Been There Got Out Podcast

BTGO welcomes Washington state hypnotherapist Annie Alexander (Instagram: @northwesthypnosis) who speaks about how hypnosis can help eliminate triggers, combat gaslighting, and create a buffer to neutralize trauma, even if you are still experiencing it. She also gets into a number of the side benefits people experience from getting those "cats" out of their head. Our book, “Been There Go...

BTGO welcomes NJ CPA Paul Mendelsohn (Instagram: @paulmendelsohn_cpa) who discusses red flags to watch for with an accountant during the divorce process, how you can handle the IRS if your ex files false information on tax returns, and a number of resources you can use to help you get through this! Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Disc...

BTGO welcomes Canadian Alex Shaw (Instagram: @alexandria_m_c), who shares her incredible story of being trafficked and living with a gang (which saved her life!) to working with law enforcement and other services so that what happened to her won't happen to others. She also gets into what family members and friends can do to actually help loved ones in dangerous relationships. Thanks so much...

BTGO welcomes author, musician, educator, and presence advocate, Gloria Williams (Instagram: @iamgloriawilliams), who discusses how to help kids build confidence through songwriting, the significance of building safe spaces and community, and tips on how to help your child conquer fear. Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (...

BTGO welcomes Minnesota family lawyer Cathy Jones (Instagram: @cat.jones.90), who talks about the important stuff you need to know to properly prepare for divorce, including some things to think about if you move out of the house, exactly why to be very careful with posting anything on social media (again!), and what to know about removing items from your home, both before and after a divorce is f...

BTGO welcomes back our friend and NY family lawyer and domestic violence attorney (as well as TikTok superstar), Stephanie (Instagram @steph_ny_law), who discusses what it really takes for a court to enforce orders, how to prepare before trying to get a restraining order, and why getting specific language in your custody order is so important. Need help with your own situation? Go to our website B...

BTGO welcomes educator and child relationship expert Clarissa Constantine from Parent T(w)een Connection (Instagram @parentweenconnection), who speaks in depth about the foundations of connection to use to ensure that you are your child's safe space, what to do during emotional explosions, and why it's so important to give yourself the space to be human. Need help with your own situation...

BTGO welcomes forensic accountant and investigator Tracy Coenen (Instagram @divorcemoneyguide), who discusses how to tell if there's financial fraud in your marriage, why it's so important to do a cost/benefit analysis before hiring a forensic expert, and how to save yourself money during the discovery process. Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and...

BTGO welcomes back Canadian author, survivor, trauma expert, therapist, and TikTok superstar Marnie Grundman (Instagram @marniegrundman), who talks about the awful and unfortunately common situation of your toxic ex aligning with your abusive parents during a court battle, how our childhood trauma reappears through triggers during legal abuse, and how we can learn to trust ourselves in the midst o...

BTGO welcomes back therapist, author, narcissistic abuse expert, and our good friend Chelsey Brooke Cole (Instagram @chelseybrookecole), who talks about the way the narcissist's voice gets into your head, how you slowly lose yourself, and most importantly, how to get yourself back after ending the relationship! Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign...

BTGO welcomes Michigan family lawyer and former investigator JayAttorney (Instagram @tipsdivorceattorney), who talks about financial fraud and shares her list of incredible ways to find your ex's HIDDEN ASSETS and protect yourself from financial abuse during your divorce. Need help with your own situation? Go to our website, BeenThereGotOut.com, and sign up for a free discovery call, or check...

BTGO welcomes NY psychologist, evaluator, and risk assessment expert Dr. Liz Stilwell (Instagram @drstilwell), who talks about the different types of evaluators used for custody, how a background in psychology may be helpful, and how and why professionals realistically handle claims of parental alienation. The controversial topic of reunification therapy and reunification camps is part of this pro...

BTGO welcomes California family lawyer Erin Levine (Instagram: @hellodivorce), who talks about some red flags that indicate a high-conflict divorce and ways to lower the conflict during the process, including some answers to questions from our live audience. Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on t...

In this episode, BTGO welcomes back our good friend, Dawn Brauer (Instagram @securebabies), an expert on child development, who talks about what you can do when your toxic ex is trying to alienate your children and how feeling frazzled is a signal that something needs to be healed, and walks us through her “S.E.C.U.R.E.” acronym by explaining exactly how we can help our kids be as happy and health...

In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome back New Jersey psychologist and custody evaluator Dr. Mark Singer (Instagram @drmarksinger) who speaks about what parental alienation actually means - that it's not a syndrome, but a series of behaviors - ways a parent may be encouraging a child to reject another parent, and what you can do if you are being rejected by your child,...

BTGO welcomes New Jersey custody evaluator, Dr. Mark Singer (Instagram @drmarksinger), who discusses the importance of cultural knowledge and comfort when choosing an evaluator, how to best prepare for the process, and how courts are not meant to raise your children. This is just Part I of the conversation, and Part II will involve how to deal with parental alienation behaviors if one parent is tr...

In this episode, BTGO welcomes California attorney, Dr. Jude Egan (Instagram @jude_should_be_writing), who talks about why the job of children's advocates - like minors' counsels or attorneys for the children, is so tricky; how lowering legal fees benefits both lawyers and clients; some pros and cons of “unbundled services;” and how his own personal loss in court was a big win in expandi...

In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome our friend, fellow coach, and author, Michelle (Instagram @the_pistolwhip_hippie), who talks about some of the unique problems people face when viewing family court and its authority figures as a place for validation, how what looks like punishment might be a positive opportunity, and especially how to help your children cope with a tox...

In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, which gets pretty intense, we welcome our friend Katie (Instagram @kwg19). 20 years after escaping with her children to a women's shelter, she reflects back on getting help where she least expected it, the horror of family court, and the long-term effects of her experience on herself and her children. Remember, if you are struggling in a high...

On this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome retired judge and family lawyer Anthony Bompiani (TikTok @anthonybompiani) for more reality checks and wisdom on how to handle our children being forced to go with a toxic parent, being under the microscope of family court, self-validation, what to ask before hiring an attorney, vexatious litigation, his answer to family court reform, a...

On this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome superstar coach, author, and podcaster Matt Phifer (Instagram @mattphifercoaching), who talks about trauma bonding and its impact on making a separation or divorce much more difficult, why knowing your rights is IMPERATIVE, and why it's essential to cut all ties other than with the kids during the court process. Remember, if you ar...

In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome back our great friend, Dr. Barb Hughson (Instagram @drbarbh), a professional mediator and therapist with a strong background in child psychology, decades of experience, and unrivaled EMPATHY. We talk about how to prepare for mediation, make it as successful as possible when dealing with a high conflict personality, ways to avoid future...

In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome the host of the Slam the Gavel podcast, Maryann Petri. After years of peacefully co-parenting, Maryann suddenly found herself fending off allegations of child abuse by her ex-husband and his new wife (who also worked at the courthouse). The experience caused severe physical, emotional, and financial damage. Forced to go pro se, Maryann...

In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome California Family Law Attorney Brian Pakpour (TikTok @brithefamilyguy), who talks about realistic expectations in divorce agreements with a high-conflict partner, the nitty-gritty details that should be included in parenting plans, and then, for the first time publicly, shares an emotional, personal story from his own life as a child of...

In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome back Steve the Bodyguard (Instagram @protectionfromabuse @thebodyguard.official), who offers a wealth of information about the nature of STALKING, why restraining orders actually are more than just a piece of paper, and the importance of a weapon to protect yourself if you are in an abusive relationship (and what the best option is and...