Black Girls Heal

In this episode, Shena explores the four archetypes of love addicts . She unpacks their unique strengths, their fatal flaws, and what healthy love looks like for each type. If you’ve ever felt trapped in the same relationship patterns or struggled to understand why love feels so intense yet painful, this episode will help you see yourself with compassion — and give you language to begin your heali...

In this episode, Shena talks about using hope as an act of resistance when everything is not okay around you. Click here to enroll in the BGH Method , our 90 day recovery accelator for love addicts and love avoidants to heal their relationships, unresolved trauma and improve their relationship with themselves Join the BGH Members Club  to get access to worksheets, bonus lessons and more : Advertis...

In this episode, Shena reviews 3 tips to help recovered love addicts and love avoidants foster deep love when you are with your person. The goal is to combat unhealthy patterns you may have brought into your loving relationship to keep the love and connection easy. Click here to enroll in the BGH Method , our 90 day recovery accelator for love addicts and love avoidants to heal their relationships...

In this episode, I review what are the things that will make a woman who is in a relationship that is draining her finally leave and what are the things that may make her stay. Get this week's podcast episode worksheet in our BGH Members Club at http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/club Break this cycle and step out of this issue with the BGH Method, our 90 recovery program coming soon. CONNECT WITH...

In this episode, Shena returns refreshed and ready to dive deep into an important and affirming topic: how to recognize when someone actually likes you—and why that clarity matters. She explains that while we often focus on red flags, it’s just as vital to know the green flags of emotional safety, care, and genuine interest. This episode is all about normalizing ease in love and helping women reco...

In this episode, Shena reflects on the consequences and how one's life can be affected if we are connected to those who give red flag behaviors and indicators that they may not be a good match for us emotionally, mentally, or physically (in regards ot safety). Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This episode for anyone who is experiencing or has experienced a friendship breakup that has been hard to recover from. I hope these 7 tips help you move forward and find friendships that help you feel fulfilled and whole. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap...

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a topic that often brings up complex emotions - recognizing when friendships might be temporary. You know those relationships that feel so intense and meaningful in the moment, but somehow don't stand the test of time? Let's talk about why that happens and why it might actually be perfectly okay. Through sharing persona...

In this episode, we break down how to start creating your own healing circles.  Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanc...

Why is it so difficult for some women to find and maintain healthy female friendships? Joining me today is Danielle Bayard Jackson, The Friendship Expert, to share more about this topic and to help provide actionable advice to get your friendships back on track, even if they’ve fallen off due to the pandemic.  Danielle is a publicist by day and a certified friendship coach by night. She started he...

In this episode, I talk about managing disappointment from your relationship with your mother as an adult if you have experienced false starts towards intimacy or seen self sabotage on your mother's part. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap Ready to heal...

In this episode, Shena discusses how to cope when you have a mother who is competitive with you, the signs of the jealousy and competition, and potential sources of where it may come from. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap Ready to heal your Love Addiction...

Our mother relationship is our first relationship as we come into this world. As a result, if we have unresolved trauma, it will manifest in how we see ourselves, how we see others, and what we pass down to future generations. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roa...

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive deep into financial codependency—a pattern where you feel obligated to support others financially, even to your own detriment. We explore its roots, how it manifests in various relationships, and the emotional toll it takes.  You'll learn about practical steps to break free from this cycle, including a 90-day no-contact financial challenge to help r...

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the crucial topic of feeling deserving and why it's essential for receiving the love you desire. We explore how internalizing negative beliefs and trauma can lead to feeling undeserving, even when we outwardly affirm our worth.  You'll learn practical steps to identify the emotional 'weeds' that choke your growth, including energy-dra...

In this episode, Shena discusses healing from codependency to improve your self love and the questions you need to ask yourself to adjust your boundaries. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Re...

In this episode, Shena discusses how to tell if the connection that you're feeling in a relationship is codependency or compatibility. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, m...

When I was dating, I made a lot of mistakes related to how I presented in my intimacy disorders. This week, I'm talking about how my love avoidance showed up for me in my relationships.  For me, my personal experience and how that connected to my religious education really amplified a lot of my avoidance which is also discussed.  This episode will not span all of the ways love avoidance can sh...

In this episode, I review 3 hidden ways we may unknowingly ignore (and encourage) red flags in new people we meet. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching pro...

What does it look like to be available to others after you've been working on your love avoidance symptoms. In this episode, I share 3 tips for those who are starting this journey building relationships in a different way. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roa...

In today's episode, we review going from Love Avoidant to Love Available using the Healed and Loved Woman framework model. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature...

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands Challenge.' This discussion is aimed at those caught in addictive or trauma-bonded relationships, whether romantic, familial, or friendships.  We discuss topics like recognizing toxic relationships, the importance of breaking the cycle for self-...

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In today's episode I talk about the impact of childhood emotional neglect and how it leads to the behaviours of love addiction Whether you are connected to love addition, love avoidance or low self esteem, if you are wondering why you continue in the same type of self doubts or keep being attracted to certain types of people, my hope is that this episode gives you the validation that you didn&...

Which love addict archetype do you identify with and how do you begin to heal from it? In this week’s episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m breaking down the four main archetypes of love addiction and why each of these patterns comes with its own unique set of challenges AND beautiful qualities. Whether you're constantly chasing “the one,” afraid to be alone, losing yourself in relationships, or li...