Breaking Up with our Bullsh!t

Episode 23: “Being Present For the Future” In this episode, Tawny in JDK address listeners questions about how we can be present in our daily lives and still make plans for the future. How do we do so without making up BS stories that undercut our best laid plans? I guess what? The answers to that are pretty simple! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at h...

Episode 22: “Notice What the Hell You’re Noticing” Ever wonder why Tawny ends every show by asking you to “Notice” your BS stories? What does noticing mean and look like? And what do we “do” when we notice them? Well, wonder no more, because that’s what Tawny and JDK discuss and clarify in this episode! The good news is that it’s not nearly so complicated as we often make it! See Privacy Policy at...

Episode 21: “The Grand(parent) Adventure Land” Troy returns for another week with Tawny and JDK, this time to talk about the joys and challenges of being a grandparent. Amidst all the fun, there are a number of BS stories that can often crop up for even the most attentive and connected grandparents. Fortunately, just noticing the stories is the first key step to take in breaking up with them! See...

Episode 20: “The Island of Lonely Dads” Tawny and JDK welcome Troy as a guest this week, to talk about his experience as a father. Unlike mothers who often seek out each other for advice, support, and help, dads don’t often do the same with other dads. Why is that? Take a listen to hear Troy‘s perspective, along with some ideas of how to end those BS stories and bridge the communication and connec...

Stacy returns to the show to continue talking with Tawny and JDK about the BS stories she’s battling as a parent of four grown kids, as well as a few ideas on how to better address common parental desires like being validated and be appreciated. Take a listen and hear a few “a-ha!” moments that just might resonate with you! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Not...

Tawny and JDK welcome Stacy to the show, a mother of four and recent “Empty Nester.” Together they discuss Stacy’s experience in that big transition, the BS stories that affected her parenting (and still do), and a particular “pity party” she threw for herself over a recent holiday with her kids. It’s powerful stuff! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at...

Episode 17: “The Great Family Mac N’ Cheese Taste Test” Taryn returns again to talk with Tawny and JDK, this time about different ways we can connect with ourselves as parents alongside connecting with the teenagers in our lives. How can dedicated family time help? How can we work with our partners more effectively from a place of Presence as we co-parent? See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/p...

Episode 16: “The Perfect Parent is From Outer Space” Tawny and JDK welcome Taryn to the show, a mom in a blended family of four teenagers, for a conversation about navigating the often turbulent waters of adolescence. These produce many BS stories for parents, especially around “needing to be perfect” in every moment with our teens. Take a listen to hear what all came up with that! See Privacy Pol...

Emily returns to continue the conversation about the challenges involved in raising a toddler when the BS stories seem to be coming from every direction. Take a listen as Tawny, JDK, and Emily discuss how Presence - not parenting information overload - is the key to the parent / child relationship developing positively! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice...

This week Tawny and JDK welcome their first ever guest! Emily, a mother of a toddler, brings in some of the BS stories she’s told herself as a mom, and the conversation ends up hitting on much more than that! Take a listen to find out how softening is something both parent AND child can do to their mutual benefit! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at htt...

Episode 13: “The Parent(ing) Trap” Few human endeavors can fuel more BS stories than the challenges involved in being a parent. Join Tawny and JDK as they contemplate and examine the various ways in which coming from a place of Presence can reframe our parenting skills for the better. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-...

Episode 12: “Dust Off Your Box of Chocolates” Tawny and JDK explore the frights and perils of the catastrophes we often make up in our minds, or try relentlessly to predict, when we face difficult circumstances. How do we separate fact from fiction and stay in the Now when we fear what might be coming next? Take a listen to get some simple tips on where to start! See Privacy Policy at https://art1...

Episode 11: “Certainly Uncertain” Why do so many of us always want to know what is going to happen next? This week, Tawny and JD K ask themselves that question, explore possible answers, and bring things back to the solution of getting present in our bodies and reconnecting with reality, ourselves, and others. And, all of that is not nearly as far away as we often tell ourselves. See Privacy Polic...

Episode 10: “Captain Transparency to the Rescue!” In this episode, Tawny and JDK do a deep dive into the false connections we often make between trust in ourselves and controlling outcomes. In the process, they also discover why transparency might just be a far better word - and goal - than “authenticity.” See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art...

Episode 11: “Certainly Uncertain” Why do so many of us always want to know what is going to happen next? This week, Tawny and JD K ask themselves that question, explore possible answers, and bring things back to the solution of getting present in our bodies and reconnecting with reality, ourselves, and others. And, all of that is not nearly as far away as we often tell ourselves. See Privacy Polic...

Episode 9: "Trusting Me, Trusting You (ahaaaaaa...!)" Tawny and JDK continue their reflections and lessons learned about trust, with a focus this week on how trust in anything or anyone MUST begin with learning how to trust ourselves. In this sense, trust depends on connection with ourselves before we can connect and trust another person. Take a listen and find out how to start making that shift!...

Episode 8: "Dragging Our Trust Around" In this episode, Tawny and JDK unpack the surprisingly difficult-to-define-or-really-articulate notion of "trust," with a focus on how we often look to others to determine it for us. In a conversation with some surprising twists and a-ha moments, it became clearer that looking solely to others for trust is to give over enormous power to others over our daily...

Episode 7: “Don’t Take My Tacos!” In this episode, Tawny and JDK unpack the BS stories we tell to ourselves around the foods we eat and what they mean for our overall health. When we get present with ourselves, we can see and accept the reality that our bodies change, and this doesn’t have to be a limitation or deprivation for us in how we enjoy our lives. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/p...

Episode 6: “ Soften Up, Buddy” Tawny and JDK discuss the power of the word “soften” to get us into the so-called “safety zones” of our bodies in times of stress and when our BS stories hijack us. What we find in thar safety zone is that we get more out of ourselves, our lives, and our relationships in a softened state than we do from just living in our heads. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.co...

Episode 5: “Our Fantasmical Expanding Belly Balloons” Tawny and JDK discuss what it means to “create space” in ourselves and with others, and how Presence Work leads us to experience life with more lightness, freedom, and peaceful inner strength. And, we can all get there faster than we might think. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/...

Episode 4: "Dancing With the Shoulds" Tawny and JDK delve into more about the "shoulds," in particular how we can "should" all over others and not just ourselves. This puts our most cherished relationships at unnecessary risk and disconnects us from reality and from ourselves. As each relationship has it's own dance - its own practices, rhythms, movements, and challenges - it is imperative that we...

Tawny and JDK introduce the practice of Getting Present by taking on the powerful Bullsh!t stories that come up when we are “SHOULDING” all over ourselves - “I should be happy” or “I should have done more by now” or …..you fill in the blank. There are real ways we can break up with these stories, and it’s through our biology and practice - not magic or overthinking. Give it a try! See Privacy Poli...

Episode Two: “Do You Have the ‘Right’ Stuff?” In this episode, we hear Tawny’s backstory on how she became a Presence-based coach and counselor, then she and JDK take on the twin-headed monster of perfectionism and “doing the right thing.” Both are huge producers of Bullsh!t….and we can break up with them both. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https:...

Episode 1: “It Doesn’t Have To Be A Problem” In this debut episode, Tawny and JDK lay out what they mean by “Bullsh!t,” why it harms us more than just about anything else in our lives, and how are bodies our already hardwired to help us do this. They also pull back the curtain on how they met and on the book project accompanying this show! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and Califo...