But You Look So Good

Join Sally and Seona as they dive into the concept of 'performing wellness.' In a candid and humorous discussion, they reflect on their personal experiences and the societal pressures to project an image of perfect health and well-being. From the myth of needing to hit 10,000 steps a day to the challenges of managing chronic health conditions, Sally and Seona explore how internal and external expe...

In this episode, Sally and Seona introduce a new series of episodes titled "How Do You Feel About That?" which will pop up throughout the usual content. These episodes will explore various topics from their perspectives as psychologists. They delve into the origins of the question "How do you feel about that?" —often seen as a cliché but essential in therapy. The hosts debunk the myth that therapy...

In this episode, Sally and Seona dive into the frustrating comment, "You're so lucky," often directed at people living with chronic health conditions. Whether it's being told they’re fortunate for not having to work or receiving government support, these remarks can feel dismissive and undermine the challenges of chronic illness. Through personal anecdotes, client stories, and professional insight...

In this week's episode of But You Look So Good , Sally and Seona explore the complexities of relatability when living with a chronic health condition. While well-meaning friends and family often try to connect, their efforts can sometimes feel dismissive or invalidating—especially when it comes to fatigue. Through personal stories, roleplays, and relatable scenarios, they unpack the stark differen...

In this episode of But You Look So Good , hosts Sally and Seona explore the question, “Who am I now?” after receiving a chronic health diagnosis. They share personal experiences, answer listener questions, and provide practical insights on how to navigate the shifts in identity that come with health challenges. From societal expectations to the internal process of self-acceptance, this episode tak...

Join hosts Sally Shaw and Seona Ilalio as they dive into the topic of toxic positivity and the societal push to categorise emotions as 'good' or 'bad.' In a world that celebrates relentless positivity, those living with chronic health conditions frequently hear the refrain to "just stay positive," an expectation that often comes from both external sources and internal sel...

In this episode, Sally Shaw and Seona Ilalio explore the complex and often hidden emotion of shame, drawing on Brené Brown's powerful definition: "the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love, belonging, and connection." We unpack how shame can impact those living with chronic health conditions, making them feel isolated a...

In this episode, we explore the inherent human desire for control—why it's so deeply ingrained and how it plays out in the context of living with a chronic health condition. We highlight how our quest to control every aspect of our health can sometimes do more harm than good. We’ll discuss the delicate balance between control and management, offering practical insights on how to develop a heal...

"Did You See 60 Minutes?" is about the common experience of people living with chronic health conditions being frequently told by others to watch certain TV shows, read specific articles, or consider various miracle cures they saw on programs like "60 Minutes". The episode delves into why people tend to share these types of stories and advice, often without understanding the co...

This week, Sally Shaw and Seona Ilalio dive into the concept of "Inspiration Porn," a term used to describe society's tendency to view people with disabilities or chronic health conditions as inspirational simply for living their daily lives. The episode unpacks how this perception can be both flattering and problematic, exploring the impact it has on those who are often labelled as...

This episode explores the pervasive sense of impending doom that many people with chronic health conditions experience. It delves into both external and internal pressures to seize opportunities and "live life to the fullest" before their condition potentially worsens. Hosts Sally Shaw and Seona Illaio examine how this messaging, often conveyed by well-meaning friends, family, and even s...

In this episode titled “Who’s going to date you now?," hosts Sally Shaw and Seona Ilalio tackle the complexities of dating with a chronic health condition. They delve into the unique challenges of disclosing your condition to potential partners and how this crucial conversation can often serve as a useful screener for compatibility or to filter out unsuitable matches. Sally and Seona share th...

In the premiere episode of "But You Look So Good," hosts Sally Shaw and Seona Ilalio dive into the origins of the podcast and discuss how "But you look so good" is a line commonly heard by people living with chronic health conditions, often reflecting a lack of understanding about invisible illnesses. Both Sally and Seona share their personal journeys with chronic health condit...