Cheating on Fear

This week we welcome back beloved regular Dr. Tom Murray. Topics and digressions include: Lil Nas X, bi invisibility, erectile disappointment, attraction in long-term relationships, marriage mortgages and what the root of love is. So much meat… and a little bit of cheese! If you aren’t following Dr. Tom Murray on Instagram and Twitter , you ought to be! You can also find Dr. Murray at his website...

Beatrice and Dante welcome back Dr. Treena Orchard to talk about her research into sex work, the invisible labour that many woman have to endure by virtue of their gender, how the patriarchy hurts everyone, and how a common tactic of conflating something horrible with something potentially innocuous can lead to a divisive battle, even when everyone is trying to “do the right thing." You can find D...

There has been a growing trend over the last few years of celebrities and online experts offering health and wellness advice, usually with a giant price tag. Over the last year it has expanded to include white privilege and anti-science sentiment. This week Beatrice and Dante talk about the four wheels of wellness and how better health is more accessible and less exclusive than you thought. Food,...

Beatrice and Dante sit down and chat with holistic online coach Johnna (Soul Searching and Squats) who shares an early job experience working as a make-up artist, and later production manger, in the adult film industry. You've never seen a Target shopping list quite like this one! You can find Johnna on Instagram ( @soulsearchingandsquats ) or her website www.isquatforpancakes.com . If you’re look...

Have you ever wondered what it might be like to take a closed, monogamous relationship, and open it up? This week Beatrice and Dante discuss There is No "I" in Threesome , a mainstream documentary that tracks the trials and tribulations of a couple attempting just that. Rock Star - Amazon.com , Amazon.ca 300 - Amazon.com , Amazon.ca Blair Witch Project - Amazon.com , Amazon.ca There is No “I” in T...

Relationships today are under more pressure and stress than ever before and it can leave partners feeling overwhelmed and resentful, all while tanking their sex life. This week, Beatrice and Dante speak with Rachel and Stacey from Decoding Couples about maintaining desire in long-term relationships, including practical tips on opening up a previously closed relationship. You can find Rachel and St...

Everyone knows someone who peaked in high school. How are they doing now? Are they still wearing their letterman jacket? Hitting you up on Facebook with the MLM and anti vax talk? This week, Beatrice and Dante talk about how they glowed up late, and and the unexpected benefits of the long game. Gross Pointe Blank - Amazon.com , Amazon.ca Beautiful Girls - Amazon.com , Amazon.ca White Nights - Amaz...

This week Beatrice and Dante welcome back Dr. Tom Murray, AASECT member and sex positive therapist, to talk about Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), what it's like to be one and what it's like to love one. If you aren’t following Dr. Tom Murray on Instagram and Twitter , you ought to be! You can also find Dr. Murray at his website . Instagram - @drtommurray Twitter - @drtommurray1 Web: www.drtommurr...

Beatrice and Dante speak with boudoir photographer Melissa Kelly. She shares her journey and the inspiration that turned her "hobby" into a full-time career telling woman's stories through photography. Also, best date night… ever? Find Melissa Kelly on Instagram ( @melissakellyboudoir ), Facebook and at her website ( www.melissakellyboudoirphotographer.com ). Cheating on Fear has partnered with Ca...

Dante gets Beatrice to dish about her time as an exotic dancer; the events and culture that shaped her decision to try it, what it was like, and some things she learned along the way. Hustlers - Amazon.com , Amazon.ca Roadhouse - Amazon.com , Amazon.ca Rick and Morty - Season 4 - Amazon.com , Amazon.ca & Inside the Vat of Acid Episode F is For Family - Best of Bob Pogo Cheating on Fear has par...

Anthropologist Dr. Treena Orchard shares her insights on dating in the digital world, why Zoom meetings may be allowing men to understand what the constant scrutiny of women is like, and why older women dating younger men has unexpected advantages for both parties! You can find Dr. Treena Orchard on her website , on Instagram (@treenaorchard), Twitter (@stickysexysad), and on Facebook . Cheating o...

Beatrice is missing Friends on Netflix, so she and Dante delve into all the episodes where the Friends crowd tackled non-monogamy and other forms of non-traditional relationships. Oh, and their laminated celebrity lists as well. Your F•R•I•E•N•D•S Non-Monogamy Playlist (In Release Order): S01E06 - The One with the Butt S01E12 - The One with the Dozen Lasagnas S01E13 - The One with the Boobies S02E...

Beatrice and Dante chat with cultural anthropologist and NY Times best selling author Dr. Wednesday Martin about politics, feminism, female sexuality and desire, and some of the surprising places you'll find misogyny. You can find Dr. Wednesday Martin on her website , on Twitter (@WednesdayMartin) and Instagram (@wednesdaymartinphd). Dr. Martin also co-hosts the amazing True Sex & Wild Love po...

Break-ups are hard. You're hurt. You're angry. A break-up is the death of an imagined future, but it's also a chance for personal growth and becoming a better person to yourself, your exes, and to your kids. Dante and Beatrice chat about how to navigate break-ups without being an asshole. BEA an awesome ex, DANTE be a shitty one! Adam Sandler Perfectly conveys the death of a relationship in Somebo...

This week Beatrice and Dante talk about the things they are grateful for, the things they are hopeful for, and how they feel about New Year resolutions in their last episode of 2020. Find Soul Searching and Squats on Instagram . If you’re looking for some binge-worthy viewing to ring in the New Year! 90 Day Fiancé trailer Rick & Morty trailer Love is Blind trailer Tiger King trailer Indian Mat...

Beatrice and Dante interview fellow Canadian, author, sweary historian and twitter champion James Fell about his writing journey, his transition from fitness blogging to writing about history and his never-ending quest to burn the manosphere. Check out James Fell on Facebook and Twitter (@BodyForWife) or online at his website . Consider becoming a patron of James on Patreon for some awesome conten...

This week Beatrice and Dante unpack the surprising sexual politics in The Queen's Gambit . Please be advised… MAJOR SPOILERS . This episode is for listeners who have already seen the series (or never intend on watching it). The Queen's Gambit is so much more than just a story about a girl who's good at chess. 20 Ordinary Things Women Couldn’t Do in the 50’s and 60’s Is This Cheating or Not? - Do Y...

Ever sit around and have a spirited discussion on what is cheating and what isn't with your friends? On this episode Beatrice and Dante take an "Is this cheating" quiz and decide is it cheating, not cheating, or just being a sketchbag. Is This Cheating or Not? Buzzfeed quiz Joey Makes a New State - Full clip is in Friends S03E19 Follow This on Netflix Black Mirror S05E01 Striking Vipers Without Me...

Beatrice and Dante talk with Emma and Finn, hosts of the Normalizing Non-Monogamy podcast. Emma and Finn talk about their journey through, and podcast about, non-monogamy and how we can all find happiness in our relationships. Check out Emma and Finn at www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com , where you can find all their episodes and links to subscribe and listen on all your favourite podcast platforms....

What happens when you clean out an old drawer and find a cosmopolitan magazine from almost a decade ago? You dive in and see if the world has changed in the intervening 9 years, that's what! The Vagina Bible by Dr. Jen Gunther - Amazon.com , Amazon.ca Is Gwyneth Paltrow Wrong About Everything? by Timothy Caulfield - Amazon.com , Amazon.ca Day Drinking with Seth Myers and Rihanna How To Tell if You...

Beatrice and Dante sit down with MMA Fighter, Commentator, co-owner of District Martial Arts and host of The Lover & The Fighter podcast, Charles DiGisco, to talk about love, martial arts, and what brings us all together. You can find Charles on Instagram (@ cgdigisco ) and his podcast and MMA gym here: The Lover & The Fighter (subscribe on Apple Podcasts and Spotify ) Instagram - @ offica...

When, and how, should you talk to your kids about sex? How do you make sure your kids grow up with a healthy, and accurate, view of sex and sexuality? Beatrice and Dante share their experiences as parents, in two different phases of their children's lives, and give some examples on navigating the sometimes murky waters of raising children with a healthy view of their bodies and sex. The Vagina Bib...

It seems that over the last few decades, people who are famous, whether or not they have actually done anything worthy of that fame (we're looking at YOU Paris Hilton!), are seen as experts on a wide variety of things, whether they are actually qualified or not. Vaccines, surviving quarantine, and how to keep your vagina clean by steaming it, are just some of the ways that celebrities have advised...

Beatrice and Dante sit down with sex and relationship therapist and forensic sexologist Dr. Tom Murray to discuss his approach to sex therapy, the damage caused by early programming, and what we all can do to counter that and live our best lives. If you aren’t following Dr. Tom Murray on Instagram and Twitter , you ought to be! You can also find Dr. Murray at his website . Instagram - @drtommurray...

Beatrice and Dante speak with their good friends Cam and R.C. who have spent a lot of time perfecting their sex toy repertoire, and share their picks of what you should, and shouldn’t, spend your money on. We-Vibe Melt - Amazon.com , Amazon.ca Doctor Love’s Light Flesh Deemun - Amazon.com , Amazon.ca TOM v2 The Other Man Suction Dildo Mount - Amazon.com , Amazon.ca TOM Weight Attachment System for...