Calm AF | Overthinking, Anxiety & Nervous System Regulation

You say "I feel guilty." But is that really what's happening? In this episode, I'm calling out the biggest lie high performers tell themselves—and what's actually keeping you stuck in overgiving, overfunctioning, and overthinking. You'll learn: The real emotion behind "guilt" Why you feel bad setting boundaries (even when you know better) The 3-part script to break the guilt cycle for good This ep...

You don't need more hustle—you need a new identity. In this final part of the 3-part series, Kristen breaks down the two biggest shifts that unlock high performance: making calm your home base (not your vacation) and finally letting go of the belief that doing it all alone makes you stronger. You don't have to be operating at an elite level to think like a high performer—but you'll never become on...

If you're always overthinking, overdoing, and over-managing everything in your life, this episode will help you see where those habits are coming from—and what's possible when you start leading from regulation instead of urgency. Inside this episode: Why being busy isn't a badge of honor—it's a red flag How high performers simplify instead of overcomplicate The difference between leading through p...

Ever wonder why high performers seem to have effortless discipline while you struggle to stick to your habits? It's not magic—it's simplicity, consistency, and a commitment to the boring. In today's episode, we're breaking down the key differences between hypervigilant high achievers (who run on stress and urgency) and Calm AF high performers (who operate from clarity and intention). You'll learn:...

If you're the one who shifts the energy in a room, who anticipates what people need before they even realize it, who prides yourself on preventing problems before they happen—this episode is for you. You believe you're controlling things because you have proof—meetings where you turned a "no" into a "yes," situations you steered to avoid disaster, people you influenced into changing their minds. B...

You think you're giving 100%—pushing yourself, outworking, and outperforming. But what if you're actually only operating at 70% and don't even realize it? In this episode, I break down why elite performers feel maxed out , even when they have more to give. It's not about working harder—it's about stopping the energy leaks that are burning you out. You'll learn: The #1 reason high achievers feel st...

Welcome back to Calm AF. In today's episode, we're diving into a moment that every high achiever eventually faces:   I did it. I achieved the thing. I checked all the boxes. So why don't I feel how I thought I would?   If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. Inside This Episode: Why hustling feels so good (and why it stops working) The moment every high achiever faces—and how to move thr...

You want the next-level version of yourself? You have to think like her, act like her, show up as her. But here's the catch—growth isn't comfortable. It's not supposed to be. A couple weeks ago, I spent four days deep in upleveling and shifting mindsets with my bestie, Amanda and over and over, the theme that kept coming up wasn't the strategy or logistics—it was discomfort. The discomfort of step...

At the highest levels of success, it's not your talent, resources, or strategy that holds you back—it's your mindset. In this episode, we explore how mastering your mindset unlocks your full potential and helps you step into your upleveled identity. You'll hear Emma's story—a high performer who had everything she needed to land her dream job, except the full on belief that she could. We'll break d...

Are you exhausted from constantly fixing everyone else's problems? Do you feel like your calm depends on everyone else being okay? In this episode, we're tackling the habit of jumping into the "dysregulation hole" and learning how to stay grounded instead. You'll discover: What the dysregulation hole is and why you keep jumping in. The real cost of always fixing other people's problems. How to dis...

Burnout isn't just about being tired—it's about being stuck in a cycle of overdrive and collapse that drains your energy, erodes your confidence, and leaves you feeling like no amount of rest will ever be enough. This morning, a client shared a story that perfectly captured the heart of this struggle, and it was so powerful I scrapped my original recording of this episode to include it. In this ep...

Happy New Year!  How FUN to start the day with a brand new episode for a brand new year!  BUT…  This isn't another episode about resolutions or "New Year, New You."   Because the new year doesn't need a new you.   It needs the real you —calm, aligned, and ready to create the life you truly want.  But before we step into that energy, there's some baggage to leave behind. In this episode, I'm naming...

Can you be ambitious AND calm? Can you be a high performer without burning out? In this episode of Calm AF , I'm sharing the exact principles I teach my high-performance clients so they can keep striving, keep growing, and actually thrive —without burning out. Resources: Regulated : A step-by-step guide to mastering your nervous system, transforming how you respond to stress, and finding more calm...

Overthinking feels productive—it's like you're preparing, analyzing, and planning for every possibility. But in reality, it's a mental trap that keeps you stuck, drains your energy, and erodes your confidence. In this episode, we're diving into why overthinking happens, how it sabotages your progress, and—most importantly—how to break free. You'll hear the story of a high-achieving client who stru...

Discover why emotional regulation is the ultimate competitive advantage in Episode 303 of Calm AF. In this episode, we explore how staying calm under pressure transforms your leadership, relationships, and personal growth. Learn why the calmest person in the room holds the most power, and how emotional regulation can help you build trust, process feedback effectively, and achieve faster, better re...

In this episode, we're diving into the power of a regulated presence and why it's the most game-changing skill you can develop. You'll learn: Why your peace doesn't depend on controlling others. The difference between performative calm and true regulation. How staying regulated creates a ripple effect that impacts everyone around you. Plus, I'll share practical tools to start regulating your nervo...

Sometimes, the most powerful move you can make is to stop . In this episode, I'm sharing what I learned during a months-long pause from my usual routines, including how letting go of the old ways of working revealed a new, more aligned path forward. I'll take you behind the scenes of why I had to cancel everything—except 1:1 client work—and how that shift transformed not only my business but also...

As we move forward, I want you to imagine how it feels to take everything we've learned from these 300 episodes and let it integrate within you. You don't need to carry the weight of constantly seeking more information. You are ready. You are equipped with all the tools and knowledge needed to move freely and lightly. Get ready for a big shift.   Tap here to subscribe and stay tuned.   Not yet a m...

Mood swings. Brain fog. Isolation, procrastination, hopelessness, anxiety. And those are just a few (more) of the ways chronic dysregulation is fucking up your life. Send me your questions here.   ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click...

I spent more time than normal in a state of dysregulation last week – and holy hell, do I feel it. Here are 5 ways frequent or chronic dysregulation physically manifests in our bodies.   Send me your questions here.   ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.    Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before...

Nothing changes without doing things that feel hard. Whether it's setting a boundary, saying NO to someone, learning how to not let the fear of GUILT stop you from every freaking thing you want to try, or not letting the fear of other people's opinions dictate how you live your life. So, you have a choice to make when it comes to creating the life you want: hard now, or hard forever?   ~ Take the...

Life hands us "opportunities to grow" (yuck) when we least want them, when we feel least prepared for them, when we just don't have room or time or energy for them. Here are 3 big lessons from this week's unwanted "opportunity for growth."   ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here!   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have ques...

I will go into the whole story but the MESSAGE for today is this: You ALWAYS have two choices when it comes to stressful situations. You can be PANICKED AF. ANXIOUS AF. AFRAID AF. OR Calm AF. In this episode I'm going to share with you why it's ALWAYS worth it to choose calm AF. ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here!   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here...

The second you embrace who you are, instead of telling yourself you can't feel better or calmer or free until your external circumstances change – the instant you realize that your happiness can ONLY come from you – you will feel better. Calmer. Free.   ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here!   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if y...

Hoarding useful and helpful information is not moving the needle. It is only creating brain clutter.   ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here!   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 minute call.   ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.