Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery

Send us Fan Mail Why do so many of us struggle to stay present? In recovery, we often discover that pornography was not the problem itself but an attempted solution to loneliness, fear, shame, or uncertainty. In this conversation, Sean, Dayne, and Charlie discuss grounding as more than a technique—it is a practice of returning to reality with clarity, courage, and connection. Because freedom may n...

Send us Fan Mail In this solo episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean reflects on Jordan Peterson’s Rule #2: “Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.” Why is it that many of us naturally know how to care for the people we love — slowing down for them, supporting them, protecting them, encouraging rest, accountability, healing, and growth — yet often fail to offer even basic...

Send us Fan Mail  Everyone says “drop the shame.” But what if that’s not how it works?  In this episode, we break down what shame actually looks like in real life—low energy, avoidance, distraction, depression—and why you can’t just get rid of it. We talk about what actually reduces shame, who you should (and shouldn’t) open up to, and how honesty is what starts to change things.  Support the show...

Send us Fan Mail Recovery isn’t just about quitting—it’s about becoming. In this group conversation, we talk honestly about identity: who we say we want to be, where our actions don’t line up, and what’s actually working (and not working) in real life.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: sexualbrokennesspodcast@gmail.com

Send us Fan Mail Loneliness sucks, whether you’re in addiction or in recovery. In this episode, we talk about how loneliness shows up in both, why it often gets worse before it gets better, and how isolation can quietly pull us back into old patterns. We also get real about what actually helps - connection, honesty, and learning to sit with ourselves without running.  Support the show Twitter: @be...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we open up an honest and difficult conversation about how addiction can impact relationships, sometimes leading to separation or divorce. We don’t take sides or offer simple answers, because every situation is different. Instead, we focus on raising awareness about the real emotional weight addiction can carry, for individuals, partners, and families. We talk abou...

Send us Fan Mail Recovery is not about eliminating risk. It is about choosing the right ones. In this episode, we explore redemptive risks, the intentional decisions that move us toward honesty, freedom, and growth. Some of these risks look like saying yes, to connection, vulnerability, rest, or help. Others look like saying a difficult no, to people, patterns, or opportunities that quietly threat...

Send us Fan Mail New Year's resolutions promise change, but for many in addiction recovery, they often reinforce fear and a sense of failure. In this episode, we talk about why starting over every January doesn't work, and what does. Instead of chasing big resolutions, we focus on strengthening the routines that already support recovery. This is a practical, hopeful conversation about bu...

Send us Fan Mail  The holidays can be a difficult time for many people in recovery. In this solo episode, Sean speaks openly about the emotional weight, sadness, and mental health challenges that can surface during the holiday season—especially for those recovering from sexual compulsive behaviors. Drawing from my own experience, I explore why relapse risk and depression often increase this time o...

Send us Fan Mail Over a simple cup of coffee, Sean sits down with Dayne, Greg, and John for an honest, unfiltered conversation about courage, sacrifice, and the stories men tell themselves. Most men will say—without hesitation—that they would die for their family or take a bullet for the people they love. But when the question shifts to something quieter and far less dramatic— giving up porn or co...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Dayne and Sean sit down with Josh, whose journey through questions of identity, childhood trauma, and emotional struggle reflects the deep complexity many of us carry. Josh shares how he navigated pain, confusion, and shame while growing into a devoted husband and father, and what resilience has looked like at every stage of his healing. This conversation is an ho...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Sean and Dayne open with a few new recovery resources for listeners, then dive into one of the most gut-punching questions we’ve ever asked ourselves: Would we be okay with our daughters dating a porn addict? What starts as a hypothetical quickly becomes a raw conversation about fear, responsibility, empathy, and the standards we hold for ourselves as men in recov...

Send us Fan Mail  In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness , Sean and Dayne sit down with Connor to talk openly about pain—how it shapes addiction, how addiction fuels pain, and the vicious cycle between the two. Together, they explore why so many men struggle to acknowledge emotional pain, how cultural expectations play a role, and why unspoken wounds often lead to deeper struggles with addict...

Send us Fan Mail In this Beyond Sexual Brokenness episode, we sit down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith to talk about healing relationships at home after addiction and betrayal. Drawing from their own recovery and years of research and clinical work, they walk us through The Intimacy Pyramid—honesty, safety, trust, vulnerability, intimacy—and share simple, practical steps couples can start today....

Send us Fan Mail  In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness , Sean and Dayne sit down with Gaines for an honest update on his recovery journey. Together they explore one of the most overlooked drivers of porn and masturbation addiction—the objectification of women. This isn’t just a conversation about why objectifying women is wrong; it’s a candid debate about why changing how we view women is e...

Send us Fan Mail In this foundational episode of our Fundamental Series , we explore what it really means to live in the Recovery Zone —a space defined not just by abstinence, but by the integration of three essential pillars: boundaries, self-care, and sobriety . These aren’t standalone ideas—they’re interconnected forces that support and reinforce one another. When one is missing, the whole syst...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Sean and Dayne sit down with their friend Tyler, a fellow brother in recovery, to unpack a familiar but powerful story—one that began in early adolescence with porn and masturbation, and followed him into adulthood, deeply affecting his relationships. Tyler opens up about a season of long-term sobriety, the devastating fall that followed, and the pain and disorien...

Send us Fan Mail  In this episode, Sean and Dayne unpack a hard but honest question: Are we actually progressing in recovery—or have we just upgraded our relapse cycle? We take a raw look at the pattern we often see in recovery communities: relapse, confession, repeat. The timeline may stretch, the guilt may lessen, and we may get better at sharing—but is that real healing? Or have we simply learn...

Send us Fan Mail In moments of stress, temptation, or emotional overwhelm, grounding your body is one of the simplest ways to return to clarity and calm. This short, guided 4-7-8 breathing exercise is designed to help you pause, reset, and reconnect — wherever you are in your recovery journey. Just five minutes. No pressure. Just presence. Breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 7, exhale for 8… and gi...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we unpack the difference between sex and true intimacy — a line that's been increasingly blurred, especially in the age of pornography and compulsive masturbation. These habits create a counterfeit version of intimacy: one that offers physical release without emotional connection, control without vulnerability. We ask the tough questions: Is sex the same as i...

Send us Fan Mail  In this episode, John and I explore the idea of rescuing beauty inspired by John Eldredge’s Wild at Heart —but we take it further. We talk about how beauty isn’t just found in a woman or romance but in the simple moments of life we often overlook. As we walk the road of recovery from sexual addiction, and our dopamine levels begin to reset, we start to see the world with fresh ey...

Send us Fan Mail In this follow-up conversation with two college students courageously battling porn and sexual addiction, we explore the real-life impact of their struggle on friendships, dating, and daily routines. They open up about how setting boundaries—like stepping away from social media, limiting video games, and accepting parental controls—has reshaped their social life and identity in co...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we explore Wild at Heart by John Eldredge and its powerful vision of masculinity—that every man longs for a battle to fight , an adventure to live , and a beauty to rescue . These themes resonate deeply with the recovery journey, where men are called to reclaim their strength, confront their past, and fight for lasting transformation. We’re also joined by Greg, wh...

Send us Fan Mail In this two-part conversation, Sean sits down with Joe and JT — two young men in recovery — to unpack the unique challenges of addiction in the college years. From the pressures of campus life to the complexities of dating, they explore what it means to pursue sexual integrity in a culture pushing the opposite. But this isn’t just a conversation for college students — it’s a wake-...

Send us Fan Mail  In this episode, Sean is joined by John to dive into one of the most essential—and difficult—aspects of recovery: learning to give and receive the truth. We explore what real accountability looks like, how to build relationships where truth can be spoken with love and received with humility, and why truth is not just a correction, but a catalyst for change. Drawing from our own e...