Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

We live in a fast-paced world where juggling work, family, and personal commitments can feel like an endless tightrope act. The concept of self-care, while essential for our mental and physical health, and especially essential for healing from trauma or addiction,  often gets pushed to the bottom of our to-do lists. But what if we told you that even the busiest of schedules can be infused with sel...

Today we talk about one of the final steps in the disclosure process - the Impact Letter and the Letter of Restitution. These two aspects of formal disclosure can be very healing for both partners and allows them to experience a deep level of vulnerability, intimacy, and empathy. We also highlight the benefits of getting professional support during this process.  Thank you for tuning in to our pod...

Join us as we welcome Wes Burns MPA, LPI, CFLEPE, a polygraph expert, to explore the practical uses of polygraphs in the aftermath of betrayal. Learn how a polygraph may be beneficial in helping individuals find the path to renewal after betrayal and for those Choosing to stay after infidelity and betrayal. To contact Wes or learn more about his distinguished service and experience in the professi...

Join us for this short BONUS episode with Luke Gordon where we define the different types of disclosures. We want to give you more information to make an informed decision about whether a disclosure is the right thing for you and what type might be best for you. We also explain the process we use at Choose Recovery Services.  Luke is the co-owner of Choose Recovery Services and is Certified Life a...

Today we welcome Luke Gordon back to the show to discuss the process of formal disclosures from a professional’s standpoint. Luke is the co-owner of Choose Recovery Services and is Certified Life and Recovery Coach who has experience supporting clients through the Disclosure process.  Read more about Luke or schedule an appointment with him HERE . If you would like to learn more about the disclosu...

Today, we have a special treat for our listeners as we welcome Joshua and Stephanie Hamby, a couple who will share their personal experience with formal disclosure and how it has impacted their relationship. In this episode, we'll explore the benefits, process, and the profound impact of formal disclosure on creating authentic intimacy, vulnerability, and connection. Thank you for tuning in to our...

Welcome to the bonus episode if we have an exciting topic to discuss – "Healing Hearts" – a comprehensive program designed to support early recovery and healing couples dealing with partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, e...

In today’s episode Carol Juergensen Sheets discusses the power of empathy in rebuilding trust and healing relationships after betrayal. She shares examples of how to show empathy and discusses her approach to couples healing through the Early Recovery Couple’s Empathy Model (ERCEM) of which is the creator.  Carol Juergensen Sheets LCSW, CCPS-S, CSAT-S, PCC is the author of several books including...

Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. In this episode of the Choosing To Stay podcast, our guest Ashly...

Should I Stay? Making Empowered Choices with Kim Brown In today’s episode, Hali talks with fellow coach, Kim Brown about facing the difficult choice of whether to stay or leave after betrayal. We talk about some of the common fears that many face as they navigate the challenges of healing both individually and relationally. We also talk about the challenges that come in choosing to leave when ther...

It has been observed that acting behaviors can be a significant obstacle in establishing sincere connections with others. We understand that healing from such behaviors can be challenging, so we invite you to participate in our discussion. Through this platform, we offer valuable insights and support to help you on your path toward healing. Whether you prefer group sessions, courses, or 1:1 coachi...

Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. In today's episode, we dive into the behaviors that contribu...

Join Hali and Stephanie with our special guest, Certified Addiction Recovery Coach, Luke Gordon. He provides a wealth of detailed information on the various phases, notable accomplishments, and potential obstacles that one may encounter during this journey of recovery from sexual integrity issues. We hope that the knowledge shared today will prove helpful and illuminating to each of you. Learn mor...

Welcome to the third part of our series, "Yours, Mine, and Our Recovery and Healing." Today, we will be discussing the crucial steps involved in repairing a relationship after infidelity and betrayal. We will explore the significance of acknowledging and empathizing with your partner's pain, the effort required to build a new relationship, and ways to support growth. Join us today to...

Welcome to the second part of our series, yours, mine, and our recovery and healing. Today, we will discuss the significance of individual work for those struggling with sexual integrity issues. We will delve into embracing vulnerability and accountability, understanding and expressing one's emotions, and identifying the underlying causes of acting out behaviors. Join us today to gain insights...

Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Today is Part 1 of a 3-part series where we are going to look at...

Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. The early stages right after discovery or disclosure of betrayal...

Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Tune in to episode #7 of the Choosing to Stay podcast, where Ste...

Healing from betrayal can be accelerated if the partner who has had sexual integrity issues can learn to receive their spouse's emotions without sinking into shame or defensive mode. In today’s episode, we talk about how to seek to understand your spouse's strong emotions and receive those in a healthy way. We will give you some great insights and share some tools you can practice implemen...

Episode 5 What do I do with my strong emotions?  In today’s episode we will talk about why it’s so important to be able to identify and process our emotions. We give some practical tools that can be used right away to help you learn this skill. There is power in honoring our emotions and taking responsibility for how we handle those emotions. We discuss choosing to respond to different situations...

Episode 4 - Understanding Betrayal Trauma It can be hard to understand why your betrayed spouse is behaving or reacting in certain ways after there have been sexual integrity issues.  Today we talk about what happens in the brain and body after betrayal and give you some insight into understanding your partner. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal...

A warm welcome to the third episode of the Choosing to Stay podcast; today, we will delve into the significance of emotional and physical safety. We admire and acknowledge the courage and strength necessary to embark on the path toward recovery, restoration, and building healthy relationships. When there has been betrayal, it's essential to establish foundational relational safety. Recovery, w...

Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Welcome to episode two of the Choosing to Stay podcast. Today, w...

Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. In this episode, Hali and Stephanie discuss the following: It ma...

We warmly welcome you to our podcast; we are enthusiastic about supporting couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we offer support and guidance, especially if you have chosen to stay in your relationship. We understand the pain and challenges of this journey, and we want to provide you with valuable insights, empathy, and hope that can help you move forward. Please joi...