Behind the Paddle

Send us Fan Mail What if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence. Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth w...

Send us Fan Mail In The Rage Before the Storm: Living with PMDD , Porcelain Victoria delves into the raw, cyclical reality of Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder a condition that turns the body’s natural rhythm into emotional warfare. Blending medical insight, feminist critique, and intimate storytelling, this four-hour episode explores the science, stigma, and survival behind PMDD. From hormonal sens...

Send us Fan Mail What if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence. Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth w...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when humans shed language, drop to all fours, and find freedom in a collar? In this deep-dive Petplay episode of Behind the Paddle , host Porcelain Victoria explores the culture, psychology, and practicalities of pet/handler dynamics from ancient animal rites to modern pup hoods and kitten ears. You’ll hear: What petplay is (and isn’t): clear consent lines, why it’s n...

Send us Fan Mail What if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence. Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth w...

Send us Fan Mail  Behindthepaddle podcast takes listeners inside one of the most polarizing debates in feminist and political history: the Nordic Model versus decriminalisation of sex work. With personal testimony, global case studies, and voices from sex-worker–led groups like SWARM, Scot-PEP, and Umbrella Lane, this episode dismantles myths, exposes the harms of Ash Regan’s proposed “End Demand”...

Send us Fan Mail What if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence. Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth w...

Send us Fan Mail  From diner booths to dungeon floors, “Burgers and Ballgags: Inside Munches and Play Parties in the BDSM World” explores the social and sexual spaces where kink comes alive. Porcelain Victoria guides you through the history, the people, and the rules that shape these gatherings from the casual comfort of a munch to the charged intensity of a play party. This is not porn, not fanta...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to Behindthepaddle. I’m Porcelain Victoria, and this episode… is a tender one. Today, we’re stepping into the bedroom but not just for fun. We’re pulling open the drawer of secrets. Hidden fetishes. Quiet urges. And those deeply human moments when a husband or partner finally tells the truth… to the person they love most. We’re talking about the difference between being ho...

Send us Fan Mail What if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence. Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth w...

Send us Fan Mail Behindthepaddle Podcast invites you inside one of the most tender, misunderstood, and intimate corners of the BDSM world: Caregiver/little dynamics . We explore the acronyms (DDLG, CGL, MDLB, Littles, Middles, Brats), the psychology of regression and attachment , the rituals of rules and punishments, and the playful, sometimes erotic, worlds of diapers, pacis, and discipline. We d...

Send us Fan Mail What if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence. Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth w...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I dive into one of the questions I hear all the time: what’s the difference between a kink and a fetish? These two words get thrown around a lot, but they aren’t the same thing and understanding the difference can change how we see ourselves and our sex lives. I share my own experience as someone who needs BDSM in my life to feel whole and authentic, but who can s...

Send us Fan Mail Hello welcome to Behindthepaddle podcast, what happens when your brain constantly pulls you in opposite directions? When one part craves structure while another needs novelty, or when one side thrives on patterns while another demands constant stimulation? This fascinating tension sits at the heart of Ellie Middletons transformative book "How to Be You," which we explore...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to Behind the Paddle podcast. Today we are speaking about BDSM not as a hobby, not as a kink to be giggled at behind closed doors, and not as a fleeting curiosity but as a world. A world of power, of discipline, of trust. A world of deeply human longing and deeply consensual depravity. A world some of us live in every single day. Whether you’re new to this world or have br...

Send us Fan Mail Hello welcome to Behindthepaddle podcast, what happens when your brain constantly pulls you in opposite directions? When one part craves structure while another needs novelty, or when one side thrives on patterns while another demands constant stimulation? This fascinating tension sits at the heart of Ellie Middletons transformative book "How to Be You," which we explore...

Send us Fan Mail Hello and welcome back to Behind the paddle podcast in todays episode I share my deeply personal journey into sex work, from discovering sexuality through late-night TV at 12 to performing webcam shows as a teen and entering in-person work at 17. My story highlights how lack of proper sex education and support made me vulnerable. Without guidance, I turned to virtual spaces like S...

Send us Fan Mail Join Porcelain Victoria in this episode of Behind the Paddle Podcast as she reads and discusses pages 215-221 of Revolting Prostitutes , a groundbreaking work that challenges societal views on sex work. Delve into the critical themes of agency, labor, and the intersections of identity and exploitation. In this intimate reading, Porcelain brings her unique perspective to the text,...

Send us Fan Mail In this raw and urgent episode of Behindthepaddle, host Porcelain Victoria breaks her silence after being charged under Scotland’s archaic brothel-keeping laws—laws that criminalize sex workers for simply trying to work together in safety. Porcelain shares her personal story of the raid, the trauma of being treated like a criminal for surviving, and the systemic violence embedded...

Send us Fan Mail Join Porcelain Victoria in this episode of Behind the Paddle Podcast as she reads and discusses pages 204-215 of Revolting Prostitutes , a groundbreaking work that challenges societal views on sex work. Delve into the critical themes of agency, labor, and the intersections of identity and exploitation. In this intimate reading, Porcelain brings her unique perspective to the text,...

Send us Fan Mail One knock on the door changed everything. Twenty police officers with a battering ram stood ready to break down my door – all because I, a dominatrix, had created a safe workspace with security measures and safety equipment. Safety shouldn't be criminal. Yet here in the UK, sex workers face an impossible choice: work alone and risk violence, or work together and risk arrest....

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to Behindthepaddle podcast with me, Porcelain Victoria. In this deeply personal and richly detailed episode, we unravel the sacred, often overlooked practice of aftercare in BDSM. Beyond cuddles and comfort, aftercare is a neurological, emotional, and ethical process—an act of reverence for the intensity we co-create. From the altered states of subspace and Domspace to the...

Send us Fan Mail Join Porcelain Victoria in this episode of Behind the Paddle Podcast as she reads and discusses pages 193-203 of Revolting Prostitutes , a groundbreaking work that challenges societal views on sex work. Delve into the critical themes of agency, labor, and the intersections of identity and exploitation. In this intimate reading, Porcelain brings her unique perspective to the text,...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to BehindthePaddle Podcast in today’s episode we will be speaking to the amazing Miss Fay Morgan.  Rope bondage transcends the physical act of tying knots, creating a profound psychological landscape where vulnerability, surrender, and healing intertwine. In this second installment of our rope series, guest expert Faye Morgan takes us deeper into the emotional terrain of s...

Send us Fan Mail Join Porcelain Victoria in this episode of Behind the Paddle Podcast as she reads and discusses pages 182-192 of Revolting Prostitutes , a groundbreaking work that challenges societal views on sex work. Delve into the critical themes of agency, labor, and the intersections of identity and exploitation. In this intimate reading, Porcelain brings her unique perspective to the text,...