Becoming Whole

Send us Fan Mail This week we will talk about breaking the allure of temptation. We will unpack it through the pattern that the enemy uses to tempt us. We can look at our sexual experiences and think that it’s just something that’s before us. But it is actually tempting us. It looks so appealing and harmless.  Yet it has this magnetic pull that draws us in. So by talking about the patterns the ene...

Send us Fan Mail This week we will be responding to a question from one our listeners. “How does someone deal with doubts about identity in Christ while struggling with sexual addiction?” There is something about sin in general when it’s habitual and repetitive. When we experience in our bodies that conflict that we do what we don’t want to do, and we keep on doing it. It’s hard to believe that we...

Send us Fan Mail You know, it's just interesting, isn't it? That so many women wrestle with self esteem issues around their bodies. And so many men wrestle with lust. And it seems like the enemy just has a hay day there. Because put those two together and it just seems like a recipe for couples really to struggle. Pornography impacts both husband and wife and it certainly impacts their s...

Send us Fan Mail Is lust a problem for you that you've been trying to overcome? If so, my guess is that at some point in your life, you've made promises to change. You've promised yourself you would change, you've promised God you would change, and you've promised others that you will change. The problem with making promises to change is that making promises to change is a...

Send us Fan Mail Today, I invite you into the healing connection between our wrestling with lust, and the face of Jesus; his visible face.  As a parent, especially a mom, you intimately knew your child when you were pregnant. You carried the child in your womb. Even dads know their kids while they are in the womb.  And then they were born. We saw their face for the first time, and everything chang...

Send us Fan Mail Are you ready to be free? Are you ready for life in the area of sexual integrity? Are you ready for your relationships to be healed, and working the way God intended them? Together we will walk through 8 phases in the journey to sexual wholeness. Through this process, you will know where you are and how to take the next steps. Highlights: Phase 0 – Ground zero In this phase, there...

Send us Fan Mail As the garland and the lights and the holiday specials and the festivities ramp up, where are you? If you’re feeling temptation take over, you’re not alone. There’s a lot more of just about everything during the holidays. Let’s try to recapture what Jesus has given us. Together, we’ll name 5 things that can distract us from Immanuel. And, we’ll unpack 5 ways to recenter our focus...

Send us Fan Mail Is your view of God getting in the way of your pursuit of sexual integrity? God isn’t blocking your healing.  But your view of Him, your assumption about God could be an obstacle standing between you and your freedom. Let’s try to understand the theology working in the background of your heart, that may be limiting your progress. Let’s blaze a trail to Jesus when you need Him most...

Send us Fan Mail Struggling with unwanted habits can feel isolating. Your journey to sexual integrity isn’t a common or easy topic of conversation which can leave you feeling alone. Satan seizes your isolation as a perfect opportunity to tell you you’re different, dirty. This belief stacks a wall between you and your healing. Let’s tear down the wall that says you’re chronically unique so you can...

Send us Fan Mail Pitfalls, betrayal, pride, shame, cycles - While you do the work of becoming whole, these are some of the things that will pull you from your calling. You are made for greatness. And God gave you a vision for what that looks like in Jesus: “We see the original and intended shape of our lives there in Him.” (Romans 8:29 MSG) Keep doing the hard work. You were made for greatness. Do...

Send us Fan Mail Let’s isolate the moment of temptation: Maybe it looks like your fingertips hovering to type in a string of words you know will lead you to that site.  Or maybe it looks like driving home a different route so you find yourself rolling slowly past that street.  Every bit of you pulses with energy in that moment of temptation. The world is encouraging you to say “Yes” to the urge. G...

Send us Fan Mail A jumble of frayed ends - consider the raw, exposed mess of a jumble of frayed ends.  Keep this image in mind as we consider our current cultural belief system.  Josh is about to carefully look at each broken strand of thinking and tie them back into one, whole, intentional, truth.  God has a good, holy, beautiful design for our sexuality.  So, why is sex today a jumble of frayed...

Send us Fan Mail Let’s go beyond reading words about God’s kindness.  If you are wrestling ongoing sexual sin, if you are battling shame, if you are facing past traumas; God is inviting you to experience His kindness.  Right now, what if you could hear Jesus saying to you, “I’m right here and I love you.” (be sure to look in the Homework Section for more questions) Highlights: God is near and He l...

Send us Fan Mail We’re going deeper in Part 2. Paying attention to the symbols and story-lines in your sexual fantasies often point towards a treasure within you. Sound twisted?  Look to the “Homework” section below for key questions to help you untwist your temptation from your truest desires. Let's dive in. Highlights: Your imagination is given to you by God as a creative force. When your b...

Send us Fan Mail Fantasy looks like the scene you work up in your head from time to time. It seems innocent enough.  You may tell yourself the fantasy is just a fleeting thought. But as you add details, you add emotions.  Soon enough, your sexual fantasy works itself from your brain to your body amping those thoughts to feelings.  In this short series, we want to urge you to take fantasy seriously...

Send us Fan Mail Something in your story made pornography enticing. You didn’t just stumble on it. Have you ever wondered what was happening in your life that made porn seem like a safe place to run?  Decades of work in healing from unwanted sexual behaviors lead us to this episode.  You are meant to do this work alone and here’s why. Highlights 5 Reasons You Think You CAN Heal on Your Own: Fear a...

Send us Fan Mail Let’s start with Adam. God went into the garden and asked him a question. Adam pointed to Eve in shame.  Are you pointing fingers when it comes to your lust? Are you pointing to the pop up ad? To the woman at the bar?  As you are trying to break free from lust, consider what it could look like for you to stop accusing others around you and start acknowledging what’s within you.  Y...

Send us Fan Mail Beauty carries a powerful tension. Seeing beauty isn’t enough.  C.S. Lewis writes that “We do not want merely to see beauty, though, God knows, even that is bounty enough. We want something else which can hardly be put into words — to be united with the beauty we see, to pass into it, to receive it into ourselves, to bathe in it, to become part of it.” Beauty leads us to wanting m...

Send us Fan Mail Before even stepping into the deeper waters of whether a filter shows wisdom or weakness; you can’t  ignore the tsunami coming at you. Do I Need a Filter? Listen in as Josh describes the unique age we’re living in as two powerful waves of sexual immorality and digital connectivity crashing on us 24/7. They create floodwaters rushing through your living room, bedroom, locker room,...

Send us Fan Mail If you have a hard time believing God wants to forgive you; again and again - This episode is for you. If you notice you’re trying to raise yourself up, reducing what you’ve done to receive mercy – This episode is for you. Let’s appreciate God’s gift of mercy as a GIFT, freely and generously given, for you right where you are. Highlights: It can feel difficult to separate the ange...

Send us Fan Mail Read this sentence a few times:  Human beings are the crown of creation.  What a glorious declaration! Now consider the fact that sexual sin contorts that truth. A building block to sexual integrity is the understanding and appreciation of the inherent value within you and the people around you.  Recognize God’s ideal representation of Himself is the man you are, is the woman you...

Send us Fan Mail Considering all the tools you’re working with for sexual wholeness- group work, reading, one on one counseling, software filters - how are your eyes? A key component to your becoming whole is how you are seeing other people. Hashtags, movies, social media scrolls and commercials are at war with the important work you’re doing. Open your eyes to acknowledge the battle for your visi...

Send us Fan Mail As your sexual fantasy starts playing out in your head, you might shrug it off as “just my imagination.” But sexual fantasy carries more power than you know. It’s the gateway that leads to everything else you’re battling. So, let’s consider taking a different point of view of your sexual fantasy and taking back some of the power it holds on you. What if you tried more than just pu...

Send us Fan Mail You are created to be loved by God. You are created to be part of a grand, triumphant story. Your sexual sin doesn’t subtract you from the story.  Throughout scripture, we see God choosing and inviting all sorts of characters with all sorts of issues into THE bigger story. Don’t let shame make you believe otherwise. God still wants you. God still chooses you.  Your sexual sin does...

Send us Fan Mail Battling sexual sin does not mean going to war against your body. Your eyes, hands, feet, your genitals are not the enemy. The Enemy is the enemy. Understanding God loves your body is key in your fight to becoming whole. At the most precious point in the creation story, God created the human body. Your body is not the enemy. Highlights: Your body matters immensely to God. When God...