Boldly Becoming You Podcast

We are used to seeing happy shiny people AFTER their glow up aka transformation but that's not the whole story. In this episode, Brandon and I talk about 3 things you have to say goodbye to when you are going through a transformation AND I clear up what transformation really is. Can't wait to hear what resonates with you. And as always, we invite you to answer a question for yourself as you naviga...

We're in California after a cross country road trip that was EPIC. In this episode, Brandon and I share what we had to do, let go of and rules we intentionally broke to make the trip what it was. Clarity from every direction - our students, about our family's well being, how we ended up in California and what's coming up. Special note: Our Instagram account has been updated to reflect the name of...

What does being positive mean? And how have we turned what was intended to be a powerful option for maintaining a healthy attitude into a toxic pattern that actually limits our abundance and creates challenges in the moment and long term? Where is the line between a positive attitude and dodging real life with a toxic positive mindset? One will set you in motion for abundance, the other will block...

Gratitude isn't just "thank you" - it's all the ways we show that we see, hear, understand and appreciate someone. In this short episode, I invite you to consider the ways you can activate your gratitude with a variety of appreciation to the people who need it the most in your life. When you say thank you, in any of the many ways you can appreciate someone, you invite more of that into your life....

Whether you are looking at your health practices, your content for your business or saving money, "consistency" seems to be the cure-all for anything you want to do in life.  But doesn't is feel like a lot of pressure to do it EVERY DAY, no matter what, whatever "it" is? If you have goals in all areas of your life, it's not possible to consistently produce every day for all of your life and for ma...

Do you remember the last time you received a compliment from a stranger?  Someone told you that you had a nice smile, they liked your jacket, your work was well  done? What did it trigger in you? Did you feel shy or nervous or uncomfortable? Today's episode is longer than most of the Monday episodes so you'll hear some changes at the beginning and end. Screenshot this episode and tag @boldlybecomi...

Loyalty to someone other than yourself is the breeding ground for inauthenticity and for surrendering your autonomy. Autonomy is the antithesis of codependency and a crucial ingredient in interdependence. Today's show is an invitation to look at where in your relationships perfectionism - the rules, expectations or obligations, have overpowered autonomy. AND Power & Peace Through Purpose opens thi...

Acknowledging your co-creators throughout your life opens the doors for more collaborative efforts, less loneliness and exponential impact and abundance. Your trauma-response independence is blocking your abundance.  Today I'm inviting you to reflect with some insightful questions at the end of the episode.  For more questions to reflect on, head over to www.rulesandrebellion.com/jumpstart to down...

Being loyal to your own core values, your truest and highest self is the most effective long term strategy for health, happiness and fulfillment but most of us have agreed to loyalty in many areas of our lives.  Loyalty to anyone outside of yourself is going to create resentment, lost time and inauthenticity and delay your efforts to be the person you were born to be. Wanna start your journey back...

One of the reasons I didn't express gratitude is because of the rules I assumed and adopted about the right and wrong way (perfectionism) to say thanks. I watched adults and peers deny thanks, defer it, deflect it and expect it. We will dig into these topics in this series but today we are talking about the rules that say there is a right time, a right way and by default the wrong way to express t...

At the end of the day, are you deciding it was a good day vs a bad day based on the number of things you got checked off your list? Do you feel annoyed at others who are resting, playing or relaxing when there is so much to do? These are just a few examples of productivity-based self worth. In this episode, I give you 8 signs you are operating from this productivity-based self worth and 6 steps to...

This is the beginning of a series about how gratitude has plateaued for so many of us and how to multiply the impact personally and globally. What if journaling gratitude was just the beginning of the power and impact you could have in your own life and in the world? This is a game changer and I'm excited to share this journey with you. If you are on Clubhouse, make sure to follow me there @tashas...

As recovering perfectionists, we are unlearning the patterns and habits of people pleasing, procrastination guilt, performative based self worth and preoccupation of flaws.  But as humans we crave meaningful impact and a sense of purpose - above all we want peace, ease and joy. So how do you close the gap between the anxiety of how to get it all done and the "hard work" of achieving goals to becom...

If you are like me, you've been working hard to reach your goals for most of your life. And you have found yourself exhausted, occasionally defeated and most definitely burnt out. What if that wasn't actually how all the successful people we look up to actually achieved their success? What if the path to accomplishing dreams and having everything we want was about NOT focusing on the goals, but so...

In this episode, we do a deep dive into questions and practices that provide self-awareness and how it benefits the many aspects of day to day life. You will want to grab pen and paper, or open your notes section in your phone, to capture some of these questions. Thank you for your support during this relapse. Looking forward to being live more often with you soon! Snag your 11 Pre-Vision Board Cl...

I've had my share of setbacks, as have you. And when you are a perfectionist, even in recovery, it feels especially challenging to navigate unexpected delays and obstacles when there was a well-thought out plan or strategy. In this episode, we talk about how to deal with setbacks and what you can do to move through them with less loss time and more grace. The Vision Board Workshop is April 10&11 a...

Where does abundance come from? What does alignment really mean? In this episode, we dig into answering both of those questions and clarify the importance of including all areas of your life in your future vision. When you open your definition of abundance beyond cash and include the many ways your truest self can manifest, you end up looking around saying "OMG, this is really happening!" Snag you...

Vision boards can be fun and pretty and inspirational but they are ultimately TOOLS to manifest the life you are meant to live.  Vision Boards are visuals that you create that include images and text that conveys the life you want or crave to live. It is the visual representation of the dreams and goals achieved when you are aligned spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally. In this episod...

In this episode, I share what you may be doing that is creating a direct, fast track path to burnout AND what the two basic stages of burnout are. You may want to grab paper and pen for this one - it's interactive.  Thank you for sharing this episode and others that resonate, with those you love. Let's keep collaborating on supporting one another OUT of these perfectionism patterns that are steali...

Perfectionism leads to limited connection and vulnerability in friendships, often an imbalance of pouring into others and then feeling underappreciated or drained.  And the people pleaser in the perfectionist patterns avoids conflict and has many ambiguous friendships which keep you stuck trying to make sure you are likeable rather than being the truest you. What would happen if you got clear on w...

You've tried all the hacks, all the strategies and the systems and still you feel defeated, constantly behind, exhausted and unsatisfied with what you've gotten done at the end of the day. I get it - I lived that life for almost 20 years. Here's the thing, those systems were not designed for people like us. They were created by old white dudes who weren't responsible for the emotional well-being o...

In this episode we talk about a few of the challenges that you face when first implementing boundaries in your relationships and with yourself. Sure, boundaries are hard, but why? Is it the fear of hurt feelings, possible rejection, change?  Maybe it's that you feel like you don't have a good track record following through with things, so why bother? Whatever the reason, we're here for ya. Thanks...

We have been taught to look outside of ourselves to determine what we do, how we love, where we give our attention and energy. So after decades of that conditioning, it's time to go back inside yourself. This short episode is packed with some powerful questions. One specific question that will provide direction and clarity in how to have a joy-filled and meaningful impact. Download the free Boldly...

What is the meaning of life? What makes life worth living? These are questions philosophers, and scientists, have been working on for thousands of years. The answer continues to be having a sense of purpose - delivering a meaningful impact on the world at large. And yet, so many of us hold ourselves back from doing the things we are passionate about. Where do these fears of ridicule, imperfection...

People Pleasing: What is it, what does it look like, and how does it affect your life and relationships? Do you even know if you're doing it? In this episode we share our respective journeys through people pleasing and how identifying it changed our relationship with each other, our parenting and ourselves. People pleasing has multiple layers and offers a chance to be the hero in a lot of stories....