Cheating: When Love Lies

Some still believe that a wife’s role is to stay at home with her children, tend to her family, and be devoted to her husband. In Western culture these ideas are currently part of the Trad Wife movement. Trad stands for traditional wife. On this episode I welcome international matchmaker Florent Raimy, Founder of Edwige International. Florent’s matchmaking clients are wealthy men from all over the...

Sometimes an angry affair partner attacks her married lover, his wife and even his children. The affair partner will stalk, cyber stalk, physically attack or threaten her married lover’s wife, children, and extended family in order to taunt, threaten or intimidate them. These affair partners are sometimes called bunny boilers, based on the mentally unstable mistress character in the 80s hit movie...

There are times when your partner’s lies, deception, and gaslighting are so carefully crafted and meticulously masked, he not only fools you, he hoodwinks multiple women and your professionally trained relationship counselors. What happens when the full extent of his deception is revealed? Is it just another bad breakup, or are the implications much greater than that? My guest whose real name is S...

Being blindsided by an affair or a divorce can bring you to your knees. Even the seemingly most powerful people who are typically in command of their careers and their lives can become petrified by fear and anxiety. This is exactly what happened to my guest Rob Malkani. Now Rob counsels people just like himself who were blindsided by divorce and sometimes the affairs that lead to them. Rob has tak...

How many wives would choose to meet their husband's lover? Would you sit down and have a discussion with your spouse and his lover about their affair? What would you hope learn from that conversation? Perhaps something that could justify, rationalize or at least explain why your spouse cheated on you. This is what happened to my guest (let's call her Tiffany.) Tiffany confronted her husband, his l...

You meet a guy and he love bombs you. For anyone who doesn't know what that is, it's when a guy first meets you and showers you with compliments, gifts and attention, and tells you "I love you" though he barely knows you at all. You fall for this and you suddenly you're wrapped up in a faux romance that's often the precursor to emotional and sometimes physical abuse. This is what happened to my gu...

On this episode we talk about fantasy: erotic fantasy worlds that men create in their minds inspired by scrolling social media. It's not about an addiction to porn, it's something else. A whole new world of fantasy that many men are addicted to despite the disastrous impact it has on marriages and partnerships. In my conversation with leading psychologist Dr. Jennifer Guttman we explore a whole ne...

Imagine your husband’s former affair partner belongs to your church, is a mom at your kids’ school, a member of your club, or is even your neighbor. What if proximity means you could end up seeing her all the time? Would you avoid going to those places where she could be? Would you make yourself scarce when you know she might be around in order to save yourself from embarrassment or confrontation?...

Could you be paid to keep your affair silent? Would a big fat check keep you from exposing your affair when your married affair partner goes back to his wife? How much would it take to keep you quiet? See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nice guys versus bad boys. Bad boys are the ones you fantasize about, you’re dying to date, and want to have sex with. Nice guys are safe because they’re trustworthy, faithful, and honest. “Not true,” says my guest Dr. Robert Glover, therapist, coach, speaker, and author of “No More Mr. Nice Guy.” Nice guys he says, are constantly holding up a facade of good and acceptable behavior to make people...

Deception, lies, and gaslighting. Are they the most hurtful part of an affair, or is it the sex and knowing that your partner may be madly in love with someone else? It’s different for every betrayed partner, but for my guest today whom we’ll call Lisa — she was tortured her husband’s lying. Lisa found out about her husband’s affair, and after she nabbed him, he promised to work on their marriage....

For President's Day we are featuring one of our favorite past episodes. My guest today lived his traditional family life and his ultimate affair fantasy. He had the suburban dream of a devoted wife and two small children, but the moment he stepped foot in the cosmopolitan city where he worked, he became a slick, handsome playboy with a stunning, sexy, lover. But slowly he noticed his lover started...

You find out your spouse has been living a secret life with an affair partner for 4 years while you suffer in your barren, sexless marriage that you hold together for the kids. You immediately file for divorce. Now you’re free and you rediscover your sexuality and erotic fantasies with a new, sexy partner. Sounds dreamy right? Nope. For my guest whom we’ll call Laura, her new relationship became h...

A cheating husband who is remorseful, openly apologetic and more committed to his wife than ever: that’s just one of my guests today. My other guest is his wife who forgives her husband and believes that their marriage is finally a “real marriage” ever since he’s confessed, become sober and committed to intense therapy. But before this couple got here, the husband (whom we’ll call Greg) did someth...

Turn your mess into your message. My guest today also named Jillian did just that. Her boyfriend cheated on her from the beginning of their relationship to the bitter end. He had dozens of lovers (yes dozens) and is a self confessed sex addict-both of which shocked my guest and tore her world apart. But Jillian Romero Chaves, founder and CEO of the relationship app Clara for Daters took that mess...

This week we are bringing back a fan favorite. You think you're in a committed relationship. You and your boyfriend are nesting with his daughter and living as a family in what feels like a dream. Then one day your boyfriend is killed in a tragic accident. Overcome with grief, you host his memorial service only to find out that several of the women attending are also in a relationship with your bo...

For years the buzzword was attracting, as in “you attract the partner you have in your life.” Then the term “manifesting” took over, and suddenly everyone was trying to manifest everything from a dream job to a faithful partner. But what if deep down your subconscious was on overdrive pulling you toward that person who awakens your childhood abandonment issues, triggers your trauma bond, and then...

Think about the chaos that ensues from any love triangle. Is it two people vying for one person’s love, or (at times) is it a melodrama that distracts people from their legitimate life problems? How many times is an affair, whether we are a cheater or a betrayed partner, just a means of distracting ourselves from real hurt and pain in other parts of our lives? My guest Sandy may be emblematic of t...

Tom "The Suit" Forst has been touring the world as what one critic calls a "blues ass-kicker" for decades. He's traveled the world without his wife as a blues musician and before that as "a suit" in the corporate world. Because of this, Tom has an up close and personal view of how tempting cheating and affairs on the road can be. In our talk, Tom gets vulnerable, raw, and very real as he shares an...

Josh and Sharon are two formerly married people whose spouses cheated on them. Before they were married, Sharon’s husband covered up the truth about his debts and failing finances. Then after they married, her husband started an affair with a woman he invited to Sharon’s baby shower. Josh’s wife had an affair after 17 years of marriage. He was devastated and disillusioned by this infidelity, and y...

You've cheated. You've done the deed. Whether that's sleeping with, having oral sex with, or hiding an emotional affair with a person outside of your relationship, you've done it: you've created the time and space to have an affair. Now you lie incessantly to cover it up. Your conscience is telling you that you've got a decision to make. Do you come clean, or do you deny, deny, deny the affair at...

What if you’re often the side piece - time after time the other woman. First you have an affair with your husband’s work colleague. Then you cheat on your husband with someone you meet in an alcohol recovery group. Next you find yourself sleeping with the husband of a couple that hosting you in their home as a guest. And on and on. What’s going on here? My guest whom we’ll call Jen has actually li...

Can Oral Sex With Your Partner Make Affairs Less Tempting? What does this very intimate act say about the level of masterful communication you share or don’t with your partner? My guest, holistic life and relationship coach Alby James says giving and receiving oral sex is a clue into how much and your partner respect each other. Alby talks about oral sex, intimacy and how to achieve masterful comm...

We all took the week off to celebrate Thanksgiving with our families and friends, so we’ve brought back a favorite episode from the early days of CWLL. Imagine a lavish life with a wealthy husband where you feel secure that you and your children will be taken care of forever. Imagine the thrill of first-class vacations to your family's luxurious homes in the most exotic places. Imagine your husban...

Tony and Nicole were secret lovers who became a couple after they cheated on and eventually left their spouses. They have that super passionate kind of love that takes you over, and you cannot deny. But what does an affair cost your children and the spouse you’ve left behind? They say, “he’ll never leave his wife” or “she’ll never leave her husband” but Tony did and Nicole did - right before Thank...