Breaking Up with our Bullsh!t

Episode 48: Our 1th Birthday! Tawny and JDK celebrate and reflect on the first year of the BUWOBS podcast, taking a look at what they’ve learned about themselves and each other along the way. And as always, they discover new insights and more connection points despite their very different ways of being and living. Bet you can relate with at least one of them! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.co...

Episode 47: “The World’s Okayness Starts With You” With so much of consequence seemingly going on in the world, Tawny and JDK explore the ways in which we can be OK in ourselves - by connecting with our bodies first - and thus better respond to the challenges the world presents us. By reducing our own suffering we can take better steps to help improve the world around us - all without having to fi...

Episode 46: “Tawny’s 14-Month Old Grandson Drops a Truth Bomb” Tawny returns to the studio this week to discuss the arrival of her new grandson, inherent body wisdom of her older grandson, and what we can learn from them both about all the gifts we have inside of us to guide ourselves to healthier and happier lives. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at h...

Episode 45: “Waitingly Patient” Waiting on the birth of her second grandchild, Tawny calls in to the studio to talk with JDK about the challenges of staying patient and waiting when we are not in control of timing, outcomes, situations, etc. The key to this is getting underneath the stories by connecting with the body and each other through our “heart space.” See Privacy Policy at https://art19.co...

Episode 44: “A Ruling On ‘Judgy’” This week, Tawny and JDK tackle the challenges involved when we fall into judgment of ourselves and others by believing various BS stories. Often rooted in perfectionism, the power of Judgy can make our lives far more stressful and full of struggle than they need to be. Listen in to find out how to better break up with Judgy! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.co...

Episode 43: “Leave ‘Settle’ On The Side Of The Road” Tawny and JDK discuss the common fear many of us have about “settling” for things in life; what does it actually mean? Why do we use their term so often? What would it be like for us if we discarded the entire idea of settling? Some of the answers may surprise you - or at least how those answers feel in the body might! See Privacy Policy at http...

Episode 42: “A Gaslighting Reality Check” HubbyDave returns for an encore appearance, with the topic this week how “gaslighting” as a term has become so widely used outside its legitimate contexts that it can obscure our abilities to take good looks at ourselves and our own responsibilities in life. The result of this is often more disconnect within ourselves and others, but there are ways to put...

Episode 41: “Introducing HubbyDave” Tawny and JDK welcome Tawny’s husband Dave to the show to share insights and questions that have come up for him while listening to the show. His questions are ones that come up regularly with listeners, so there is lots of good stuff for people to relate to and connect with here. Plus, get a peek at how practicing Presence really helps in building and sustainin...

Episode 40: “Don’t Waste Your Energy On Time” Tawny and JDK take a close look at the differences between what we call “time management“ as opposed to the much more constructive “energy management.“ The former tends to stress us out and feed our BS stories, while the latter connects us much more to reality, to a sense of personal ease and flow, and to healthier practices and outlooks. Take up the c...

Episode 39: “Denial Is Really A Blocked River” Tawny and JDK dig through the effects denial has on all of us in every area of our lives - our bodies, our emotional states, our relationships and more. And yet, when we learn to listen to and replenish our bodies, it helps us better see and accept reality and let go of the BS stories that so often we use to trap ourselves unknowingly. See Privacy Pol...

Episode 38: “Asteroids and Icebergs” Tawny and JDK have a wide ranging discussion about the uses, limitations, and dangers involved in putting simple labels on people in their complex experiences. What do we miss out on in each other, and in ourselves, when we use such labels? How can we learn to spot them before we use them? Or move past them if we are using them? Take a listen for some ideas on...

Episode 37: “Mr. Rogers Was No Saint” Tawny and JDK discuss lessons learned from the recent Mr. Rogers biopic, focusing on how his success with connection was based upon his deliberate practice of it within himself and with others. The lessons learned tell us a lot about what we each have in common as humans alongside our unique individual lives and experiences. See Privacy Policy at https://art19...

Episode 36: “Presence is Kinda Sorta Like Baseball Maybe…..Sometimes.” Tawny and JDK tackle the ways in which we misunderstand Struggle, and the crucial role patience plays in Presence work - it can literally make us stronger in our choices, clearer in our awareness of reality, and more at ease with the reality in us and outside of us. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California...

Episode 35: “Ding-Dong-Ducking” Tawny and JDK have a lively discussion about Courage - what it is, how it operates in Presence work, and what changes it can bring about in us when we “answer the door” when discomfort rings and we let them in See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Episode 34: “Know Your Values And The Rest Will Follow” Tawny and JDK do some deep digging into what it means to really know - and act upon - our internal values, and why doing so is the key to unlocking who we really are, reducing our stress, and improving the quality of our moment-to-moment lives. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/...

Episode 33: “My Freeze Feels Like Your Flight” Shooting from the hip this week, Tawny and JDK point out that it’s our BS stories that create chronic stress in our bodies - stories of how to be successful, happy, etc. These can then keep us in a constant state of fight, flight, or freeze. But when we question those stories and see reality instead, we can free ourselves more and more from those resp...

Episode 32: “This Stimulating Conversation Is SOOOOOO Boring….” It often seems like everything around us is intended to amp us up, to activate our senses, to push us to be Doings rather than Beings. Slowing down and getting into our bodies, by contrast, can feel boring. Why do we go for stimulation so easily? What if we found a new way of comfort and value through softening and listening to our bo...

Episode 31: “The Power of Not Knowing” Tawny and JDK examine how we tend to react to uncertainty in our lives, whether it comes from inside ourselves, within our relationships, or from the outside world. Why do we tend to see uncertainty as a bad thing? Does it even need to be good or bad? What would change for us if it was just accepted as Real? A whole lot of GOOD change would happen, as it turn...

Episode 30: “The Matrix Isn’t Real, And That’s A Good Thing” This week, Tawny and JDK explore all the systems that we connect with throughout our lives — ourselves, our relationships, school, work, teams, etc. When we recognize these systems exist, and that they constantly change, we can then experience a deeper sense of peace and connection with the people and values that truly matter to us. See...

Episode 29: “If You Don’t Mind, It Don’t Matter” Tawny and JDK zero in on the word “conflict“ in this episode, wondering if many of the situations we label as such really need to be problems at all. And if they aren’t conflicts, what possibilities does that open for us in our relationships with ourselves and others? With a little help from baseball legend Satchel Paige, we can all find a place to...

Episode 28: “Don’t Make Love About War” Tawny and JD K talk this week about how expectations in relationships can often lead to the outbreak of war, not unlike how wars have broken out throughout history. Sound like too big of a leap? It’s not, nor is it so difficult to reframe our relationship communication around agreements instead…. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California...

Episode 27: “Not-So-Great Expectations” Tawny and JDK dive into a lovely discussion about the dangers of setting expectations for all the wrong reasons. How well do we use the “maps” available in our safety system to find better avenues to a more fulfilling life? How is getting comfortable with discomfort the key to this? Take a listen and you’ll see you’re more ready for that than you might belie...

Episode 26: “Your Relationships Are F%@&ed - Or Not.” Once we are able to activate our safety system, we can start experiencing our relationships from a much more real, positive, and healthy place. Join Tawny and JDK as they dig into how connecting with ourselves can then destroy the BS stories we often make up in our relationships. This allows us to discern each other better and grow as indiv...

Episode 25: “Viva Ventral Vagal” In this episode, Tawny and JDK explore how breaking up with our BS stories starts with connecting to our autonomic nervous system - the “safety system” of our bodies. Connecting with this system can save us from burnout and disconnection with ourselves and others, and allows us to see that so much of life can be simpler than we often make it. See Privacy Policy at...

Episode 24: “Put the Search For Purpose Down, And Slowly Walk Away!” With a good deal of energy and curiosity, Tawny in JDK take a look at the idea of “finding our purpose“ and how this pursuit may not be the best idea for us if we want to live from a place of presence and with true meaning. Not to worry – there is plenty to live for, and it starts with us! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/...