Born to Thrive Podcast

You know I love me some accountability talk but I wanted to talk about it on today's episode from a slightly different lens. I admit that I am really hard on myself and this has positives and negatives to it. Listen in as I define accountability so we are on the same page and how you can use it for your personal growth.   Time Stamps:   (0:44) Defining Accountability (2:34) I’m So Hard on Myself (...

There's a lot I want to unpack in this episode and it stems from many of the conversations I've had with friends recently, mainly around confirmation bias. It's easier to interpret any new information we receive through our existing beliefs about the world instead of challenging our own beliefs. In those challenges is where growth and new opportunities happen. I want you to really think about who...

You've probably heard the saying, "your mind gives you before your body" and that your body is only at 40% of its capability. I've seen this so much from my decade long career as a personal trainer and a group fitness instructor and now an online coach. The resilience you build in fitness and the gym will give you a sense of accomplishment in all areas of your life. Listen in to learn what I mean....

I recently had a business incident that sparked the topic of this episode because I know you've probably felt like this at least once in your life or you're currently dealing with this. What feels like loss after loss can feel defeating and internally discourage us from pushing forward. This is why having an outside perspective is so important and I want to remind you of our brain's hard wiring an...

Short and sweet reminder for you that it's okay to not be okay. I want to also remind you about the importance of practicing gratitude.   Time Stamps:   (0:25) Quick Mindset Reminder (1:05) It’s Okay to Not Be Okay (2:41) Practicing Gratitude ------------- Follow Me on Instagram! - https://www.instagram.com/thealexallen/   Follow Me on Tik Tok! - https://www.tiktok.com/@thealexallen?   Follow the...

I've seen self-sabotage creep up in my own life and my friend's lives and it can be the most frustrating thing to handle. I want to help you avoid self-sabotage so in today's episode, we are going to define self-sabotaging behavior, why individuals would self-sabotage themselves, action steps to take, and more!   Time Stamps:   (0:20) Self-Sabotage (2:03) Defining Self-Sabotaging Behavior (6:00) G...

I can't believe I haven't done an episode like this yet covering one of my favorite topics! I love talking habits and behavior change because this is one of the biggest reasons I've gotten to where I am now. How are establishing and solidifying habits better than relying on motivation? Listen in and find out!   Time Stamps:   (0:20) Talking Habits and Long Lasting Change (2:13) Defining Motivation...

Assertiveness can, from another perspective, come off a certain way but I want to explain what assertiveness is and the psychology of assertiveness. I struggled with assertiveness in the past and I want to share some tips and insight on how I became more assertive in my everyday life.   Time Stamps:   (0:26) Just Celebrated International Women’s Day (3:24) What Assertiveness Actually Is (7:00) The...

Trust is one if not the most important thing in my life when it comes to both relationships and career. Once that trust has been broken, it's extremely difficult to build it back up. I want to share with you my perspective and thoughts on trust, earning trust, why you should challenge assumptions with logic, and more!   Time Stamps:   (0:36) Defining Trust (4:15) Expectation of Trust (8:06) The Ha...

Not sure if you've been paying any attention to this feud between Selena Gomez and Hailey Bieber but it's something we can learn from. Toxic behavior is incredibly energy depleting and keeping you from thriving whether you participate in or just simply are just surrounded by it. I want to explain the situation in context and what we can learn from it.   Time Stamps:   (0:20) Talking Mean Girls   (...

Another one of my favorite and most popular episodes I wanted to highlight this week! Enjoy!   It is so amazing to be selfish! Hear me out… I'm not the biggest fan when it comes to the actual definition of being selfish. I look at it differently. I want you to listen to this episode with an open mind as I explain why you should be more selfish with your life and start prioritizing yourself more.  ...

Wanted to share one of the most popular Born to Thrive episodes I released in July 2021! Another episode inspired by social media and while social media has its pitfalls, it allows us to realize and understand that the thoughts and events we experience aren't as unique as we make them out to be. Someone else has been in your shoes before and that's comforting but it doesn't negate the feelings we...

You are worth being chosen by someone who wants all the things that make you, you. I can't tell you the amount of times I tried to convince someone to choose me and conform to what they wanted all to be left feeling empty and resentful. No more! I know it can be painful to be alone but it's worth the wait for someone who truly values you.   Time Stamps:   (0:24) Letting Go Of A Toxic Relationship...

We all get overwhelmed sometimes and it's completely normal. That said, I wanted to give you 5 reminders in today's episode that have really helped me when I get overwhelmed. We'll talk about self-compassion, talking to other people about your overwhelm, why taking breaks is not only okay but necessary throughout the day, and more!   Time Stamps:   (0:19) Talking Mental Health (1:40) What is Chron...

Sadness and "negative" emotions are not only okay to have, but sometimes they are necessary. The feelings of happiness wouldn't exist without the feelings of sadness. It's important to understand and feel all of your emotions. I want to share how to handle sadness and be mindful, why you should make space in your life to make mistakes, and more!   Time Stamps:   (0:30) It’s Okay to Be Sad (2:15) U...

Yup you read that right. I don't hate ALL things about the industry… but as a whole? There's a lot that needs to be improved. Listen in as I explain why I feel this way, why we should be creating impact over everything, and more!   Time Stamps:   (0:20) Why I Hate the Fitness Industry (1:40) Something a Past Mentor Told Me (3:52) Impact Over Everything (5:23) Unrealistic Expectations (8:25) Small...

Some tough love coming in your ears today as I want to talk about how self-limiting beliefs impact your life and will hold you back. I have had many self-limiting beliefs I've had to work through in my 29 years on this planet and, through that work, I've learned so much about myself and how to incorporate more positive self-talk into my life. We'll discuss how to incorporate more positive self-tal...

As a society, we tend to assume things about people because it's much easier to that then go find out the truth four ourselves. One assumption is that I am much older than I am. I just got back from Vegas celebrating my 29th birthday and had so many unexpected surprises happen! A lot of assumptions come down to misinterpretations or miscommunication and we need to practice more empathy in our live...

In honor of my 29th birthday in a few days, I wanted to share with you 29 lessons I've learned while on this planet we call Earth. It's crazy to think I only have one more year in my twenties but I'm aging like fine wine so I'm not stressing about it. Let me know your favorite lesson or one that stood out to you!   Time Stamps:   (0:25) Happy February and My Scholarship Opportunity for You! (2:28)...

We all have a tendency to retreat into ourselves when we're struggling and, while this may make sense at the time, we have another option that will help us more in the long term. Learning to reach out for support and connection is something I'm still learning but it's so important. Listen in as I explain why and how to be a better friend when someone reaches out to you.   Time Stamps:   (1:18) My...

Are you tired of settling for less in your dating life? We need to start dating with more self-respect. I want to talk about how to do date more intentionally, why excuses from a potential partner are a giant red flag, and more!   Time Stamps:   (0:21) Dating with Self Respect (1:30) Caveat to My Post (6:58) Making Excuses is a Giant Red Flag (9:24) Would Love to Hear Your Thoughts ------------- J...

Whether it's a diet or a relationship, forcing things can only lead to discouragement and disappointment. We need to focus on what we can control and what's best for us long term. Listen in as I explain more and why this is so important.   Time Stamps:   (0:23) We’re No Longer Forcing Things (2:45) Having a More Accepting Mindset (4:41) Focusing On What You Can Control (6:28) Forcing Relationships...

If you're an Enneagram 3 like me, you always feel like you can do more or that you should be farther ahead. I'm here today to remind you that you're doing better than you think. You're not a failure and social media is a highlight reel.   Time Stamps:   (0:39) You’re Not a Failure (2:30) Tik Tok Influencer Example (7:56) Signs You’re Doing Better Than You Think You Are ------------- Join the Born...

Ladies, are you tired of constantly dwelling on past regrets and feeling like you're stuck in a rut? Join me on today's episode as I discuss living a life with no regrets. We'll dive into some of my  relatable stories as well as provide actionable tips and advice on how to make better decisions and live in the present moment. From career choices to relationships and everything in between, I'm here...

Ladies, do you often find yourself sacrificing your own needs for the sake of others? Are you constantly saying 'yes' even when you want to say 'no'? If so, this podcast episode is perfect for you. In today's episode, we will dive into the harmful effects of people-pleasing on women and explain why being too nice isn't actually a good thing. Not only can it lead to feelings of resentment and burno...