are doing the work and there is a level of safety being created we might find it challenging to lean back in and allow connection to happen. We talk about attachment ambivalence and I share a few resources and groups available for those...

In this episode, we delve into the complex landscape of needs in the aftermath of betrayal, exploring both individual and relational dimensions. We examine the importance of acknowledging and validating these needs as essential steps towards healing and rebuilding. Additionally, we explore how betrayal impacts relational dynamics, highlighting the significance of communication, empathy, and bounda...

This episode highlights the journey of Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith, professionals in the field of relationships and intimacy. Joanna, with her background as an LMFT, CPTT, and CCPS, and Matthew, as a PCC, CPC, both bring a wealth of expertise to their work. They co-authored the book "Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time," offering insights and strat...

Betrayal in relationships can leave deep scars, but it's possible to rebuild and heal. We'll discuss the signs and milestones that indicate progress on the path to healing, offering hope and guidance to those navigating this challenging terrain. Remember, healing takes time, but with commitment and mutual support, it's possible to emerge from the shadows of betrayal into a brighter, mo...

In today’s conversation, we discuss the importance of creating a safe space for communication and healing. We emphasize the necessity of open, honest, and empathetic conversations. We highlight the importance of personal and relational boundaries. We discuss some strategies for the spouse who has caused the sexual betrayal to create safety and rebuild trust. We also discuss the importance for the...

Today we are thrilled to welcome Ashly Leavitt back to the podcast to discuss how people in a couple’s circle of support can gain some understanding on how to best show up for their loved ones facing betrayal. Our hope is that this is an episode you might be able to share with your loved ones who are in your inner circle and are wanting to be part of your healthy support team. We explore the many...

In this episode we delve into what it means to be attuned to your individual emotions and needs as well as those of your partner. Individual growth is a catalyst for relational repair. We encourage self-reflection as a means to better understand one's needs, desires, and contributions to the relationship's well-being. We give practical tools that you can use to develop individual and mutua...

In this episode we delve into some common challenges that couples who are in later recovery might face. We discuss setting a new foundation for your relationship so you are prepared not to fall into old patterns. Attunement and other intentional practices are imperative when facing these challenges. We discuss tools such as HALT to aide in intentional relational and self care when making important...

On today’s episode, we are joined by Morgan Ellsworth, a coach with Choose Recovery Services who works with children of betrayed families. She shares tips for navigating difficult conversations with our children and ways to support them through their own healing journey from betrayal. Check out Morgan’s bio and schedule a complimentary session here:  https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/#Mo...

Today embark on the candid exploration of the uncharted territories that follow the discovery of betrayal in a relationship. We reflect on the immediate aftermath and emotional impact of discovering betrayal and acknowledge the confusion that often accompanies the early stages of healing. We address some common misconceptions and unrealistic expectations that can hinder healing as well as offer pe...

We often get asked by our clients in the early stages of healing after discovering betrayal if it’s even possible to recover.  Today we welcome Seth and Megan to the show and offer a heartfelt thank you to them for sharing their deeply personal and inspiring story with us. You will hear some of what it has taken both of them to heal and strengthen their relationship.  They have taken their experie...

In today’s episode we dive into the profound journey of putting down the heavy burden that often accompanies the pain of betrayal. We will explore the transformative power of finding joy in the small moments amidst the wreckage of trust. We offer simple exercises and mindfulness practices that listeners can incorporate into their lives to foster a greater sense of joy and release.  Thank you for t...

Join us on today’s episode where we focus on finding qualified professionals and support teams for individuals and couples navigating infidelity and betrayal. We highlight the different roles of therapy, coaching, support groups, and more. We also provide information on how to find the right professional for where you are in your healing journey.  Click HERE to search the APSATS directory for prof...

Join us in this episode as we embark on a journey of healing and self-discovery. We’ll explore the essential process of defining and refining our core values after experiencing the profound impact of infidelity and betrayal in relationships. Get some practical steps on how to understand your core values so that they can be a guiding compass for your personal and relational growth.  Thank you for t...

In this episode, we discuss the consequences surrounding infidelity and betrayal in relationships. We explore the connection between these heartbreaking experiences and the violation of core values. We desire to help you understand the significance of core values in establishing a strong foundation for individual and relational healing.  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing f...

Join us as we explore the transformative power of transparent conversations and self-honesty in the journey of post-infidelity resilience. In this episode, we delve into the intricacies of open communication, emphasizing the critical role that honesty with oneself plays in rebuilding trust. Building True Intimacy (book) https://intimacypyramid.com/ Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couple...

In today’s episode, we delve into the complex terrain of building healthy interdependence after betrayal. We explore the concept of individual growth within the context of a shared life and provide tips on maintaining independence while building a strong and supportive partnership.  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we ai...

Join us as we explore the intricate web of codependent behaviors, unravel the threads of trauma, and discover the empowering art of letting go. Together, we'll navigate the terrain of outdated coping strategies, empowering you to shed what no longer serves you and embrace a path of resilience and authenticity." Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and...

Join us in this episode as we explore the profound and transformative journey of using journaling as a therapeutic tool for healing after betrayal. Dive deep into the incredible benefits of putting pen to paper and discover how the simple act of journaling can become a powerful catalyst for emotional restoration. Learn practical tips, personal stories, and evidence backed strategies that illuminat...

In today’s episode we talk about the fears and barriers that come up when your spouse is unwilling to seek professional support or do any healing work after betrayal. We discuss ways to continue to move forward in your own healing and to make decisions about what is best for you going forward.  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified co...

In today's episode, we'll explore common phrases and expressions used by couples navigating the path of reconciliation and choosing to stay together after partner betrayal and infidelity. More importantly, we'll delve into how to respond with empathy. Remember, your journey is unique, and empathy can be a powerful tool in rebuilding trust and connection.  As certified coaches, we aim t...

Welcome to another episode of "Choosing to Stay," the podcast that explores the complexities of relationships, especially in the aftermath of partner betrayal. Today, we're delving into the terminology that often surfaces during the challenging journey of early recovery for couples. Thank you for joining us on this summary exploration of the terminology surrounding partner betrayal a...

Betrayal and infidelity bring inevitable loss to relationships, triggering a challenging journey of grief. In this episode, we explore the nuanced dimensions of grief resulting from betrayal, its impact on relationships, and strategies for couples not only to endure but thrive. Grief can either drive couples apart or deepen their connection. By choosing to stay and support each other through these...

Loss is an inevitable part of infidelity and betrayal, and when it strikes, couples often find themselves on a challenging journey of grief processing. In today's episode, we'll discuss the various dimensions of grief, how it affects relationships, and explore strategies for couples to not only survive but thrive through these difficult times. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for cou...