Chatting With The Lightkeeper | Your Ultimate Guide To Exploring BDSM, D/S, And Kink

Everyone’s path to and in the lifestyle is unique but digging deeper, there are some amazing similarities in circumstances that brings people to explore and grow in D/S. While it is natural to feel a bit solitary as we start walking in the world of D/S, discovering that while our paths are unique, many commonalities link us, so this week’s conversation will flow around these common denominators th...

When we are newer to anything from being the new person at work to being less experienced in the lifestyle, we often allow our inexperience to be the reason we do not ask questions or present our perspective. It is easy to say in our mind that because one is new it is best to stay quiet and think our thoughts silently. In the world of D/S, experience shows that people who enter the lifestyle often...

Have you ever wondered how the lifestyle came to be? Where did all these kinks come from? Did they all just appear and grow out of conversations on the internet? This week, we will chat about the history of the lifestyle, and unlike history classes in your past, this is not going to put you to sleep. So let’s hop into our time machines and discover a bit of the history behind D/S.

Welcome to this episode of Chatting With The Lightkeeper where the inbox is opened up, questions are asked and opinions are shared. Thank you to everyone who has asked a question and those who will be going forward. As a lover of books and bookstores, here are the books discussed in this episode and linked to the host's favorite bookstore: The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Poly...

So you have been exploring, learning, and growing in your journey into all things D/S online and you find yourself ready to possibly meet someone amazing for a relationship or perhaps curiosity is getting the best of you with wanting to feel what a flogger impact is like all the while wanting to stay as safe as possible. How do you meet others and build connections in real life? The answer is munc...

It is common to hear single submissives complain about the lack of “good dominants” splendid submissives, the hard part is finding the right fit for you. The internet is filled with memes proclaiming what is or is not good dominance mixed with submissives sharing sad experiences so that devoted dominants can feel like a myth. So this conversation will be celebrating deserving d-types and some of t...

S.2 Episode Twelve: Quietly Rioting For A Healthier Tomorrow Discussing challenges we face in our physical well-being and how they impact our lives and D/S is much easier than talking about mental and behavioral health issues. For example, sharing that you are recovering from a broken leg is more comfortable than telling someone about your mental health. The lifestyle requires us to be open not on...

An easy thing to forget is that behind every blog, social media post, meme, and podcast there is a living, breathing human. With that in mind, this episode tells a little about the guy behind the podcast who as you are reading this probably in line, waiting for coffee. Plus there is a vexing question asked and your help is needed to answer it.

Because poly does not fit the traditional relationship methods most have been taught or experienced, it can easily be misunderstood thus making it challenging to explore with an open mind. In this episode, the conversation is about understanding a few basics about poly, the various styles/types of partnerships, terminology, and how even if one is not poly, the relationship skills positive poly par...

Work, school, kids, family, friends, hobbies plus everything else has a nasty way of upsetting the dynamic between dominant and submissive. When all of these pressures start to compress on a partnership, the relationship can have the D/S pillar kicked out from under it. This episode is devoted to finding ways to counter these demands and how to make choices that keep the lifestyle building blocks...

Ah, the vanilla world, what a pain the rump. It is always pressuring, pushing, and pulling away at D/S, especially in a relationship. One place, in particular, it can have a stinging impact, is on the accountability side of the lifestyle. In this episode, the conversation will revolve around how to uphold D/S responsibilities in the face of real-world pressures.

In this episode, the conversation will revolve around the most asked question in D/S, no the questions isn’t going to be revealed in the summary here, you will need to listen to discover it, plus in the first of this three-part series, the conversation will be around the importance of “P” in the lifestyle. Before anyone gets any unique ideas about P, it is twofold, people and partners which are ke...

Safety and consent are two things that everyone must prioritize when engaging in D/S play. When it comes to play and how to do so in a safe manner, different acronyms describe the four main practices. In this episode, S.S.C., R.A.C.K., P.R.I.C.K., and the Four C’s are discussed and explained to help find which may be the right fit as well as to foster understanding of those who may engage in a man...

Queue up the theme from Star Trek , okay actually best to hold off on that since a copyright law or two would be sidestepped if a theremin was playing that tune here. Since there is no need to get lawyers involved, let’s chat about another kind of exploring in space that happens in the D/S lifestyle. In this episode of Chatting With The Lightkeeper , sub, as well as dom space, are on the menu so &...

Life comes at us all in unique ways and routinely does not follow the plan we have for it. It has an amazing way of doing what we least expect when it is least expected. One of the things I expect from myself is that I can think of a topic for a podcast episode however life colluded with my brain to leave me without ideas I was excited about, so I decided to try something unexpected for myself. I...

Welcome to this exciting episode of Chatting With The Lightkeeper. Rarely do my podcast episodes have a topic that might arouse some passionate feelings but this one might do a little of that. This I believe is a good thing because there are a zillion and one paths to enjoy life while there are a few wrong ones too.  However, talking about our favorite Little Rascals, while it may involve som...

Ever have one of those days where after work you are hungry, do not feel like cooking, and on the commute home are running through some of your favorite restaurant's menus in your mind trying to decide which one to stop at for dinner?  I was having one of those days and not only was I thinking about food but my latest podcast. My thoughts went from what to order to how we create a menu of wha...

As I was percolating on a podcast idea, the Winnie-the-Pooh quote popped into my brain, “I sometimes wonder if it’s true. That who is what and what is who.” While my head is not stuck in a honey jar, thankfully, Mr. Pooh’s words caused me to think about the well-meaning, yet misguided information floating around that may confuse someone newer to the lifestyle. Join me on this episode for a case st...

Dating is never fun and is often a convoluted mess and when the lifestyle gets “shaken, not stirred” into the dating pool things become a convoluted hot mess. In this episode, I chat about how when we are single and kinky we can date ourselves which will help us grow which in turn will help us be even more attractive or an even better ‘catch’ for our next prospective partner.

If Only I Had A TARDIS Or Time Machine but since fate has kept me from acquiring a means for time travel, (although I hear Stewie Griffin has one available, does anyone have his contact info?) thinking back to some of the questions I had when I was starting my lifestyle journey is a best a touch muddy. So I did what I think is the next best thing by reaching out for help to discover some of the qu...

With Mother’s Day fast approaching, my thoughts went to my Mom and some of her little words of wisdom. One of those phrases kept bubbling up again and again inside my mind coupled with a question I was asked about how to make real, quality connections/friendships within this lifestyle. These thoughts percolated up in my mind until they brewed up this episode of Chatting With The Lightkeeper . Happ...

Sometimes when we look back at the start of a journey in life, it would have been helpful if our current self was able to travel back in time to impart the wisdom that we learned as we explored that path forward. Because of this, I wanted to chat about a few of the amazing lessons I have learned in my journey in D/S with the hope that the things I would share with my younger self at the beginning...

If you are in or around the lifestyle, there are constantly people reminding others to be safe, make good choices, and bad things can happen to good people. So many of these well-meaning bits of advice on keeping safe can almost feel like a lecture and who has not heard a few of these things and thought “It can't happen to me” or “I’m too smart to have something bad happen”. No matter how we phras...

With the dawn of 2022, I have had a few friends proclaim that this year was going to be the year of their last first kiss or maybe a better way to say with more than a hint of lifestyle is a last first spanking. Since I have heard this phrase, it has stuck in my mind which caused me to think more about those who are looking for a lifestyle partner and how it can feel challenging to meet new people...

“Why Are You So Upset? I Was Only Joking!” Or “I’m not mad. Fine, Whatever!” These are phrases most of us have heard before and may recognize signs of passive-aggressive behavior. In this episode of Chatting With The Lightkeeper , I talk about identifying common examples, what to do when confronted with this behavior, as well as what it could mean if your partner is being passive-aggressive toward...