Cappy Hour

If love could have saved him, he would be alive."
When love isn’t enough to save someone from addiction, what do you do? "
 Have you ever felt like you were fighting a losing battle against a "monster" in your own home? In this episode of The Cappy Hour Podcast, we go beyond the stigma to explore the reality of the opioid crisis, addiction recovery, and the limitations of traditional treatment.

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Struggling with the boredom of early sobriety? You aren't alone. In this episode of The Cappy Hour Podcast, we uncover why sobriety feels gray, boring and why relapse often strikes right when things seem to be getting easier. Megan Willcox (founder of Soba Sisters) shares her journey- losing 3.5 years of sobriety, the six-year road to getting back on track, and the lessons learned along the way. I...

There's a voice that lives inside anyone who's struggled with alcohol. It whispers exactly when you're most vulnerable. It knows all your weaknesses. And it never takes no for an answer.   How do you stay sober long-term? Can alcoholics ever drink in moderation? In this episode of The Cappy Hour Podcast, Sober Megan Wilcox shares practical long-term sobriety tips, alcohol relapse prevention strate...

2+ years sober and I was still struggling. Isolating. Skipping the gym. Pulling away from community. Even doing shots of NA bourbon just to get myself to film this Podcast. Nobody talks about this part. The part where you've already done the hard work of getting sober and then slowly, without even noticing, you start letting it all slip. This episode is me being completely honest about what happen...

"I drank for happiness and became unhappy. I drank for joy and became miserable." That's how powerful alcohol addiction really is. Alcoholism doesn't start with the vodka under your desk. It starts with a couple IPAs after a stressful day. Then a four pack. Then a bottle hidden from your wife. Then drinking before your 7 am meetings. In this episode of the Cappy Hour Podcast, I sit down with my fr...

What if failing at sobriety wasn't about weakness - it was about never understanding how your brain actually works? For years, I told myself I just didn't have enough willpower. That I was the problem. But the more I dug into ADHD and addiction, the more I realised something nobody had ever told me: my brain wasn't broken. It was doing exactly what it was designed to do — seeking relief from the c...

“I almost died… and I still went back to drinking.” That’s how powerful addiction can be. Alcohol addiction doesn’t start with the drink. It starts with the voice that tells you this time will be different. In this episode of Sober Cappy Podcast, I sit down with Chris Follari, who shares the reality of alcoholism and relapse after surviving open heart surgery and a stroke. We talk about: • The men...

Productivity isn’t about doing more… it’s about making things easier to start. In this episode, I sit down with ADHD author Karla Genj (Ivy Castillo) to unpack the real challenges of staying productive with ADHD. From dopamine dips and procrastination to time tracking, routines and accountability… this is a raw, honest conversation about what actually works in day-to-day life.   We also explore: W...

Why is it so hard to start tasks… even when you know they matter?   In this episode of The Cappy Hour Podcast, Bill Widmer breaks down task initiation paralysis, ADHD and why most people struggle with consistency. We dive into the concept of the "minimum effective dose" for building habits without burnout, and how small, sustainable actions can completely change your productivity.   We also discus...

Does Your Drinking "Not Look Like a Problem" to Anyone Else But You Know It Is?   Maybe you never lost your job. Never got a DUI. Never hit rock bottom. But you think about drinking more than you should. You start over every Monday. And deep down you know something needs to change.   That is gray area drinking, and it is more common than you think.   In this episode of The Sober Cappy Podcast, I s...

Part 2 with Karla is here and this one goes deep. We pick up right where we left off and this time we're getting into the real day to day stuff. What it actually looks like to live with ADHD in recovery every single day? How do you build routines your brain will actually stick to and why are so many people still struggling even after they put the bottle down? This episode gets honest. It gets a li...

Ever wondered why so many people with ADHD end up drinking too much? Or why getting sober does not automatically fix your focus and productivity? This episode gets into all of it. In this episode, I sit down with Carla, an ADHD accountability partner based in Australia, for a raw and honest conversation about what it actually feels like to live with ADHD. We get into the real connection between AD...

What if the reason you couldn't stop drinking had less to do with willpower and everything to do with your brain? For years, we thought we were just lazy, unreliable or broken. Turns out, we both had ADHD. And we were both drinking to cope with it without even knowing it. That's exactly what me and Jake Lohwater unpack in Part 2 of our ongoing conversation about ADHD, addiction and what it actuall...

In this episode of The Cappy Hour Podcast, I sit down with licensed therapist Jake to explore the powerful connection between ADHD, addiction, procrastination and recovery. Many people struggling with sobriety also deal with neurodivergent thinking, negative self-talk, perfectionism and constant mental overwhelm. Jake shares his experience being diagnosed with ADHD later in life and how that disco...

Ever notice that the moment you remove alcohol, your brain suddenly becomes the loudest thing in the room? In this episode of Cappy Hour, I sit down with therapist and sobriety coach Nisha Patel, who has been sober for more than 17 years. Instead of surface-level recovery talk, we dive deep into the real mechanics of addiction, discipline and what it actually takes to rebuild your brain after year...

Why do so many relationships struggle after one partner gets sober?  In this episode of Cappy Hour Podcast, I am joined by Erin Schaden, a divorce lawyer and coach with over 30 years of sobriety. We dive deep into early sobriety struggles, addiction recovery and the rising tension many couples face after quitting alcohol. We break down:- • Why sobriety changes your relationships • The hardest earl...

Infidelity Isn’t the Whole Story: Compassion, Boundaries & Recovery In this episode, I’m joined by Erin Schaden (divorce attorney + writer behind “Naked Random Thoughts”) for a deep, honest conversation about cheating, shame, and what healing actually requires. We unpack why public shaming spreads so fast, how people get turned into “villains” online, and what “doing the work” in recovery look...

You can’t “out-will” addiction — and believing you can is one of the biggest lies that keeps people stuck. In this episode, I sit down with Jenny to break down why willpower alone isn’t a recovery plan. We talk about the difference between a habit you can “just stop” and an addiction disorder that hijacks your brain — and why the real “willpower move” is committing to the work (community, tools, s...

If you’re trying to quit drinking (or you’re sober-curious), this conversation is a practical, honest look at staying sober while dating, socializing, and navigating cravings. In this episode, Koki and I talk about how alcohol (and even relationships) can become a “savior” — something we subconsciously expect to fix our emotions, confidence, or loneliness. We unpack what it looks like to take your...

One job. Alcohol’s one job was to “help” me avoid discomfort — and it kept me trapped like an abusive boyfriend for 35 years. In this Cappy Hour Podcast episode, we unpack the real relationship with alcohol addiction, social anxiety, triggers, cravings, and what sobriety looks like when you stop running from the feeling. From airport “gymnastics” (planning drinks like it’s automatic), to dating an...

I Quit Drinking Without Hitting Rock Bottom — Here’s What No One Warns You About. If you’re trying to quit drinking (without a dramatic “rock bottom”), this episode breaks down the real surprises of sobriety—especially what happens after the “pink cloud” fades. In this conversation, we talk honestly about quitting alcohol without a catastrophic crash, why Year 2 can feel harder than Year 1, and ho...

Welcome back to Cappy Hour — with the return of Buffalo Phil (aka “Buffalo Bill”). We get real about sobriety, therapy, and mental health, including the messy parts: triggers, drinking culture, shame, and the wake-up calls that force change. In this episode, we talk about: - How certain environments (like golf and festivals) can be major sobriety triggers - The “I got lucky” moments… and why luck...

I was terrified sobriety would be boring… and I was completely wrong. In this episode, we talk about why getting sober didn’t shrink life—it expanded it. The peace, the presence, the confidence, and yes… the fun is real. We get into the mindset shift from chasing the next drink to actually enjoying the moment, how “fun” changes when you’re sober (including the hit-the-pillow-at-night kind of fun),...

Big Sober Energy Sobriety Is Not What You Think — It’s Better. Ep 9 With Koki In this episode, we sit down for a raw, funny, and deeply honest conversation about breaking up with alcohol, navigating the “messy middle” of sobriety, and learning to love the big, loud, authentic version of yourself you used to try to numb. You’ll hear stories of rock bottoms that didn’t look like rock bottom from the...

Quitting Drinking Without Losing Your Social Life! With Phil #8 Struggling with quitting drinking without losing your social life? This video is your guide to a vibrant sobriety journey. Discover how to stop drinking and maintain a fulfilling social life, sharing real stories and practical tips for an alcohol-free lifestyle.   In this episode, I share my personal journey of quitting drinking, from...