Black Girl Burnout

In this joyful and grounding conclusion to the Feel Good Finance series, Kelley and financial therapist Aja Evans wrap up their powerful conversation with a focus on what we all deserve—joy. This episode is a celebration of what it means to feel good about your money, not just from a place of survival, but from stability, intention, and emotional peace. Today You’ll Learn: Why financial joy is bot...

In this compassionate and wisdom-filled continuation of Black Girl Burnout , Kelley is joined again by financial therapist Aja Evans for Part 2 of their conversation on healing your relationship with money. This episode dives into the how —how we move from judgment and shame into grace, clarity, and empowered action with our finances. Today You’ll Learn: Practical steps to shift out of financial s...

In this heartfelt and enlightening episode of Black Girl Burnout , Kelley is joined by financial therapist, speaker, and author Aja Evans for a conversation that will transform the way you think about money. Asia, the author of Feel Good Finance , breaks down the deep and often hidden connection between our emotional wellbeing and our financial behaviors. This is more than a money talk—it’s a heal...

In this nourishing and mindset-shifting episode of Black Girl Burnout , Kelley reclaims the word “budget” and reframes it as an act of radical self-love. Instead of treating budgeting as punishment, she introduces the concept of “soft-life budgeting”—a compassionate, values-driven approach that centers rest, joy, and protection. If traditional budgeting has ever felt restrictive or shame-based, th...

In this eye-opening and affirming episode of Black Girl Burnout , Kelley unpacks the powerful connection between burnout and your bank account. If you’ve ever looked at your finances and felt exhausted, overwhelmed, or ashamed—this one’s for you. Burnout isn’t just emotional—it shows up in how we spend, overgive, and self-soothe with money. But with softness, intention, and joy-first budgeting, we...

In this transformative episode of Black Girl Burnout , Kelley invites us to opt into something radical—financial peace. When you hear the word “money,” does it bring anxiety or calm? Too often, financial freedom is framed as a grind, a hustle, a never-ending race to a bigger number. But what if the goal wasn’t just wealth—but peace? 💡 Today You’ll Learn: Why financial freedom and financial peace...

In this uplifting and transformative episode of Black Girl Burnout , Kelley explores the power of opting into joy and allowing life to get sweeter with time. Healing isn’t about grand gestures or one-time breakthroughs—it’s about the small, daily choices that shape a life of peace and ease. Through personal reflections and powerful metaphors , Kelley unpacks the importance of emotional conditionin...

In this powerful and truth-telling episode of Black Girl Burnout , Kelley unpacks a hard but necessary reality: you can’t perform your way into healing. We often use relationships, achievements, and overgiving as survival tools, but true healing requires something different— softness, presence, and rest. 💡 Today You’ll Learn: Why survival tools are not the same as healing practices How overachiev...

In this closing episode of the series, Kelley concludes her conversation with Resmaa—the first male guest on the podcast—for a profound discussion on healing, embodiment, and the power of taking the time to “Be”. Together, they explore the deep-rooted impact of generational trauma, the necessity of somatic healing, and why true transformation happens in the body , not just the mind. 💡 Today You’l...

In this vulnerable and reflective episode, Kelley shares a truth many high-achieving Black women can relate to: she’s been hiding —and it’s been holding her back. She introduces the concept of the visibility wound , unpacks the connection between undergiving and burnout, and shares what’s changing on the podcast to support your healing in real-time. 💡 Today You'll Learn: Why the visibility wo...

Relationships should be a place of rest—but what if they often feel like the opposite? In this episode of Black Girl Burnout , host Kelley Bonner dives deeper into the spirit of annihilation —a concept introduced by Resmaa Menakem —to explore how inherited trauma fuels conflict in Black relationships. She unpacks how historical wounds manifest in our interactions today and why choosing rest is a r...

Relationships should be a place of safety—but what if they often feel like the opposite? In this episode of Black Girl Burnout , we explore what Resmaa Menakem calls annihilation energy —the deep, destructive force that lives in our bodies and relationships due to inherited trauma. We unpack how Black Men and Women engage with each other, the unspoken tensions that shape our connections, and why h...

In this episode of Black Girl Burnout , host Kelley Bonner is getting real about reciprocity —what it means, how we often block it, and why it’s time to shift our mindset. Too often, we take from the spaces that pour into us—our friendships, our communities, and even the creators and entrepreneurs who inspire us—without giving back. This conversation isn’t about guilt; it’s about unlearning old ha...

Lately, life has felt heavy —but what if that weight isn’t just yours? In this episode of Black Girl Burnout , we explore what Resmaa Menakem calls the squeeze —the collective pressure Black women are feeling in this moment. We unpack how history, trauma, and societal expectations create an overwhelming demand to push through , even when our bodies and spirits are calling us to pause . But, here’s...

In this episode of the Black Girl Burnout Podcast, host Kelley Bonner welcomes the first male guest, Resmaa Menakem, a renowned therapist and trauma specialist. They discuss the vital topic of rest and its significance for Black women. Resmaa offers insights into racialized trauma, cultural dynamics, and how rest can be a revolutionary act for Black women. The conversation highlights the importanc...

In this episode of the Black Girl Burnout podcast, host Kelley Bonner discusses the importance of evaluating relationships based on how they make you feel — whether they bring rest and nourishment or leave you feeling drained and exhausted. The episode encourages listeners to set boundaries, adjust dynamics, and even eliminate toxic relationships in order to cultivate connections that provide ease...

In this episode of the Black Girl Burnout Podcast, host Kelley Bonner discusses the importance of setting boundaries in our relationships without experiencing burnout. Kelley explores why boundaries can feel challenging, the common indicators that boundaries are not effectively set, and how to create healthy and sustainable boundaries. She emphasizes the need for boundaries to be clear, simple, fi...

In this episode of the Black Girl Burnout podcast, host Kelley Bonner discusses the importance of doing less in love to cultivate deeper, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships. The BGB podcast focuses on recognizing the signs of overperformance in relationships, including feelings of exhaustion, anxiety, resentment, and fear. Kelley shares her personal journey and provides tips on how to do...

In this episode of the Black Girl Burnout podcast, host Kelley Bonner discusses the importance of bringing more softness into relationships and reframing softness as a strength rather than a liability. She dismantles the myth of the 'strong Black woman,' urging listeners to embrace vulnerability, intimacy, and tenderness to create deeper, more fulfilling connections. Kelley shares her pers...

In this episode of the Black Girl Burnout Podcast, host Kelley Bonner discusses the importance of releasing the sense of urgency in our relationships. She argues that urgency, whether in dating, family dynamics, or friendships, leads to stress, pressure, and emotional exhaustion. Kelley details the negative effects of urgency and promotes a slower, more peaceful approach to love. More, more, and s...

In this episode of the Black Girl Burnout podcast, Kelley introduces a new monthly theme centered on the concept of 'Restful Love’. She challenges traditional notions that equate love with struggle, particularly for Black women, and proposes reframing love as a source of rest and emotional safety. Kelley discusses the prevalence of ‘struggle love’ in the media and social culture as she points...

In this episode of the Black Girl Burnout Podcast, host Kelley Bonner welcomes listeners to a space designed for black women to prioritize their needs and find rest. She reflects on the month's theme of healing through rest, emphasizing the importance of tenderness and consideration. Kelley discusses the societal pressures on black women to remain tough and cloaked in armour, while advocating...

In this episode of the Black Girl Burnout podcast, host Kelley Bonner discusses the importance of opting into rest for the spirit and giving oneself permission to stop carrying the emotional burdens of others. She emphasizes the invisible nature of emotional exhaustion, particularly for Black women who are often expected to be emotional caregivers. Kelley addresses the harmful effects of over-givi...

In this episode of the Black Girl Burnout podcast, host Kelley Bonner discusses the importance of opting out of the grind and prioritizing a rest-centered life. She touches on themes such as redefining success, creating daily rhythms of rest, and overcoming guilt associated with resting. More, more, and still more is within your reach in 2025. Tune in today and prepare yourself to engage in realis...

In this episode of the Black Girl Burnout podcast, Kelley discusses how to transition from restlessness to deep, restorative rest. She emphasizes the importance of different types of rest beyond sleep and explores the seven types of rest: physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, social, sensory, and creative. Kelley shares personal insights about her struggles with rest and offers practical tips fo...