Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery

Send us Fan Mail Our unwanted behaviors don’t come from nowhere. In this episode, Sean and Dayne unpack how childhood wounds, emotional neglect, abuse, and unmet needs lay the groundwork for compulsive sexual behavior and addiction. We explore how triggers are often echoes of unhealed pain—and why healing doesn’t mean living in the past, but learning not to be controlled by it. This is a raw and h...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Sean and Dayne go deeper into a hard but necessary truth: there’s no such thing as “safe” porn—because porn isn’t just videos or websites. For those in recovery, porn includes anything that fuels sexual fantasy, lust, or escapism. Whether it's a “quick scroll,” a steamy scene, or a moment of mental indulgence, it all weakens the integrity we're fighting...

Send us Fan Mail In this raw and honest episode, Sean is joined by guest co-host John to dive deep into the war raging inside the addicted brain — a war fueled by hijacked dopamine pathways. Drawing from Dopamine Nation and their own brutal recovery journeys, they expose how the endless chase for easy pleasure leaves men empty, numb, and enslaved. This is a wake-up call for anyone stuck in the cyc...

Send us Fan Mail  In this raw and emotionally charged episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness , Sean and Dayne dive deep into the dark spiral of the novelty effect of porn —how the pursuit of something “new” quickly becomes a trap. With brutal honesty, Sean shares how his addiction pushed him further into genres he never imagined, chasing a dopamine high that was never enough. What started as “curiosi...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness , Sean and Dayne dive deep into a tough but crucial question: Does an addict have integrity? Joined by their accountability brother Gaines, they wrestle with the true meaning of integrity—how it shaped their lives, how addiction distorted it, and the painful reality of recognizing where they fell short. They explore the emotional weight...

Send us Fan Mail In this thought-provoking episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness , co-hosts Sean and Dayne, along with their accountability brother John, dive deep into the raw and complex narrative of Beautiful Boy — the gripping story of addiction and family struggle captured in the acclaimed book and film. Together, they explore the parallels between Nick’s journey and their own experiences with...

Send us Fan Mail In this thought-provoking episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness , cohosts Dayne and Sean dive into the complex question: Is addiction a simple choice? The two engage in a heartfelt debate, unpacking how this question has shaped their own recovery journeys. Dayne wrestles with the tension between not wanting to victimize his struggles while also acknowledging how powerless he has fel...

Send us Fan Mail In this thought-provoking episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness , Sean and Dayne go head-to-head in a deep and honest debate: Should sobriety define who you are? Or is it just a part of your journey—not your identity? Some say sobriety is the foundation of healing, the proof of real change. Others argue that making it your identity can be a dangerous trap—what happens when you relap...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness , Sean and Dayne take a deep dive into Under the Bridge by Red Hot Chili Peppers, exploring how its haunting lyrics resonate with their journeys of recovery from sexual and compulsive behavior addiction. "Sometimes I feel like I don’t have a partner, sometimes I feel like my only friend is the city I live in, the city of angels...&q...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness , Sean and Dayne dive deep into James Clear's bestselling book Atomic Habits —but not your typical book review. They don't just talk about the four key laws of habit formation, they share real-life examples from their own journeys of recovery and how these strategies have impacted their sobriety and healing. While Atomic Habits...

Send us Fan Mail In this heartfelt episode, licensed marriage and family therapist Andrew Engstrom addresses vital questions provided by a supportive recovery community, focusing on rebuilding love, trust, and intimacy in marriages affected by addiction. The conversation begins with a prayer, asking for blessings on marriages and encouraging hearts to open to recovery and freedom. With Andrew&apos...

Send us Fan Mail After over 300 days of sobriety, Sean and Dayne reflect on the emotional challenges they still face. While their addiction recovery has brought progress, the journey is far from over. In this episode, they explore how their health and healing are interconnected and why the more they heal, the more they uncover areas that still need attention. What's Still Bothering Us After 3...

Send us Fan Mail If you've been struggling with addiction for as long as we have, you've likely experienced countless attempts to start fresh. We all remember those moments—birthdays, Christmases, and New Year's Eves—when we promised ourselves that this would be the time we turned things around. The day after a relapse, motivated by the hope of a fresh start, we dive in once again,...

Send us Fan Mail The holiday season can be especially tough for those in recovery, often bringing up feelings of loneliness, stress, and the pressure of unrealistic expectations. With love, family, and tradition at the forefront of every movie, song, and gathering, how do we stay sober and true to ourselves? In this episode, we hear from two guests with different lengths of sobriety: one early in...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we dive into the topic of complacency in the sobriety journey. Is complacency about: Getting too comfortable in your recovery? Overestimating your control over your addiction? Losing touch with the struggles of the past? Join three men as they share their personal experiences navigating addiction recovery. Together, we explore how complacency has shown up in their...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we dive into the mental complexity of sobriety with two guests sharing their recovery journeys. We explore the subtle yet powerful gaps and loopholes that can threaten long-term sobriety—how our brains often battle between setting boundaries and subconsciously searching for ways to bypass them. This conversation sheds light on the challenges of recognizing these p...

Send us Fan Mail Take a moment to revisit a powerful question from Episode 17, where a panel of men in recovery share what sobriety truly means to them. This re-listen offers an inspiring opportunity to reflect on their stories and energy—giving you a chance to consider your own motivations and drivers for sobriety in your life.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: sexualbrokennesspo...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we tackle the complex question: Is masturbation okay? Focusing on its impact on dopamine levels, we explore how the act of masturbation can influence the brain's reward system, especially for those in recovery from porn addiction. Can frequent masturbation derail sobriety, or is it a harmless release? We also debate whether masturbation itself can become addi...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we explore the hidden dangers of pornography with LCSW Aaron Brakhaneh (www.compassCC.org, www.betterhelp.com). Together, we dive into the social, psychological, and mental health impacts of porn addiction. From its effects on relationships to its role in shaping unrealistic expectations, we examine how pornography can be detrimental to emotional well-being and pe...

Send us Fan Mail Follow us on Twitter: beyondbrokeness Email us: sexualbrokennesspodcast@gmail.com In this unique and deeply personal episode, we bring together 11 men in recovery from pornography and other sexual compulsive behaviors for an insightful panel discussion. These individuals share their diverse experiences, emotional journeys, and the lessons they've learned along the way, offeri...

Send us Fan Mail - Why do we watch porn?  - What is it doing, "solving", masking for us? - Why do I trick myself to watch porn"? - Why do I "need" it? - Why do I watch it even though I am grossed out by my behavior? Happy No Porn November! Let's celebrate this month while supporting each other to stay away from porn and its destructive force for 30 days and feel the p...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to today’s episode of BSB, where we explore the transformative journeys of those in recovery. In this inspiring installment, we sit down with a remarkable guest who is 95 days sober—a milestone that marks a significant turning point in his life. He bravely shares his powerful story of overcoming pain, embracing rigorous honesty, and discovering the strength within himself....

Send us Fan Mail In this emotional episode, we explore the delicate interplay between pride and confidence as individuals navigate their sobriety journeys. Join us as we discuss the importance of celebrating milestones without tipping into complacency, and how self-confidence can empower recovery while maintaining humility.  Whether you're in recovery or supporting someone who is, this episod...

Send us Fan Mail  We’re diving into the fascinating intersection of brain evolution and neuroplasticity, particularly in the context of addiction recovery. Join us for an in depth discussion with LCSW Aaron Brakhane as we explore how our brains adapt and change over time, reshaping pathways and responses in the wake of addiction. We’ll discuss the science behind neuroplasticity, share inspiring st...

Send us Fan Mail This episode is 100% dedicated to Nathaniel and everybody sharing his strength and courage to fight porn addiction and all the pain and misery that comes with it.  In this episode, we’re joined by a courageous accountability brother on his day 1 of sobriety who shares his insights on setting boundaries. We delve into what has and hasn’t worked for the three of us and include feedb...