Cheating: When Love Lies

Let’s call this episode the Halloween edition because I am spooked by guest’s husband’s very odd behavior—like getting fake restaurant receipts to prove he was dining somewhere when actually, he wasn’t. My guest caught her husband in countless lies by tracking his car. She even found a bag in her husband’s closet containing the most shocking, damning evidence of cheating one could possibly find, a...

In this week's classic episode It's hard to think of a more demoralizing and debilitating situation than this: your husband has an affair, and his affair partner gets pregnant. But wait - it gets worse because you were pregnant around the same time his lover was pregnant. This is what happened to my guest Carly. Will Carly choose to save her marriage and embrace her husband's lover's child? What w...

I remember once a famous LA doctor said to me, Jillian everything seems so important until you get sick, then once you're sick the only thing that matters is getting better. This was the situation for my guest and her husband who was so ill, he was often hospitalized. His wife believed he was receiving the best possible care, but something happened at the hospital that threatened to end their deca...

Bringing back a favorite episode this week….The man you've fallen in love with is another woman's husband. As much as you try to resist the lure of his flirtation, eventually you succumb to his charm and start an affair. Your relationship with this married man feels deeply emotional, sexy and passionate. But when his wife finds out about you, the affair turns into a tumultuous saga involving you,...

Do dating apps drive people to cheat? Do dating apps facilitate cheating? Or do dating apps have nothing to do with cheating at all? My guest Samantha, her boyfriend brazenly cheated on her with a multitude of women, and at times used different dating apps to find these other partners. Samantha has a PhD in public health and wrote her dissertation on dating app use — so I was thrilled to have this...

Is your spouse’s best friend too close for comfort? Does your partner’s BFF get more attention, time and better treatment than you? When you start to question just how close your spouse is to their “best friend” are you paranoid or intuitive? My guest Brent, who is married to his husband Michael ( not his real name) would say the latter. Brent’s world was turned upside down when he was deceived by...

About two years ago, a guy friend said to me "I know my best friend and he would never cheat on his wife. He just wouldn't do it." Because of this podcast I'm sworn to secrecy, so I couldn't tell him that his best buddy was a flagrant philanderer who had cheated many times with many different women in both emotional and sexual affairs. As wives, husbands, partners, family members, and best friends...

You are single and you’re having an affair with someone who is married or is a committed partner. You desperately want to know if your lover is going to leave their spouse to be with you. Alternatively, you’ve been betrayed. Your spouse has broken your vows, or your committed partner has been unfaithful. You too desperately want answers to the question “will my spouse choose me or their secret lov...

For the Labor Day holiday we are bringing back one of our most compelling episodes. It's hard to think of a more demoralizing and debilitating situation than this: your husband has an affair, and his affair partner gets pregnant. But wait - it gets worse because you were pregnant around the same time his lover was pregnant. This is what happened to my guest Carly. Will Carly choose to save her mar...

Tony and Nicole were secret lovers who became a couple after they cheated on and eventually left their spouses. They have that super passionate kind of love that takes you over, and you cannot deny. But what does an affair cost your children and the spouse you've left behind? They say, "he'll never leave his wife" or "she'll never leave her husband" but Tony did and Nicole did - right before Thank...

You meet the man of your dreams and you fall madly in love. He's from another country, and his homeland is far from yours. One day he gets his dream job abroad and you agree to follow him to a foreign country, then back to his homeland to start a family. Years later the relationship starts to fall apart and he winds up having an affair. This is what happened to my guest whom we'll call Susan. When...

Your husband‘s affair partner has a brand new car, and you’re driving a 10 -year-old model. Your husband‘s affair partner has a brand new air conditioning system, and you’re sweltering in the heat because your A/C is broken. Your husband seems to have endless resources for his affair partner, and little for you. This is what happened to my guest whom we call Vicky, when she discovered her husband’...

My guest today whom we’ll call Pam, was a pastor’s affair partner. She is married, and so is the pastor. Pam believes that she wasn’t the only secret lover in this pastor’s life. She thinks she is one among many women whom this pastor groomed to become his affair partner. Are Pam’s suspicions correct? How is it that a faith leader whom we trust and look to for moral guidance can carry on an affair...

Could you be paid to keep your affair silent? Would a big fat check keep you from exposing your affair when your married affair partner goes back to his wife? How much would it take to keep you quiet? See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your partner cheats on you with your best friend. Sadly we have heard this tale many times before. But what if instead of being contrite and remorseful, your cheating best friend claims “I did you a favor” by having an affair with your partner. This is exactly what happened to my guest whom we’ll call Clare. Clare’s best friend and her boyfriend had an affair. How could the best friend do this - p...

The man you've fallen in love with is another woman's husband. As much as you try to resist the lure of his flirtation, eventually you succumb to his charm and start an affair. Your relationship with this married man feels deeply emotional, sexy and passionate. But when his wife finds out about you, the affair turns into a tumultuous saga involving you, your affair partner, his wife, his children,...

While we are on vacation please enjoy a relaunch of this fan favorite episode. About 20 years into your marriage, you find out that your husband has been cheating on you with your neighbor. You and he go to therapy to try and fix the marriage. While you're devastated, you remain hopeful because you believe that therapy is going to help your communication, right the wrongs, and ultimately heal the...

What if your husband's affair partner is not only obsessed with your husband, but she's also obsessed with you! She does everything in her power to lure your husband - like "mini dates," disguised as dog walks, calls and incessant texts. But she also wants to know you so badly, she infiltrates your home and your online world to get as close to you as she possibly can. It's intrusive. It's bizarre....

Summer replay. New episode next week. So many times we hear how people, both women and men hesitate to leave a relationship even when bad things happen. But not my guest - award winning host of the podcasts "Dying For Sex" and "Near Death", actress and singer Nikki Boyer. Nikki made a split second decision to leave her cheating boyfriend and never looked back. But she's still talking about him, ev...

Your husband has an affair. You take the conventional path and seek out couples’ therapy and probably individual therapy. It feels like the persistent negative thoughts, ruminations about his affair, visions of his intimacy with the affair partner, the anger and resentment won’t go away. My guest today is our beloved regular contributor Beth Miller, marriage coach and owner of Soulifywellness. Bet...

What is micro cheating and are you doing it? Micro cheating describes behaviors that may be considered infidelity, but the boundary between micro cheating and a full blown affair isn’t clear. My guest today—we’ll call her Connie, blames her micro cheating for bringing her marriage to the brink of divorce. But is how Connie’s husband behaves with the ladies behind her back even worse? Is there even...

Your husband refuses to have sex with you. He won’t kiss you, touch you or show you any affection at all. You feel neglected, abandoned and unwanted. No matter how much you beg and plead for his attention, you realize you can’t compete with that remote in his hand or his favorite recliner. This is what happened to my guest Maria. Does Maria have the right to find intimacy and pleasure wherever she...

For Memorial Day weekend we are featuring one our favorite episodes from the past. On this episode we have a panel discussion with two ladies whose marriages were scorched by infidelity along with their relationship coach Beth Miller. Beth's 12 week program teaches women how to transform themselves in order to transform their lives and relationships. Using Beth's Soulify Wellness method, my two gu...

This is a classic case of what would you do? What would you do if just two weeks before your wedding you found out your partner was cheating on you? Would you confide in a family member or tell a friend? Would you confront the cheating partner or let it go? Would you immediately cancel the wedding, or take time to consider your options? This nightmare of a predicament happened to my guest Greyson...

You're a husband. A good guy, a strong provider and a very present father. Despite that, your wife is not satisfied and has an affair with a man who has substance abuse issues, an unstable job history and troubles with the law. Guided by your faith, you manage to hold your marriage together and your wife ends the affair. But several years later you start to notice some uncomfortable changes in you...