Calm AF | Overthinking, Anxiety & Nervous System Regulation

Sometimes when you're in a rut, you have to just be in it for a minute while you work your way out. But when you're cycling through a toxic pattern that isn't changing, you have to think about your future self and shake things up.   Join me and other Calm AFers in Mexico! Tap here, spots are limited. Interested in joining Calm AF Life? Tap here. Interested in working with me but not sure where to...

My ride-or-die, BFF, Feng Shui Genius Amanda Gibby Peters – who, unlike me, does not have raging ADHD – joins me for the second part of this conversation about using your neurodivergent skillset to conquer clutter and boost your home's energy.   HELPFUL LINKS: A Conversation About Clutter with Kristen Finch and Amanda Gibby Peters! RSVP here Meet Amanda Gibby Peters and follow her on IG Listen to...

My ride-or-die, BFF, Feng Shui Genius Amanda Gibby Peters – who, unlike me, does not have raging ADHD – joins me for a conversation about using your neurodivergent skillset to conquer clutter and boost your home's energy.   HELPFUL LINKS A Conversation About Clutter with Kristen Finch and Amanda Gibby Peters! RSVP here Meet Amanda Gibby Peters and follow her on IG Listen to House Therapy, the podc...

Because life is short and precious, anytime we consider our future, things can start to feel urgent or even unattainable. Living with intention slows the clock so you can create the future you want.   🎉 SPECIAL FLASH BIRTHDAY SALE! 🎉 For 48 hours only, I am offering three of my favorite programs for 25% off: Opposite AF : the short course for neurodiverse couples (regular price $111) Becoming Yo...

The most important work I've done for myself over the years has been getting calm AF - which, as you now know, is not a permanent state of blissful serenity, but a willful insistence on protecting my own energy no matter what's going on around me. Because matching someone's bad energy is not helping me or them or anyone else, it's just making things harder and worse.   Happy Now: Autism, Marriage,...

Today I want to talk about your diet. To be clear, I'm not talking about food or calories or restriction. I'm talking about the Calm AF diet. When you decide that you are going to take your life back, that you are going to prioritize YOUR well being over all other things…When you decide you are ready to let GO of old limiting beliefs, rewire doubts, take the charge away from your fears…Your NEW be...

If you've ever thought: "I know exactly what I need to do… so why am I not doing it?" This episode is for you. Because procrastination isn't about willpower. You procrastinate because your brain is trying to avoid emotional pain, not because you're lazy. In this episode, I break down the neuroscience of procrastination so you can finally understand what's actually happening when you avoid the thin...

We forget sometimes that we aren't anxious by default, we LEARNED anxious. You aren't a people pleaser, you LEARNED people pleasing. You weren't born angry, you LEARNED anger. If being in a state of anxiety, shame, or resentment is a learned habit, that means being calm AF is also a learned habit.   Ready for daily Calm AF reminders? Click here to get on the interest list. Want to work with Kriste...

Figuring out what, at the end of your life, will have made it a life well lived – and figuring out how to stay in pursuit of it – is what I'd teach my younger self.   Interested in daily reminders delivered to your inbox? Click here. Want to work with Kristen? Click here.

I would go back as early as I could and start teaching my younger self the TRUTH about optimism: there is nothing wrong with CHOOSING to look at the bright side. There is nothing foolish about choosing to focus on the positive. In fact, choosing optimism is the path to resilience.   Want to work with me? Tap here to schedule a free consultation.

I would go back as early as I could and start teaching my younger self the TRUTH about feelings: they're normal, they're valid, and they're to be felt.   Tap here to join me in Calm AF Life. Got questions about Calm AF Life? Tap here to schedule a free consultation with me.

If I could go back and tell my younger self something that would have saved me the MOST time – I mean years and years of struggling and repeating old patterns – it would be to focus on doing the foundational work of wellbeing before anything else.   Tap here to join me in Calm AF Life. Got questions about Calm AF Life? Tap here to schedule a free consultation with me.

Even when you've prepared, plotted, and planned. Even when you wake up KNOWING that today is the day for big magic. Sometimes shit goes off the rails. The dots don't connect, the plans unravel, the magic vaporizes. It sucks. And it's okay. Lifetime access to my flagship coaching program Calm AF Life will be ending later this year. If you want to enjoy all of the content, calls, and coaching for li...

There are SO many unwritten, arbitrary not-really-rules rules that are keeping people from their happiness. What "rules" could you question? Which ones would you rewrite?   AND! Lifetime access to my flagship coaching program Calm AF Life will be ending later this year. If you want to enjoy all of the content, calls, and coaching for life, tap here to sign up !   Not sure if Calm AF Life is right...

Don't wait until your wake up call. Live the TRUE life you are here to live - not the one you think you're supposed to be living.  To book your free consult with me, tap here: https://kristenfinch.as.me/freeconsult  

Nothing changes without doing things that feel hard. Whether it's setting a boundary, saying NO to someone, learning how to not let the fear of GUILT stop you from every freaking thing you want to try, or not letting the fear of other people's opinions dictate how you live your life. So, you have a choice to make when it comes to creating the life you want: hard now, or hard forever?   Helpful Lin...

Most of us are starving for real, authentic connections and deep conversations but we prevent these by telling ourselves that we don't belong. If this is you, this episode will help you to drop that habit and start living like you belong -- because you do!   Helpful Links:   Calm AF Life: The Lifetime Coaching Program Opposite AF: The online course for neurodiverse relationships Subscribe to Calm...

Being permanently calm AF is about creating the life that you love - making your life your favorite story. Getting there takes an integrated approach comprising three essential components of wellness: physical, mental, and energetic.   Helpful Links:   Calm AF Life: The Lifetime Coaching Program Opposite AF: The online course for neurodiverse relationships Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube

Dave joins me this week to share his thoughts on how we were able to recover our bestfriendship and build a happy AF marriage after he was diagnosed with Asperger's, an autism spectrum condition.   Helpful Links: Opposite AF: The online course for neurodiverse relationships Happy Now: Marriage, Autism, and The Journal of Best Practices Dave's book! Calm AF Life: The Lifetime Coaching Program Subsc...

Dave joins me this week to share his thoughts on how we were able to recover our bestfriendship and build a happier marriage after he was diagnosed with Asperger's, an autism spectrum condition.   Helpful Links: Opposite AF: The online course for neurodiverse relationships Happy Now: Marriage, Autism, and The Journal of Best Practices Dave's book! Calm AF Life: The Lifetime Coaching Program Subscr...

The only way to live fully, to be able to connect with LOVE and JOY, is to make room for pain and hard moments.   Helpful Links:   The Calm AF Future Self Course and Workshop   Calm AF Life: The Lifetime Coaching Program Opposite AF: The online course for neurodiverse relationships Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube "Acceptance Speech after Setting the World Record in Goosebumps" by Andrea Gibson

Like a caterpillar's metamorphosis, becoming your future self requires an identity shift. Here's a little about how to un -become, so you can become.   Sign up for the Calm AF Future Self Course and Workshop: https://kristen-finch.mykajabi.com/offers/Lencwohs   Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, is no...

If you want to become your Future Self, you can't just HOPE, you can't just set a couple goals and sporadically think about them. To become your Future Self you have to change the habits of your Current Self. Here are 5 CALM AF steps to take.    IMPORTANT LINKS: Sign up for the Calm AF Future Self Course and Workshop Dave's bestselling neurodiverse marriage book The Journal of Best Practices! Calm...

We all need a good pep talk from time to time, and here's yours for this week. It's about nurturing your own well-being, on embracing your strengths and imperfections, and on practicing self-compassion.   Tap here for the quiz: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/62892818eac9eb00184a8a52   Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Opposite AF, our online course for neurodive...

Are you stuck repeating the same patterns, even though you know they're not getting you where you want to go? In this episode, we break down the #1 mistake people make when trying to change their mindset and manifest a new reality—and how to fix it. Using powerful, relatable analogies (like choosing between a familiar road and a new one), you'll learn why your brain keeps pulling you back into old...