Cheating: When Love Lies

This week we are bringing back one of our favorite episodes. When I was growing up a "hall pass" was the thing you needed in middle school in order to leave class and go to the bathroom. That's not what a "hall pass" is anymore. Today's definition is a lot sexier. According to my guest, a "hall pass" let's you cheat without begin called a cheater. Lets you explore without having to explain. Lets y...

Finding your soulmate. Isn’t that the holy grail of love and relationships? It’s when you find the person who just gets you and wildly turns you on. Once we’re convinced that they’re the ONE, we marry them, or build a committed partnership with them, then swear nothing will ever tear us apart. Well — not so fast says my guest, author John P. Weiss. John is a celebrated writer and has a sizable fol...

I remember once a famous LA doctor said to me, Jillian everything seems so important until you get sick, then once you’re sick the only thing that matters is getting better. This was the situation for my guest and her husband who was so ill, he was often hospitalized. His wife believed he was receiving the best possible care, but something happened at the hospital that threatened to end their deca...

A woman comes into your husband’s life and captures his heart. Your husband and his new lover share emotional and physical intimacy and he can’t seem to leave this other woman’s side. His affair threatens your marriage, family, peace and serenity. This is what happened to my guest whom we’ll call Karen, whose hated for the other woman became enormous. How would you handle that hatred? Would you se...

This week due to technical difficulties we are bringing back one of our favorite episodes. We’ve got lots of new guests and topics coming up! IG @cheatingwhenlovelies E-mail: jillianhamiltonpodcast.com Imagine you're a bride, and your fiancé invites a woman you barely know to your wedding under the guise that they're "just friends." He and his "friend" disappear from the reception for almost 2 hou...

On this episode, we meet Viveca (not her real name) who explains how she had a four year affair with a married man whose wife paid Viveca to do work in their home, and also asked her to babysit the couples’ daughter. It sounds astounding, but it was a Viveca’s ability to hide in plain sight that helped her keep her passionate affair going. How did she do this? How could she do this? Join me to fin...

About two years ago, a guy friend said to me “I know my best friend and he would never cheat on his wife. He just wouldn’t do it.” Because of this podcast I’m sworn to secrecy, so I couldn’t tell him that his best buddy was a flagrant philanderer who had cheated many times with many different women in both emotional and sexual affairs. As wives, husbands, partners, family members, and best friends...

You catch your husband red-handed with the person you least suspect. How do you react? Do you break down in tears, or get angry and verbally attack your husband or his lover? My guest whom we’ll call Avery, faced this very situation when she caught her husband with another woman. Her husband was cheating with the one person Avery never thought would interfere in her marriage. How Avery reacted to...

You meet the man of your dreams and you fall madly in love. He’s from another country, and his homeland is far from yours. One day he gets his dream job abroad and you agree to follow him to a foreign country, then back to his homeland to start a family. Years later the relationship starts to fall apart and he winds up having an affair. This is what happened to my guest whom we’ll call Susan. When...

The man you’ve fallen in love with is another woman’s husband. As much as you try to resist the lure of his flirtation, eventually you succumb to his charm and start an affair. Your relationship with this married man feels deeply emotional, sexy and passionate. But when his wife finds out about you, the affair turns into a tumultuous saga involving you, your affair partner, his wife, his children,...

I discovered this week’s guest, best selling international author Christopher K. Lopez on Medium, where he publishes his top-rated articles about relationships. According to Christopher, what does love have to do with cheating? He says successful men like him can have women as either the main event, options, or back ups. But he also says that there is a way for women to earn what he calls the priv...

Your husband has an affair which leads you to ask for a divorce. But it’s what you discover after you file for divorce that shocks you and has you facing a moral dilemma. Your husband’s been unfaithful and now you’re divorcing him, so what’s the use in trying to learn even more about his philandering ways - why torture yourself? My guest whom we’ll call Gail uncovered disturbing facts about her hu...

As we wrap up vacation we bring you another favorite episode from the past. Look forward to new episodes coming soon. Gaslighting is a term we often hear, but would you know when and if it was happening to you? ??For those who don't know what gaslighting is, it's when someone tries to convince you that something they said or did never occurred. The gaslighter denies the reality of what you know ha...

We are still on vacation so please enjoy one of our favorite past episodes. On this episode we talk about fantasy: erotic fantasy worlds that men create in their minds inspired by scrolling social media. It's not about an addiction to porn, it's something else. A whole new world of fantasy that many men are addicted to despite the disastrous impact it has on marriages and partnerships. In my conve...

We are on vacation this week, so we are revisiting one of my favorite episodes from last summer. A mature married man who's been with his wife for 20 odd years decides to go off and have an affair with a hot young 20 or 30- year-old. Nothing newsworthy there. In fact, some more cynical types might say it's commonplace. But what about a mature married woman in her 40s or 50s having an affair with a...

Emotional abuse comes in many forms: withholding affection, withholding sex, withholding money, and the particularly torturous one – gaslighting. That’s when your partner tries to convince you that what you’re feeling, thinking and seeing, and that you know to be true, well isn’t. You’re told you’re too sensitive and all your suspicions are just a figment of your imagination. With no money, no fam...

What if your husband’s affair partner is not only obsessed with your husband, but she’s also obsessed with you! She does everything in her power to lure your husband — like “mini dates,” disguised as dog walks, calls and incessant texts. But she also wants to know you so badly, she infiltrates your home and your online world to get as close to you as she possibly can. It’s intrusive. It’s bizarre....

What have I learned about infidelity in since starting Cheating: When Love Lies? I get asked this question a lot, and recently listeners have written in to ask my own views on infidelity. What do I consider cheating? Who cheats more men or women? Should everyone get a hall pass? These and so many other questions. So on this episode, I’ve asked my friend, actor and podcast host Brendan Fitzgibbons...

It’s hard to think of a more demoralizing and debilitating situation than this: your husband has an affair, and his affair partner gets pregnant. But wait — it gets worse because you were pregnant around the same time his lover was pregnant. This is what happened to my guest Carly. Will Carly choose to save her marriage and embrace her husband’s lover’s child? What would you do? Find Beth at: www....

You’re having an affair and you think your kids don’t know it? Well think again. My guest today is an extraordinary young woman who wrote in to share her story after listening to an earlier Cheating: When Love Lies episode called “When Your Kids Find Out You Cheated.” In that episode a woman in her 50s, told us how in her teens, she discovered her mother was having an affair. This episode’s guest...

So many times we hear how people, both women and men hesitate to leave a relationship even when bad things happen. But not my guest — award winning host of the podcasts “Dying For Sex” and “Near Death,”actress and singer Nikki Boyer. Nikki made a split second decision to leave her cheating boyfriend and never looked back. But she’s still talking about him, even today 20 years later. Ummm? Was she...

Your husband is sending gifts to another woman who is a stripper. This situation raises so many questions. Does my husband frequent strip clubs? How extravagant are these gifts? Is this a full blown affair? Why did he choose a stripper over me? My guest today is a wife we’ll call Kathy who has lived this predicament. Joining Kathy and me is Beth Miller, owner of Soulify Wellness. Beth is an integr...

On this episode we have a panel discussion with two ladies whose marriages were scorched by infidelity along with their relationship coach Beth Miller. Beth’s 12 week program teaches women how to transform themselves in order to transform their lives and relationships. Using Beth’s Soulify Wellness method, my two guests, Anne and Marie explore memories and unprocessed emotions which are often the...

You're a devoted husband with a loving, committed and intelligent wife. You want to family; a traditional American dream with a wife, kids, and a cozy home. But secretly you're in love with another man. You and he have an emotional, passionate and sexy love affair that you can't seem to put aside. For my guests today, Mark and David (not their real names or voices) this was their life, until more...

You’re a husband. A good guy, a strong provider and a very present dad. Despite that, your wife goes out and cheats on you. You struggle to hold your marriage together and somehow you manage to. But what happens if once again your wife’s behavior starts to get well, weird. Do you still trust her, investigate or leave? This episode’s guest, Harrison Scott Key answers this question in his new book c...