Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal , we delve into the challenging yet rewarding journey of reconstructing a relationship after infidelity. Whether you're at the beginning of this process or looking for ways to deepen your healing, this episode offers practical insights and emotional guidance on forging a new path forward. We talk about getting clear on our curre...

In this enlightening and hopeful episode, we sit down with John and Karen Rellos to explore impacts of intimacy deprivation and attachment wounds on couples. They share valuable experiences and insights into how these issues affect relationships and offer practical strategies for healing and rebuilding trust. Karen is an APSATS Certified Partner Coach, Intimacy Avoidance Coach, and Certified Brave...

In this episode, we dive into an important and often overlooked aspect of healing after betrayal: understanding and asserting your personal rights. Just as the Bill of Rights protects individuals in various ways, having a personal Bill of Rights can  help guide you through emotional and practical challenges of deciding whether to stay in a relationship after betrayal. We’ll discuss how to identify...

Join us this week we continue to dive into the complexities of abusive relationships by exploring the often misunderstood concepts of overt and covert abuse. While overt abuse is more recognizable, covert abuse can be insidious and harder to detect, leaving victims feeling confused and isolated. We break down the different forms these abuses can take, how they manifest in relationships, and the lo...

On the heels of our episode with Amie Woolsey, this week we dive into the complexities of abusive relationships by exploring the often misunderstood concepts of overt and covert abuse. While overt abuse is more recognizable, covert abuse can be insidious and harder to detect, leaving victims feeling confused and isolated. We break down the different forms these abuses can take, how they manifest i...

In this powerful episode, we sit down with relationship expert Amie Woolsey to delve into the intricacies of toxic and abusive behaviors within relationships. Amie shares her deep insights and practical advice on recognizing these harmful patterns, understanding their roots, and taking steps to move out of these behaviors and protect yourself from abuse.  If you would like to learn more about Amie...

Tune in to today’s Bonus Episode where Hali is joined by Alana Gordon who is the co-owner and Lead Therapist at Choose Recovery Services. Hear details about our upcoming Betrayal Trauma Intensive to be held in Spanish Fork, Utah on August 21-24, 2024. At this intensive you will be introduced to and given the opportunity to experience different somatic modalities to help you heal your body after ex...

In this episode we dive into the markers of rebuilding trust after experiencing betrayal in your relationship. We explore the 5 A’s:  Acknowledgement, Amends, Acquiring Knowledge, Accountability, and Acceptance. Whether you’ve been betrayed or are seeking to rebuild trust, this episode offers valuable guidance and hope for the path to healing and renewed trust. ` Thank you for tuning in to our pod...

In this episode, we delve into the concept of foreboding joy and how it affects couples on the journey of relational healing after betrayal. We explore why it’s often difficult to fully embrace happiness and joy after experiencing profound hurt, and we provide practical tips on how couples can work together to overcome these challenges and rebuild a foundation of trust and joy in their relationshi...

In today’s episode we discuss the challenges that come from having a strong desire for healthy connection when you are different paths of individual healing. We discuss strategies for surrendering what you cannot control and focusing on what is within your power. We highlight the empowerment that both spouses can experience as you embrace the responsibility of navigating your own healing.  Thank y...

Join Stephanie to learn on what it means to lead. Leading relational repair refers to the proactive and intentional efforts taken by the person who caused harm in a relationship to restore trust, improve communication, and rebuild the emotional bond. It involves taking full accountability for the actions that led to the breach of trust, demonstrating genuine remorse, and actively engaging in behav...

In this episode, we focus on the stages of healing from partner betrayal and infidelity, sharing insights from Paula Hall's work, breaking down the healing process into easily understandable acrostics. We highlight the first phase of safety and stabilization, followed by grief and mourning, and finally post-traumatic growth and reconnecting with oneself. We also explore the importance of under...

In this episode we discuss how infidelity and betrayal can erode a person’s sens of autonomy and can bring feelings of powerlessness and loss of control. Reclaiming autonomy is an important part of the healing process. We discuss some helpful ideas on how couples and individuals can navigate this process while maintaining the goal of relational repair if that is the desire.  Thank you for tuning i...

In today’s episode, we are joined by Dani Peterson, who is a Holistic Practitioner and Coach, as she steps into vulnerability and shares her deeply personal and professional journey with healing from betrayal when it becomes public knowledge and is amplified in the media. Join us as we explore the challenges, triumphs, and invaluable insights gained from navigating through the aftermath of betraya...

In today’s episode we discuss the non-linear process of healing after betrayal in relationships. We highlight the importance of understanding healing timelines and managing expectations during this vulnerable period. There are many diverse factors that can influence the pace and trajectory of healing and we highlight the significance of self-compassion and patience in this journey.   Thank you for...

In this episode, we're joined by Joshua Hamby. Together, we explore how identifying and reframing limiting belief narratives can catalyze profound healing, personal and relational growth in recovery. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relation...

We are so grateful to welcome our guest, Bonny Burns to the show today to talk about the important topic of sexual reintegration. We talk about sexual wouding and its impact on individuals. We delve into the shame that often comes up for both spouses and its affects on self-esteem and intimacy. We highligh the importance of acknowledging and addressing shame as a crucial step towards healing and r...

Thank you for joining us as we reflect on our first year of walking along side you in your healing journey! Today we share our gratitude for you, our listeners. We also reshare one of our most popular episodes from this year. We hope you enjoy this final episode and look forward to diving into Season 2 next week!  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betra...

In this episode, Natalie Bigler shares her journey of navigating betrayal with internal agency. She discusses the role of setting boundaries, overcoming challenges, and fostering authentic connections in the aftermath of betrayal. Tune in for empowering insights and advice for betrayed partners seeking to reclaim power and autonomy.  Guest Natalie Bigler BCC trainee, APSATS trainee, Therapeutic Ar...

In today’s episode we delve into a crucial aspect of relational repair after betrayal: prioritizing the needs of the betrayed partner. Join us as we explore the importance of acknowledging and addressing the needs of the betrayed spouse as a foundational step towards healing and rebuilding trust in the relationship. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and bet...

Join Hali in today’s episode where she discusses how to know if and when it’s the right time to step into couple’s work with a coach or therapist. She will offer guidance on when to recognize if you are ready for couple’s work and how to find a coach or therapist who can provide the sensitive support you need in the complex journey of healing after betrayal.  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast...

We are pleased to welcome Morgan Ellsworth back to share her groups for children who experience family betrayal. With school winding down and summer quickly approaching, it might be the right time to get your teen or adult child registered for a family betrayal support group. Morgan is offering a $5 per week discount for the first month to anyone who registers for either the Resilient Teens or Adu...

In this episode of the Choosing to Stay podcast we explore four strategies for fostering compassion when faced with a partner's lack of empathy, discover practical techniques to maintain emotional well-being and navigate challenging dynamics within the relationship, and learn how setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and effective communication can empower individuals to thrive despite emo...

In this episode, we delve into the complex dynamics of betrayal trauma from a unique perspective: that of the wounded aggressor. Beneath the surface of aggression lies a multitude of emotions and experiences. We will explore the deeper struggles that drive a betrayed partner to lash out or to hurt others. We give some practical tools that both partners can use to break free from harmful behaviors...

In this episode we discuss the unique benefits of group support for individuals navigating infidelity and betrayal, such as validation, empathy, and understanding from others who have experienced similar situations. Group support can provide a safe place for individuals to express their feelings, share their stories, and receive guidance without fear of judgement. We share the many different group...