Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

Pain is often seen as something to be avoided, suppressed, or overcome—but what if we could reframe it as a powerful signal? In this episode, we explore how pain, especially after betrayal, can be a guide rather than a burden. Instead of viewing it as a problem to be fixed, we can use it to uncover unmet needs, deepen self-awareness, and step into advocacy for ourselves and others. Thank you for t...

In today’s episode of Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal , we’re sharing a special recording from our monthly Road to Recovery webinar, where Hali sits down with Amie Woolsey to discuss the vital role of somatic healing after betrayal—for both partners. Betrayal trauma doesn’t just affect the mind; it lives in the body. Understanding how trauma is stored physically is essential to the...

In this special crossover episode, Hali joins Valerie Rubin, host of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast , to dive deep into the impact of betrayal and infidelity on both our nervous system and sense of safety. Whether you're navigating the aftermath of betrayal in a relationship or simply trying to regain trust in yourself, this episode offers invaluable insights into how to begin healing. Together,...

In this special bonus episode of Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, Hali sits down with Alana Gordon to dive deep into the ins and outs of couples work after betrayal. We break down the different phases of healing, what each phase entails, and how to know when you're ready to move forward. We discuss:✔️ The importance of slowing down the healing process✔️ Why individual work is es...

In today’s episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal , we dive into the emotional shields we build to protect ourselves after betrayal—and how those same shields can keep us from truly reconnecting with our partner. We explore the delicate balance of leaning in versus leaning back, understanding the role of defensiveness, and the importance of emotional vulnerability in rebuilding...

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal , we explore the critical role of self-advocacy in the healing process. Recovery is a deeply personal journey, and learning to advocate for yourself—whether with professionals, your spouse, or even with yourself—is essential for moving forward. Join us as we dive into: Trusting Your Gut: Learn to tune into your inner voice and disti...

In this episode of Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal , we explore the complex and often unspoken topic of shame for the betrayed partner who chooses to stay. Choosing to stay after betrayal can feel isolating, especially in a world that often labels this decision as weak or misguided. But staying is a courageous choice, rooted in love, resilience, and hope. Together, we’ll unpack the...

In this episode of Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal , we explore the profound journey of rediscovering oneself and rebuilding identity in the aftermath of betrayal. Whether you're navigating the impact of disclosure or grappling with the ripple effects of past choices, this episode offers insights and tools for self-reflection, healing, and growth. We discuss: The importance of self-...

Welcome to this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal! As the New Year begins, many of us feel the weight of societal pressure to set ambitious resolutions. But for those couples on a healing journey, especially after being impacted by betrayal in your relationship, this pressure can feel overwhelming and misaligned. In this episode, we explore how to redefine growth for the Ne...

In today’s episode of The Choosing to Stay Podcast , we’re diving into a critical element of relational repair: consistency. Whether you’re a betrayed partner or someone working on rebuilding trust and sexual integrity, consistency is the bridge that connects the promise of change to the reality of healing. What you'll learn: Why consistency is essential for relational repair. How consistent actio...

In this episode of the Choosing to Stay podcast, Hali and Stephanie dive into a listener's question: Does the pain ever go away after betrayal? They explore the emotional realities of betrayal trauma, what healing looks like over time, and how to approach the process of working through pain rather than avoiding it. From personal experiences to professional insights, Hali and Stephanie share: The n...

Rebuilding After Betrayal – An Invitation to Heal Together ⁠ I’m excited to introduce the Healing Hearts Live Group , a coaching program designed specifically for couples ready to move from surviving to thriving after betrayal. Why healing after betrayal feels overwhelming and how to take the first steps. The power of group coaching in providing tools, guidance, and shared learning. What makes the...

In this episode, we dive into the importance of applying healthy relationship skills in the journey of healing from infidelity and betrayal. We explore key strategies for improving communication, learning and practicing new skills, and how these tools can transform your relationship over time. Whether you’re in the early stages of recovery or looking to strengthen your relationship, the process of...

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal , we explore why consistency is essential for relational repair, whether you’re the betrayed partner or the one working to rebuild trust. Learn how consistency transforms intention into real change and supports healing for both partners. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As cert...

In the final episode of our When the Holidays Hurt series, we focus on how to heal and find joy amidst the chaos, especially when betrayal or family conflict has left emotional scars. The holidays can feel especially heavy during times of hurt, but we discuss how creating new traditions—no matter how small—can offer moments of peace and joy. We explore how stepping out of old traditions that no lo...

The holiday season can be full of joy—but it can also be a time of deep emotional strain, especially if you’re navigating grief and betrayal. In this second episode of our When the Holidays Hurt series, we dive into how to protect your peace during this challenging time. We explore the importance of setting and maintaining healthy boundaries with yourself and others, and how to create emotional sa...

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal , we’re diving into a topic that can bring up deep emotions for many—navigating the holiday season after the pain of betrayal. This episode offers guidance for those who are facing this season with new and complex challenges, helping you find ways to care for yourself, set realistic expectations, and create safe spaces for connectio...

In this episode, we explore the delicate balance of prioritizing your own healing in the wake of betrayal when your spouse is struggling. We discuss strategies to maintain your well-being while supporting your partner, emphasizing the importance of self-care, communication, and setting boundaries. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified...

In this episode, we dive deep into the nuances of healing after infidelity and betrayal, exploring why individual growth alone isn’t sufficient for restoring a relationship. Join us as we discuss the importance of moving beyond mere checkbox recovery, peeling back the layers of inner work, and fostering a sense of community while avoiding isolation. We’ll also touch on the significance of patience...

In this exciting episode of Choosing to Stay , co-hosts Hallie and Stephanie dive into Stephanie’s latest project—her new podcast, Renewed Restored . Stephanie shares how this new venture focuses on whole-person healing: addressing mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical recovery, especially for those who have experienced betrayal trauma and those working on sexual integrity. Listeners will hea...

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal , we explore the painful dynamics that occur when a betrayed spouse feels dismissed, minimized, or unheard by their partner. After the trauma of infidelity, it's crucial for both partners to validate each other's feelings to heal and rebuild trust. But when the pain is downplayed, dismissed, or ignored, it deepens emotional wounds,...

Join us in Spanish Fork, Utah on October 23-26, 2024 for the Courage to Thrive Intensive! This is an opportunity for betrayed partners to come and experience weeks or months worth of work in just a few days! You will have experiential opportunities on topics such as grief, healthy boundaries, self-love and redefining yourself after betrayal. We will provide opportunities to experience somatic heal...

Join us in Spanish Fork, Utah on October 23-26, 2024 for the Courage to Thrive Intensive! This is an opportunity for betrayed partners to come and experience weeks or months worth of work in just a few days! You will have experiential opportunities on topics such as grief, healthy boundaries, self-love and redifining yourself after betrayal. We will provide opportunities to experience somatic heal...

In this episode, we delve into the impact of avoidant behaviors on recovery after infidelity and betrayal. We explore how these behaviors can create barriers to healing, trust-building, and emotional intimacy. Join us as we help define what avoidant behaviors are and discuss practical strategies for recognizing and overcoming avoidance to foster a healthier path forward. Thank you for tuning in to...

In today’s episode, we delve into the critical steps of moving from immediate shock and pain to finding safety and stability initially. Addressing deeper relational issues is essential to relational repair, and sometimes those challenging dynamics appear because of unhealed wounding that one or both spouses may have been carrying for years. Using the powerful analogy of a car wreck, we explore how...