Cheating: When Love Lies

Your husband refuses to have sex with you. He won’t kiss you, touch you or show you any affection at all. You feel neglected, abandoned and unwanted. No matter how much you beg and plead for his attention, you realize you can’t compete with that remote in his hand or his favorite recliner. This is what happened to my guest Maria. Does Maria have the right to find intimacy and pleasure wherever she...

You have a 16 year affair. You share passionate days and evenings, off-the-charts sex and romantic getaways. You're madly in love with your affair partner, but you refuse to leave your wife. What if all this seems completely normal to you because as a teenager your father had you lie to your mother in order to cover up his affair and keep his girlfriend a secret. How would that affect your feeling...

Some still believe that a wife’s role is to stay at home with her children, tend to her family, and be devoted to her husband. In Western culture these ideas are currently part of the Trad Wife movement. Trad stands for traditional wife. On this episode I welcome international matchmaker Florent Raimy, Founder of Edwige International. Florent’s matchmaking clients are wealthy men from all over the...

They cheat. You go back. They cheat again, you go back again. Your intuition is screaming that something is off and they’re being unfaithful, yet you persist in the relationship. Then you get irrefutable evidence of their cheating, but suddenly you become more attached than ever. This is what happened to my guest Victoria. Soulifywellness owner and marriage and relationship Beth Miller is here to...

My guest on this episode is a serial cheater and exhibitionist who watches porn, pays for sex acts, sleeps with other women, and regularly lies to his wife. Dr. Roland Cochran was once this cheating husband, before he confronted his addiction, transformed his mindset and changed his life. If you have ever experienced a cheater or witnessed a cheater, you may ask yourself the question: How could th...

You're a husband. A good guy, a strong provider and a very present father. Despite that, your wife is not satisfied and has an affair with a man who has substance abuse issues, an unstable job history and troubles with the law. Guided by your faith, you manage to hold your marriage together and your wife ends the affair. But several years later you start to notice some uncomfortable changes in you...

Imagine that your husband has cheated on you with more than five different women (that you’re aware of) and that one of those affairs was while you were pregnant. Time after time you take him back, and then you realize your husband has been unfaithful for almost two decades of marriage. This is what happened to my guest whom we’ll call Cheetah. At the end of our interview Cheetah reveals what reas...

What if you're often the side piece - time after time the other woman. First you have an affair with your husband's work colleague. Then you cheat on your husband with someone you meet in an alcohol recovery group. Next you find yourself sleeping with the husband of a couple that hosting you in their home as a guest. And on and on. What's going on here? My guest whom we'll call Jen has actually li...

What is micro cheating and are you doing it? Micro cheating describes behaviors that may be considered infidelity, but the boundary between micro cheating and a full blown affair isn't clear. My guest today-we'll call her Connie, blames her micro cheating for bringing her marriage to the brink of divorce. But is how Connie's husband behaves with the ladies behind her back even worse? Is there even...

No one is immune to relationship betrayal. Anyone can be deceived and lied to by their partner. Do you believe that? My guest today, Kathi Miner PhD and author of “The Committed Professor. A Memoir: My Fall from the Lectern to the Psych Ward” says “yes”. What’s shocking about this cheating story is that Kathi’s lifelong commitment to feminism and feminist values couldn’t protect her from the narci...

There are times when your partner's lies, deception, and gaslighting are so carefully crafted and meticulously masked, he not only fools you, he hoodwinks multiple women and your professionally trained relationship counselors. What happens when the full extent of his deception is revealed? Is it just another bad breakup, or are the implications much greater than that? My guest whose real name is S...

The emotional trauma that follows heartbreak after an affair can be devastating. We can experience sadness, depression and isolation. But how does an affair also affect your physical well-being? Can it damage your physical body? My guest Adele Stratton says “yes,” because as a BioDynamic Cranial Sacral Therapist, she’s seen it in her patients. Adele is the owner and founder of Phoenix Rising Heali...

You're having an affair and you think your kids don't know it? Well think again. My guest today is an extraordinary young woman who wrote in to share her story after listening to an earlier Cheating: When Love Lies episode called "When Your Kids Find Out You Cheated." In that episode a woman in her 50s, told us how in her teens, she discovered her mother was having an affair. This episode's guest...

Do you really know your partner? After years together as a couple, can you confidently say you know everything about them—everything they do and everything they’re truly capable of? My guest, Megan, was shocked to uncover her husband’s cruelty and deception. Join me to hear how he destroyed their trust and tried to create chaos and division in her family with lies and manipulation. Be a guest on t...

Turn your mess into your message. My guest today also named Jillian did just that. Her boyfriend cheated on her from the beginning of their relationship to the bitter end. He had dozens of lovers (yes dozens) and is a self confessed sex addict-both of which shocked my guest and tore her world apart. But Jillian Romero Chaves, founder and CEO of the relationship app Clara for Daters took that mess...

A woman comes into your husband's life and captures his heart. Your husband and his new lover share emotional and physical intimacy and he can't seem to leave this other woman's side. His affair threatens your marriage, family, peace and serenity. This is what happened to my guest whom we'll call Karen, whose hated for the other woman became enormous. How would you handle that hatred? Would you se...

What if you suspected your partner had a secret lover. You could just feel in your gut. Something in your relationship changed, and you're convinced your partner is seeing, or even worse, having sex with someone else. Maybe you start snooping and sniffing around to see what this could-be cheater is up to. You might try to get into their phone and their computer, or do some low-key stalking. But wh...

Imagine if you could change your thinking and behavior in such a way to prevent your significant other from cheating on you. What if you could partially control whether or not your partner would be faithful by demonstrating some self respect. My guest today, Trevor Justice is a relationship coach and author of “Change Who You Attract & How You’re Treated.” Join me as I learn Trevor’s method on how...

Deception, lies, and gaslighting. Are they the most hurtful part of an affair, or is it the sex and knowing that your partner may be madly in love with someone else? It's different for every betrayed partner, but for my guest today whom we'll call Lisa - she was tortured her husband's lying. Lisa found out about her husband's affair, and after she nabbed him, he promised to work on their marriage....

This week we are bringing back another favorite episode. Your husband has an affair which leads you to ask for a divorce. But it's what you discover after you file for divorce that shocks you and has you facing a moral dilemma. Your husband's been unfaithful and now you're divorcing him, so what's the use in trying to learn even more about his philandering ways - why torture yourself? My guest who...

For years the buzzword was attracting, as in "you attract the partner you have in your life." Then the term "manifesting" took over, and suddenly everyone was trying to manifest everything from a dream job to a faithful partner. But what if deep down your subconscious was on overdrive pulling you toward that person who awakens your childhood abandonment issues, triggers your trauma bond, and then...

Josh and Sharon are two formerly married people whose spouses cheated on them. Before they were married, Sharon's husband covered up the truth about his debts and failing finances. Then after they married, her husband started an affair with a woman he invited to Sharon's baby shower. Josh's wife had an affair after 17 years of marriage. He was devastated and disillusioned by this infidelity, and y...

My guest today whom we’ll call Victoria, was emotionally and physically abused by her boyfriend. What began as incidents of grabbing and pushing escalated into violent beatings. But it wasn’t until Victoria eventually married this boyfriend ( oh yes she did) that she became aware of his cheating. Join me to find out what helped Victoria emerge from this nightmare to restore her life as a healthy,...

About two years ago, a guy friend said to me "I know my best friend and he would never cheat on his wife. He just wouldn't do it." Because of this podcast I'm sworn to secrecy, so I couldn't tell him that his best buddy was a flagrant philanderer who had cheated many times with many different women in both emotional and sexual affairs. As wives, husbands, partners, family members, and best friends...