Betrayal Recovery Radio: The Official Podcast of APSATS

The use of polygraphs in sexual addiction recovery has been a long-debated subject, but one with increasing use by many clinicians and coaches. Many disclosure processes now take advantage of polygraph technology as a tool to increase effectiveness. In this conversation with polygraph examiner Stephen Cabler, Dr. Jake draws out some basics about how to use polygraphs effectively in the recovery pr...

A sadly common experience of betrayed partners is finding additional trauma rather than support when they go to leaders of their faith communities. Though they often mean well, religious leaders sometimes end up furthering the damage done to coming to them in crisis after the discovery. Betrayed partners need to understand the dynamics of spiritual trauma in order to process and heal from the harm...

With 175 episodes and more than 200,000 listens, Carol Juergensen Sheets started APSATS' Betrayal Recovery Radio podcast and built it into an established and trusted source of information, comfort, hope, and help to individuals and couples suffering from the effects of sex addiction and betrayal trauma. After three years of service, Carol the Coach is stepping down as the show's host, passing the...

No one should do “this” alone..  And with GFY Coaching, is going to describe their mission to ensure you don’t have to. Carol will be interviewing both Gail and Judy who have shifted their vision from establishing and growing our business to what some would call, a grandiose proposition, where we work to reach ALL partners who want and need help overcoming the pain and devastation caused by sexual...

In today's podcast, Carol the Coach reminds partners that they can get to PTG!

Carol the Coach is talking with Mathew and Joanna Raabsmith who work together helping couples and individuals find healing and transformation when sexual betrayal occurs. Today, they will share their own story of healing and restoration from the damage of addiction and betrayal in their marriage. They seek to use their training and experience to empower other couples to find healing and wholeness...

During phase two of APSATS trauma model, the SA, and often times the partner herself may ask “Why can’t I/she get over it” or “why are we stuck and not moving forward”? When working with couples it is essential that the SA learn As much information as he can about betrayal trauma. And part of that information is not only about the timing and the patience that the SA needs to have but also how he n...

Carol the Coach is interviewing Bonny Burns and her mission is to help couples re-engage in sexual intimacy after sexual addiction. It is easy for couples to feel defeated. Usually couples experience sexuality at different levels, Listen as Bonny gives some tips to restore the trust and communication that a couple needs to build safety.

Carol the Coach is announcing her new model that she is teaching clinicians and coaches to Help Them Heal. ERCEM teaches the addict how to help them heal.

One of the greatest casualties to sexual addiction is when a partner has to deal with triggers. Dorit Reichental  has developed a Trigger Busters technique that sex addicts can use with their partners to assist in managing the triggers. Listen as she and Carol the Coach dialogue about how a husband can be the support she needs to quiet the triggers!

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dan and Angie Andrew who want the community to understand the difference between sobriety and true recovery. They believe that the coupleship with thrive when both people do their work and support each other's recovery. They will discuss the tools for recovery  that keep the lines of communication open and promote good self care.

Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing James Annear of Core Relationship Recovery who has researched the attachment styles of betrayed partners and has found extreme wounding that effects deep trust and intimacy. Today, he will be talking about the 4 attachment styles and how they are effected when "heart wounding" occurs.

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dan Drake and Janice Caudill on their new book, Full Disclosure: How To Share The Truth After Sexual Betrayal.  They recognize that doing a full disclosure can be both daunting and difficult, so they will be talking about their step by step approach they have created in their new workbooks. They have participated in hundreds of disclosures and have years of exp...

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Marie Kriebs an expert in intimacy disorders, partner betrayal and vulnerability. As an APSATS trained therapist, she believes it is important to educate betrayed partners about healthy intimacy and the importance of personal growth and self awareness. She will be sharing some of the myths about vulnerability and helping our listeners to identify how and when t...

Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Catherine Etherington who is a part of the Naked Truth Project about some new programing that is coming out that will help you and the church know how to support addicts, partners and families all over the world! They have set up a P Word Conference to stream critical information to help set up programming to keep our communities safe. This conference will have...

Sex addicts who knowingly have sex with their spouses while having unprotected sex with others are violating their spouses by undermining her self-determination over her body.  When the partner of the SA has no idea she's been "having sex" with her spouse's sex workers, a crime has been committed. Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Alex Katehakis, Ph. D, Clinical Director of Center for Healthy S...

Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Laura Jenkins and Sherri Payne, who have supported the APSATS team to help women who are hurting and alone. They would like to share their story of the betrayal they experienced in their marriages over many years, how Ithey  said “no more”, and overcame their fears to rebuild a life that was shattered. You may have experienced this, or know a woman close to y...

Partner betrayal is devestating and you need the skills to get through it. Listen as Carol the Coach gives you tips on how to work through the pain! Today, Joanna Raabsmith is going to be talking about how she empowerw partners as their spouses struggle with sex addiction, infedelity and betrayal. When partners find out about the discovery, they typically feel disempowered and the imbalance can ma...

Grief is a step that many many betrayed partners miss in the aftermath of Discovery day. However, it's vital in the healing process. It is in the 2nd phase of the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model. It matters. Today, Lyschel Burket is going to talk about why grief is so important to the mind, body and spirit and how to effectively work through it to get to restoration of self.

Today, Carol the Coach is talking with trauma specialist Dr. Diane Hovey who believes that after the disclosures, the endless questions, river of tears, and tsunami of shame, the pain remains. The journey to uncover the roots of what went wrong fades in and out of the mists of  reality. Some resign. Others encounter a shift in perspective that no longer allows them to continue in the same manner....

Today, Carol the Coach and Dr. Jake Porter will be talking about the Empathy Certification that is teaching Clinicians and Coaches how to encorporate empathy skills in early couples recovery work. ERCEM (Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model), is a premier relational training and certification that navigates professionals how to work through sexual addiction and partner betrayal from the APSATS mod...

When you are betrayed by someone you trust, your whole world is turned upside down.  Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is going to discuss the devastating impact betrayal has on every part of your person and how to survive one day at a time.  She will share how broken trust can make you question your beliefs about your spouse, friends, yourself, your life, and God, and will help you see how you can learn to...

Karen and John Rellos will be sharing a community they are building for couples who are recovering from sex addiction and partner betrayal. They recognize the need for couples to have a safe community to "walk beside" other couples on this very bumpy messy road of healing. They want to provide a membership that fosters ongoing support in a safe private community with other couples who have been im...

Carol the Coach interviews Michelle whose husband was extorted for 50K and Michelle shares how she is coping and struggling with his choices.

Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing a recovery coach who has created a unique program for  betrayed wives. He explains that after a few years in The Silent Addiction as a sex addiction recovery coach, and also working as a workshp counselor for Be Broken and their Gateway to Freedom Weekend Workships for sex addicts, my heart has been burdened by the brokenness of the betrayed spouse. As a...